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To "name and shame" her on Facebook.

238 replies

BlueEyesWhiteDragon · 26/03/2022 13:21

I've come home to 2 terrified rabbits sitting in a cage in my garden. The bloody things were surrounded by the billion cats that live here who are fascinated.

I've relocated them to a very old rickety hutch from when we had rabbits a million years ago and chucked them some hay, carrots and water and told the DSs at least 72 times that we are not keeping them whilst they fight over names.

CCTV shows a woman dropping them over the gate. She obviously didn't realise I've got CCTV and I have a nice clear view of her face.

I mean I clearly won't be returning the rabbits but WIBU to stick her on Facebook in a "what the hell were you doing" post?

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Verity226 · 26/03/2022 20:57

I would create a realistic looking fake account in a few days and add her on that, see if she has any pictures of herself set to 'friends only'

I don't think she's going to accept your FR if you add her from your profile, not if she is the one who dumped the poor little things in your garden.

Thank you for being so kind to them, they're very lucky to end up with you and not some god awful person like her

Carrive · 26/03/2022 21:03

Be careful with CCTV - even using it for private residences, particularly if you capture footage of people technically outside the boundary of your property. You’re likely subject to UK GDPR. You may get sued for sharing that personal data on public forums. Please read the ICOs guidance on using CCTV footage which applies to domestic settings.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 26/03/2022 21:09

It sounds like she was moving and couldn't take the rabbits and made a half hearted effort to send to Rescue ( most willl be full and some will request a donation to surrender )

Friend of Friend of Friend did a very speedy bond with his rabbits , they must've been quite rattled on all sides .

Really the end result is they have escaped this rather shitty life and have hopefully got a chance of a new start , either with you or voa a Rescue .

If she had been escaping a violent home situation the Rescue would've done thier upmost to take the bunnies , calling in favours .

TBH , I wouldn't waste any time with her . She doesn;t want them.
Give the video to RSPCA and let them deal with animal abandoment and endangerment .

And Riapia

There are really no words I can write to express how hideous your comment is .

Silversprinkles · 26/03/2022 21:34

@Notanotherwindow

If you're the only house for a while I reckon she found them loose and assumed they must be yours.
Fgs I really wish people would READ. They were in a cage! So were never "loose". Hmm
ChimChimeny · 26/03/2022 21:49

Are you the OP with the horse stalker and/or Ford ranger parked/locked in on your land? I.want to live in your neck of the woods, there's always shenanigans .Grin

HeArInGhandsgirl11 · 26/03/2022 22:04

Yabu- hate the whole name and shame people

NeverDropYourMooncup · 26/03/2022 22:09

@BlueEyesWhiteDragon

Well I've had a response to the Facebook Post but I'm sceptical.

A woman has responded to me to say she thinks they might have been her rabbits. She has no photos though. She rehomed them last week as she has moved to a flat with no garden. She rehomed them to a friend of a friend of a friend who already has rabbits. She's spoken to this friend who has said that they were fighting with his existing rabbits so he had to put them in a temp hutch which they must have escaped from as he came home and they were gone. He did look but no sign so he assumed they been killed/picked up by someone. (This place is 5 miles away) Due to the fighting (one of his badly hurt) he decided it was best to leave them gone. Woman very upset about it. Chap she rehomed to doesn't want them back she doesn't want them to go to him or have them back herself. She doesn't know who dropped them over the gate. Conversation currently at the point where she is saying she doesn't know what to do as rescues full and she can't have them...

I mean they likely to be staying here but it just seems unlikely that they escaped and either hopped 5 miles or someone found them and decided to deliver them 5 miles.... it's also convenient that she tried to be super responsible with the rehoming and the guy just happened to be a complete jerk but yet not enough of a jerk to drop them in someone's garden.

Utter Hraka.

However, you now have two rabbits with suitably inappropriate names. Which isn't that bad an outcome for the bunnies compared to what could have happened to them.

Just watch out for any suspicious looking Herring Gulls whispering to them. If that happens, there could be a whole Fluffle of the buggers turning up over the next week or so.

Gizacluethen · 26/03/2022 22:15

Reply "I've looked at the CCTV and have a photo of the woman who put them over the gate. I'll put it on the fb post, hopefully we find her so we know where she found them." And see what she says. Maybe even send her the picture of herself the mystery woman

Gizacluethen · 26/03/2022 22:17

@HeArInGhandsgirl11

Yabu- hate the whole name and shame people
Even people who abandon animals? OP could have fed them to her fighting dogs for all they know.
Ellmau · 26/03/2022 22:18

Definitely take Choco and Pot to the vet asap to get them sexed, and make sure you aren't going to be the loving owner of another half dozen in a few weeks...

