Is DH BIU- to talk with DSIL about planned baby name

[fringely]

DSIL is 34 weeks pregnant with first DC.
A few weeks ago her and her DP announced the planned baby name.
The actual 'sound' of the name is fine, but it is heavily associated with something which DSIL and her DP were not really aware of. They have been made aware of the association since (as it's pretty common knowledge- not sure how they hadn't heard of it tbh!) but are of the opinion most people won't make the association. DH and I are of the other opinion that most people will definitely make the association, it's not a good association, and genuinely worry that it's not fair to give a baby that name and it's fully possible it could lead to bullying when older.

Whilst DP and strongly agree on the huge issue with the name and agree it's unfair to lumbar a baby with it, I don't think DH should say anything. DH thinks he should have a proper talk with her about his concerns on the name and why he doesn't think it's fair to give to a DN. I think nothing good will come and we should stay quiet.

(So far we have said very little about it. We were notably shocked when told what it was, and clarified 'X' as in X'?? But other than that have nodded and smiled).

Cain?
I work with young people and this is quite a popular name which astonishes me

It is Adolf?

Oedipus ?? Mordor? Sauron ??

Klan

Brutus? Vladimir? Putin?

Please say it’s not ghislaine?

If you Google the name as just the name alone and not the well known versions surname, is the whole first page just that person? If you search Facebook, instagram, twitter etc are there lots of normal people with that first name? None? Just accounts referring to the well known person?

Vlad
Josef

@Treebranches

If you Google the name as just the name alone and not the well known versions surname, is the whole first page just that person? If you search Facebook, instagram, twitter etc are there lots of normal people with that first name? None? Just accounts referring to the well known person?

If you google the name it's the Wikipedia page of the 'infamous namesake' followed by pages and pages about them

If its association is so glaringly obvious I'm pretty sure other relatives or friends will do DHs job for him!!

OP, namechange and sometime soon but not today so you'll not be outed, post the name on the baby names board for comments.

Levi ? (Bellfield)

Is it Karen?

@BlankTimes

OP, namechange and sometime soon but not today so you'll not be outed, post the name on the baby names board for comments.

No, because I would get called a troll if I said I was suggesting it for my baby (it's that bad- I have googled and it has been asked before on mumsnet and not gone well) and I would get crucified for being bitchy if I said I was canvassing for someone else's baby.

The point of this thread is how to deal with it, not how bad it is (I already know it's pretty bad sadly)

Pontius Pilate?

It's absolutely none of his business! How would he react to them interfering in his parenting choices?

If you google the name it's the Wikipedia page of the 'infamous namesake' followed by pages and pages about them

Just the first name?

It would be unusual for there to be no others mentioned, even more so as you say your SIL and partner have never heard of the connection before. I'm assuming the name has been mentioned on the thread?

Is there no one else in the families who would speak to either of the parents? Surely if it’s so bad his family have said something as well? Maybe they’re worried someone will ‘steal’ their baby name so they’re just saying it’s ‘Voldemort’ like when people on here say their friend copies everything they do and they’re advised to lie and say they’re getting a face tattoo and dying their hair pink etc?

Lenin? Loads of kids round here called Lenin/Lennon. I'm not a fan.

It isn't like, Mitler, is it?

Genghis

@ThettaReddast

He’s already made his point by mentioning the association. They have that information and can make their own decision, he shouldn’t force the issue.

Yes, you are right there (unfortunately).

Many years ago I came across a woman who decided to call her baby daughter, 'Antimony'; she didn't know it was a poison.

Some names have more than one meaning; 'Jade', for example.

People really do need to look at meanings of names before definitely deciding on one.

Let's hope sister in law and partner change their minds when their baby is born.

I know you don't want us to guess it op but we can't help it.

Tobin?

If it is a boy I think Lucifer is a good guess

There was a long and horrified thread about the name Enola Gay - is it that? We may have convinced the woman not to use it.