Aibu to think this isn’t okay - cleaner nespresso

[Candyhats]

We have a cleaner who comes in on a daily basis and obviously we have tea and instant coffee, which we keep in our home and provide for her to drink. However I noticed we are going through nespresso capsules quickly and then I realized she has nespresso(s) daily when she works. My husband does drink coffee and I’m the only one that drinks it and as a treat, even it home.

Aibu to address this with cleaner?

I tried to hide a sleeve with some capsules in, she found it and had a couple while emptying the rest into the nespresso jar.

Well, it's certainly got everyone worked up (for and against)

I think a sensible conversation with the cleaner would hopefully resolve this anyway, if the OP can't afford for her to use the pods. I'm a full time carer for my husband (no daily cleaner) in case this is thought heartless.

I have read your update. I still think you should let it go. Let her have her capsules. Reliable cleaners are hard to get.

I'm also surprised at all the snobs here having a go at instant coffee.
There's 'shit', 'normal' and 'fancy'. The presence of fancy coffee doesn't mean that the instant one is 'shit'. There are different types of instant coffee. And it's easier to make too!

Don't be ridiculous. Instant coffee does not taste the same as ground coffee. The fact that people like the taste of one but not the other does not make them snobby. They don't even drink instant coffee in many countries. Great if you enjoy it but I would rather have a glass of water.

@ZenNudist

I have a cleaner once a week. Every day is clearly a massive luxury. I don't get why your DH being disabled means you need a cleaner every day. You must have money for that therefore can afford an extra quid on 3-4 nespresso capsules a day. Unless you have the expensive new kind. I'd be more bothered my cleaner was having 3 or 4 coffees rather than working.

If im making nespresso when cleaner is there then I offer her one. I don't expect her to be faffing around making drinks because she is only there a few hours. She might have 2 drinks whilst she is there, most of which we make as we make our own.

I also offer her cake and biscuits when we have them and I send her home with homemade cake when we have it. In turn she gets chocolate for the dc and gives them birthday money. We give her birthday presents and Christmas bonus.

If you can afford a cleaner you can afford to be generous.

Gosh I’d never accept money from my cleaner for my children!

@Befrazzled

I don’t understand why there are so many negative personal comments. The cleaner should have checked it was ok for them to have a nespresso. It is only polite. Alternatively you should have said ‘help yourself to tea and coffee but would you mind leaving the nespresso’s’. But hindsight is a wonderful thing so either have the conversation now or just accept the nespresso drinking.

"Would you mind leaving the Nespresso" You must be as stingy as the OP. Why shouldn't the cleaner drink it? Isn't she allowed to enjoy a very small perk to the job?

@AnneKisee the point I was trying to make is it's irrelevant how much money you have, it's how you treat people.

I am now disabled, as is my husband and son, our lives have changed dramatically but our cleaner has nespresso when she's here because we value her and know her worth. She's worth her weight in gold and I'd rather her have it and feel appreciated and valued and I have one less.

But we are all different.

TBH I think you're being a bit U.

@Daenerys77

The lower classes have no shame nowadays. I bet she washes her hands in your bathroom with your scented soap if you aren't around to direct her to the outside tap.

Why can't she also have a capsule coffee? Is it because she's 'just a cleaner?'

@AnneKisee

How many cups does she have?? How long does she clean for? Do you think she’s stealing the pods?

You don’t have to provide cleaner drinks. Mine doesn’t get any. Because there’s none in the house.

People are piling on because you’re rich enough to have a daily cleaner but that’s an irrelevant fact. YANBu

There are NO drinks in your house?

I work in people's homes and it's just so much better when people say something as soon as it is an issue, before resentment kicks in and before your cleaner feels uncomfortable about the fact she was pissing you off for a long time without realising. That's a horrible feeling and changes the dynamic.

It's ok to say that you're drinking instant coffee on a daily basis and just having the nespresso capsules for an occasional treat. She'll be able to see that you don't get through them quickly and that it's not you telling her that she has to have different coffee from you. The fact that she opened a box you thought you were trying to hide shows she genuinely has no idea that you were trying to hide them and not wanting her to use them. So say something quickly and causally.