MissMaple82 · 26/03/2022 22:18

It's a dickhead thing to do obviously but no don't put her Facebook, that's just stupid and petty and could be really damaging ti her. You don't know the circumstances, clearly she wasn't coping, probably didn't know what to do. She cared enough nor to kill them.

MissMaple82 · 26/03/2022 22:19

I actually get really annoyed that people want to shame everyone for everything on Facebook. I think its wrong

WeCouldBeSpearows · 26/03/2022 22:22

@BlueEyesWhiteDragon

I can't see if it's the same person. Her Facebook profile is completely locked down and her profile pic is not her its a picture of a TV show.

I don't believe the story at all and I'm the most gullible person out there.

Have you tried googling her name and your area? You never know, there might be photos of her online that you can find.
Honeyroar · 26/03/2022 22:24

@MissMaple82

I actually get really annoyed that people want to shame everyone for everything on Facebook. I think its wrong
But dumping live animals is ok??
70isaLimitNotaTarget · 26/03/2022 22:39

You don't know the circumstances, clearly she wasn't coping, probably didn't know what to do. She cared enough nor to kill them

She could've taken them to a Vet surgery .
She could've taken them to RSPCA /BlueCros/PDSA
She could've phoned every local small animal rescue
One of my Rescue guinea pigs was taken to boarding and not collected ( once the owner was contacted they didn't want him) . So yes, dumped , but dumped somewhere that would care for him.

But no- she left them in a garden where she had no idea if anyone would find them. Whos to say the OP wasnt away for the weekend>
They could've been terrorised by foxes They can die from fright as prey animals .
Or picked up by someone who'd use them for bait
Or starved . Animals like rabbits and guinea pigs can die from gut statis if they go without food for any length of time ( I think its 5 hours, its not long )

If she realy couldn't cope , she could've taken them to a Vet and said "Please euthanise them"
But no, dump them in a garden isn;t "cared enough"

Mermaidwaves · 26/03/2022 22:53

Poor little buns Sad there should be much harsher sentences for people dumping animals, it's so cruel. Luckily they've come to you who cares about their welfare, they look like right little characters.

Westpoint · 26/03/2022 23:18

I don't get these responses?!

Why on earth would the woman who dumped them reply to you on Facebook? She'd just keep her head down surely?

WholeHog · 26/03/2022 23:27

OP, your DSs aren't of an age/disposition to e.g. answer an ad for free rabbits and say "just drop them over the fence and we'll pop them in our hutch" are they?

anothernamedoesntsmellsosweet · 26/03/2022 23:53

They are cute as anything. We took on someone's rabbit when it wasn't being cared for properly. I thought it was a very short term thing, she has now happily lived in our living room for about 6 years!

KimikosNightmare · 27/03/2022 00:39

You don't know the circumstances, clearly she wasn't coping, probably didn't know what to do. She cared enough nor to kill them

No. Utter nonsense. The rabbits could have been handed over properly to the RSPCA or an animal rescue charity. It is despicable just to dump them.

milkyaqua · 27/03/2022 02:39

Seriously, "wasn't coping" so fly-tipped these living beings on the OP's property!

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 27/03/2022 03:07

People who think cats don't hurt rabbits as a general thing are either completely naive or don't have much in the way of sense.
Cats = predators.
Rabbits = prey.

A large cat will take down a rabbit if it can. Lots of cats will take down smaller rabbits. Cats who have been kept indoors and have lost a larger part of their native instincts for killing prey animals may not do this - but many will.

Friends of mine who had feral cats on their property (they kept trying to catch and neuter them but more would arrive) knew this.

I absolutely would never assume that a cat would not hurt a rabbit. Or a guineapig, for that matter, even if my mum's cat just used to look wide-eyed at my caged guineapigs and not go near them.

milkyaqua · 27/03/2022 03:09

I spend much of my time protecting my chickens from stalking cats. No-one believes they can and will and do kill chickens.

PurrBox · 27/03/2022 03:18

On page 1, thatnameistaken mentioned two missing rabbits in the northeast- has anyone followed up on that. I only read the op's posts, and don't think she responded to the suggestion. I guess it would be too much of a coincidence, but just wanted to check.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 27/03/2022 03:34

@milkyaqua

I spend much of my time protecting my chickens from stalking cats. No-one believes they can and will and do kill chickens.
I believe you. I don't see why they wouldn't - I've seen a cat destroy a wood pigeon, and some chickens aren't much bigger than a good fat wood pigeon! Large feral cats (and probably large free-ranging domestic cats too!) are quite able to kill something as big as a chicken.
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