Inheritance query. Is sister being cheeky or is it me?

[IndeterminateCaptainNoises]

Our lovely dm died some years ago. Everything spilt 50-50 between DSis and I. (Some money left directly to the grandchildren) . Recently we have been made aware of some more money (approx £800) coming through a policy that's matured. I was thinking even split but dsis wants to use it to buy things for the children. Aibu to say she can spend her half how she wants but I want my half?

Has she actually said she wants you to give up your half of the money?

Its only cheeky if she has no children.

Suggesting it's split between the kids, if you both have them, isnr a big deal imo. Especially if you inherited a large sum.

Obviously, if she only has kids then it is cheeky.

Who has kids? Are they just her kids?

If so, no.

If you both have kids, still you should get 50/50 to spend on them,

If you have no kids, 50/50.

It's not a matter of opinion though. The whole point of a will is that it's a legal document setting out what happens to the estate of the deceased. It matters not a jot what you, I or the sister's opinion is. 50% of the money belongs to the OP.
Leaning on a beneficiary to try to persuade them to give up any amount of their inheritance is shocking

@IndeterminateCaptainNoises

Apologies that was meant to say do the terms of the will still legally apply.

If only I could spend the money on unlimited Nutella!

Yes

If you don't want to get into tricky arguments with her, I'd blame the will and say we need to legally split it 50/50 and that she can then spend her half how she likes.

50/50

Does your dsis want all of it then?

What does she want to spend it in?

It should be split equally.

It should be split equally and if you need the £400 then you should have it.

I personally would be fine that sum of money being put in an investment bond or something for children if they didn’t inherit anything. But that’s very much linked to the fact that I don’t desperately need £400 right now and there have been times in the past when I definitely would have really needed it and not felt as I do now.

It’s yours by right OP, if you need it then take it, if you don’t then have a think.

The terms of the will still apply. You haven't said how many children you each have. I don't understand why either of you are heading into battle over £400 each though, it's crazy. Try to cool the whole thing down, it's a tiny amount of money.

@Turningpurple

Its only cheeky if she has no children.

Suggesting it's split between the kids, if you both have them, isnr a big deal imo. Especially if you inherited a large sum.

Obviously, if she only has kids then it is cheeky.

This is a good point.

Also, is she in a vastly different financial position to you?

Why won't you answer the questions about who has children? Seems pretty pertinent information to me.

Why won't you answer the questions about who has children? Seems pretty pertinent information to me.

Because it is irrelevant. The person or persons named on the life insurance is relevant though.

Who has how many children is totally irrelevant. The money has to be split in accordance with the will.

Aslong as you both have kids then I’d be happy for it to be spent on the kids.

It’s only £400. Not worth the argument.

You haven't said who has how many children, so its hard to judge whether she is being a cf.
If we had an unexpected family small windfall after an inheritance I would perhaps suggest to siblings that we all did something nice together with the money. Siblings could say yes or no, but it isn't cf to make the suggestion.

@MRex

The terms of the will still apply. You haven't said how many children you each have. I don't understand why either of you are heading into battle over £400 each though, it's crazy. Try to cool the whole thing down, it's a tiny amount of money.

£400 isn't a tiny amount of money for some

@PutinIsAWarCriminal

You haven't said who has how many children, so its hard to judge whether she is being a cf. If we had an unexpected family small windfall after an inheritance I would perhaps suggest to siblings that we all did something nice together with the money. Siblings could say yes or no, but it isn't cf to make the suggestion.

It's completely irrelevant how many kids there are, it was left 50/50, and the OP states the kids were left something originally.

@BeHappy91818

Aslong as you both have kids then I’d be happy for it to be spent on the kids.

It’s only £400. Not worth the argument.

Erm... £400 would make a massive difference to me right now.

I agree that the terms of the will should apply, but if it turns out that they both have two children each, I wouldn't be falling out with my sister over £400.

You said the money would really benefit you right now so that's that. 50/50.

@LabelMaker good for you?

Do you both have kids? Are you particularly struggling? I think the idea of a family day out with all the kids sounds a lovely idea, £800 isn't a huge amount of money (unless you are really struggling) but a good amount to give the kids a really memorable day or even weekend funded by their grandmother

As the will was written saying 50/50, that applies for any money. So it gets split, if she wants to spend hers on her kids thats her choice, but you spend yours how you want. It doesn't matter how many kids there are as they were not in the will. It gets split 50/50 then spent however.

Say no. You need it for bills.
Tbh I would say bills are a higher priority than gifts and if I knew my sister was struggling I would be the one to give up my half if I was so well off that I had nothing to do with it but buy presents.