Regardless of the reasoning behind having a cleaner, resenting someone having an nespresso is pretty stingy.

YABU to have one in the first place though, given how awful they are environmentally.

I thought you were going to say that she's taking whole packs of them home!!!

Get Mr Hudson to lock them away in the butlers pantry and only release them to you and your husband when you sign his pantry book in bloodtriplicate.

Of course it might be Ruby the kitchen maid as she is always rather shifty. Or maybe Miss Georgina has been allowing her friends in the kitchen on a scavenger hunt again.

You meanie. You're acting like she's swiping boxes of them to well at the market... Let her have a coffee. They're not made of gold (and are actually pretty shit coffee too).

@Belladonna12

*I'm also surprised at all the snobs here having a go at instant coffee. There's 'shit', 'normal' and 'fancy'. The presence of fancy coffee doesn't mean that the instant one is 'shit'. There are different types of instant coffee. And it's easier to make too!*

Don't be ridiculous. Instant coffee does not taste the same as ground coffee. The fact that people like the taste of one but not the other does not make them snobby. They don't even drink instant coffee in many countries. Great if you enjoy it but I would rather have a glass of water.

I posted earlier saying I only have instant as I don’t like filtered or ‘posh’ coffee - I didn’t really like people calling instant ‘shit’ as if it was beneath them. You should see the looks I’ve got from waiters in ‘nice’ restaurants when I’ve asked for instant😁 I’m literally ill if I drink the other stuff whether it’s from a machine or a cafetière or whatever.

OP well as I've said... as someone who does work for people in their homes, it wouldn't bother me at all if you said you just save the nespresso capsules for treats. If I'm going into someone's home everyday I expect to be aware of and follow the guidelines of that household. No shoes in the house? Ok. You don't want those cups being put in the dishwasher? No problem. Nespresso capsules not for everyday use - sure, I get that - they're good because they're quick and I'm busy, but I always have to use 2 because they make tiny coffees so I'll bring my own.

I don't expect to have special guest treatment when I'm working in your home on a daily basis.

@Tsuni none whatsoever. We occasionally have teabags given as part of a gift (e.g. hamper) but we never buy any ourselves.

@Belladonna12 @MurmuratingStarling it IS snobby, because you'll only drink the expensive version. If you're buying it for yourself fair enough, but this is being provided by someone else.

The issue here really isn't the merits of different coffee, but how the OP sees the coffee.

If OP only drinks pod coffee, but begrudges her cleaner the same fair enough.

But the OP sees it as a treat for herself. Why then should it be 'normal' for the cleaner?

The crux of the argument is 'treat the cleaner as you would yourself'. OP doesn't allow herself to drink instant coffee, why would she be happy that the cleaner does?

@BellePeppa exactly!
Not liking instant coffee doesn't mean it's shit.
There's always entitled arseholes complaining about the coffee provision and this rubs me the wrong way. Drinks are a perk, not a requirement. If they're 'so cheap' anyway buy your own lol

Like you Candyhats my parents have to have help in. One is disabled, the other has a progressive terminal disease.

The little money they have goes towards buying in help for care help and cleaning. My mother wouldn't begrudge anyone anything, but she'd be put out at someone helping themselves to something she keeps back as a treat. Whether that's special coffee, biscuits, chocolate...whatever. The principle remains the same - something regarded as a treat is casually consumed without thought of the impact it has.

Thankfully this hasn't happened with them, but my advice would be the same to them as you. Have a quiet chat and mention that the nespresso is a special treat that you keep back from regular consumption and they are being used far more quickly than you can justify replacing them.

My parents prioritise paying for their much needed and appreciated help over having regular access to treats, I suspect you're in the same position. Hope you can sort this with your cleaner without ill feeling.

Thinking about our cleaners at work. They come for two hours each week and just crack on cleaning. I've never once saw them rummaging through cupboards looking for the best coffee. Also when I worked somewhere self employed I used to make an instant coffee even though they had other more expensive drinks in the cupboard.