Is DH BIU- to talk with DSIL about planned baby name

[fringely]

DSIL is 34 weeks pregnant with first DC.
A few weeks ago her and her DP announced the planned baby name.
The actual 'sound' of the name is fine, but it is heavily associated with something which DSIL and her DP were not really aware of. They have been made aware of the association since (as it's pretty common knowledge- not sure how they hadn't heard of it tbh!) but are of the opinion most people won't make the association. DH and I are of the other opinion that most people will definitely make the association, it's not a good association, and genuinely worry that it's not fair to give a baby that name and it's fully possible it could lead to bullying when older.

Whilst DP and strongly agree on the huge issue with the name and agree it's unfair to lumbar a baby with it, I don't think DH should say anything. DH thinks he should have a proper talk with her about his concerns on the name and why he doesn't think it's fair to give to a DN. I think nothing good will come and we should stay quiet.

(So far we have said very little about it. We were notably shocked when told what it was, and clarified 'X' as in X'?? But other than that have nodded and smiled).

Stalin?
Nazi?
Boris?

@Eesha

Charlie?

What's wrong with Charlie?

@Eesha

Charlie?

What's wrong with Charlie?

So Jezebel or Casanova?

@ Boris being similar to Judas and Lucifer!

Cruella

Cross posted OP.

Oh Cruella is a good guess? It’s not actually a name though, is it? Surely it was just a pun on cruel.

Lilith?

Cruella and Jezebel also along the lines I guess!

Maybe your husband has one last go and sends them a link to an article about whatever it is and says something like 'I just want to make sure you're definitely fully aware of what is associated with this name but if you're still happy with it then I'll say nothing more on the subject'. If he bangs on about it too much he'll piss them off but I think he'd be annoyed with himself if he didn't have one last try.

Lolita?

Myra?

Pandora?

@Zippy1510

Lolita?

I thought Lolita.

If she is very sensitive I know it would be awkward/ difficult to bring it up again, but it may be kinder in the long run. Now tbh I think most people won't make a negative comment on a babies name once they know it. I'm due a baby this summer, I wouldn't want people saying 'what was she thinking' about my babies name and would hope my family would point something glaringly bad about a name out.

People saying Isis, beautiful name with a long history but I think of the terrorist group. As would a LOT of people. I think they will too in future. Maybe not in 100 years but the next generation or two, maybe.

I thought Jezebel or Lolita

I'm guessing something like Medea or Jocasta.

If it's Delilah then I think that's fine and I'd be more concerned about people singing Tom Jones than the biblical story. Jezebel probably less good.

Unless it truly is Adolfo levels of bad, I’d say nothing.

I’m often surprised at names I find have unfortunate associations.

Salome
Ophelia
Pandora

Etc

But you get over the association once you know somebody. It’s not a big deal.

So a female biblical name who represents something negative?

This is harder than wordle

Charlie = cocaine
Molly = ecstasy
Mary Jane = marijuana

My money is still on Jezebel

Lolita is a very good guess. FWIW, that’s only a connotation made by adults. Your niece wouldn’t be teased as a child if that’s the name. However, she may grow to hate it as a teenager.

I think if you have brought it to their attention once there is nothing more you can or should do. It's their child and their decision.

@Changechangychange

Charlie = cocaine Molly = ecstasy Mary Jane = marijuana

My money is still on Jezebel

I'm talking much stronger association then them, I like and would use all those names. I also haven't heard of a lot of the ones suggested

I think Jezebel is fine to be honest . I quite like the name and I think those type of biblical associations like Judas will become less common as churchgoing in this county becomes less popular. That said, these biblical names have international associations so the child might have difficulty in other countries depending on the culture.