Inheritance query. Is sister being cheeky or is it me?

[IndeterminateCaptainNoises]

Our lovely dm died some years ago. Everything spilt 50-50 between DSis and I. (Some money left directly to the grandchildren) . Recently we have been made aware of some more money (approx £800) coming through a policy that's matured. I was thinking even split but dsis wants to use it to buy things for the children. Aibu to say she can spend her half how she wants but I want my half?

Tell the cheeky cow you want the whole lot for some necessary house repairs.

It's a 50-50 split.

Sounds lovely, she can spend her half on the kids now and if and when you have kids you can do something with them to remember granny using your half!

@MrsWinters

Gosh people are funny when it comes to money and inheritance. Of course the terms of the Will still apply, so it should be split 50:50 between the sisters by the sounds of it, but I don’t think your sister is being unreasonable or outrageous suggesting you use the money to treat the kids to something nice, particularly if she is unaware of your financial situation. She probably just wants to make sure the money is used for something special with the money, rather than just getting absorbed into her household budget. Split the money 50:50, but I would be prepared for her kids to accidentally drop in about a treat with grandma’s money at some point. You might want to do something little like buying some afternoon tea bits and going for a fun picnic or something so your kids think they’ve done something too.

OP doesn't have kids though, so what the sister is actually suggesting is "I've got a nice idea, why don't I just keep all the money for myself?"

@MerryMarigold

Also, you could ask yourself 'if mum was alive, what would she have wanted to do with the money?'

Or, you know, just follow the will. Which might even reflect the mother’s wishes

50/50.

If grandchildren were left a particular sum and then whatever was left would be split 50/50, then this is part of what was left!

Your sisters family have already done better out of it than your family as she has kids who have inherited!

The terms of the Will apply therefore the £800 is split 50:50 between you and your sister. The grandchildren have already received a legacy under the Will. If your mum wanted them to receive more, then she would have increased the legacy to them in the Will. She didn't.

Your sister is a CF.

Make sure you get your money and then if she wants to use hers to buy gifts for HER children then so be it. Why should you have to contribute?

Hang on, you don't have children, so she effectively wants the full amount for herself and you would get nothing. NO. CF at its finest.

Also, you could ask yourself 'if mum was alive, what would she have wanted to do with the money?'

Presumably, if she were still alive, her answer to the question "What do you want to do with your money?" would be "Erm, use it for myself".

Same thing happened to me. My mum left very little just £6000. (no will) There were three of us chidren, so £2000 each. My sister said that our mum would have wanted the grandchildren to have their share. She has two sons, I had one daughter and my brother is childless. That would have meant that they would have got £3000, my famiy £2000 and my brother £1000. It took me ages to convince her that it wasnt fair on my brother. I said if she wants to give her sons a share take it out of her £2000, I would give my daughter a share of mine and my brother could treat his cat if he wished.

She's a cheeky cow.

Definitely split 50:50 between you and your sister. I say this as someone with 3 children, permanently broke with a sister who's decided not to have children and in a much better financial situation.
I made the choice to have children so have to manage things as best I can!

It is your legal entitlement. Your sister is being greedy, how can she possibly feel that she can just pinch it from you for her own purposes?!!