To be miffed DH keeps putting the heating on?

[FeelingTooHotHotHot]

He gets in from work in the small hours, he then puts the electric blanket on (on his side of the bed), sticks the heating on and turns it up to 20° (so the house warms up quickly) but then gets in bed and falls asleep. He's also taken to putting an extra quilt on top of DC.

The heating can be on then for several hours until I get up. So the house is baking, DC has kicked their blankets off or are sweating profusely under two quilts plus fleece blanket. Quite often the heat coming from his side of the bed wakes me up and I either have to wake him to turn it off, or get out of bed and then it off myself.

Our gas/electric bill has gone up from 100 to 235 last month. I want to hide the heating controller but can't quite bring myself to do that as it feels really controlling.

I don't want him to be cold but it's getting ridiculous. Will admit that I put the heating on as a last resort. I hate being cold but DC and I use blankets (electric and normal) hot water bottles and each have an oodie. He thinks the house should be warm and then walk around in a t-shirt.

What would you do?

@CoverYourselfInChocolateGlory

I'm pretty sure the house doesn't warm up more quickly because it's set for 20 degrees. The boiler stays on until the house gets to the set temperature and then goes off.

This clip from Peep Show explains:

DH does the thing of whacking up the thermostat when it's particularly cold. I'm like David Mitchell, I've never managed to get it through to him that it really doesn't make the house warm up more quickly than if we just left the stat at a sensible temperature.

He genuinely thinks DC will get hypothermia, he grew up cold and hungry and it's stayed with him. He thinks he's right and I'm cruel for keeping it cold and will make DC ill with frostbite

This is really irritatingly illogical. The DC aren't going to get frostbite unless the temperature in the house goes down to zero degrees, which just isn't going to happen in a reasonably insulated house where you have some heating on during the day. Can you laugh him out of that one at least?

The lack of very, very basic comprehension on this thread is depressing.

@abigailsnan

I think whilst the bill will go up considerably your OH is a caring and considerate bloke you are lucky to have him imo,just wait until the next bill comes in he may change his habits.

He's a lovely, lovely bloke and we are a fortunate pair to have each other and our little ones. We haven't had an easy run of it and we're hoping the skies are starting to look brighter.

@Parpophone

The lack of very, very basic comprehension on this thread is depressing.

I probably need to take some responsibility for that too, I should have put to be miffed DH keeps LEAVING the heating on in the title.

I do feel like I've had to repeat myself a lot, it's almost been like talking to DH

He's a lovely, lovely bloke and we are a fortunate pair to have each other and our little ones. We haven't had an easy run of it and we're hoping the skies are starting to look brighter.

I hope so too. Contrary to the very odd answers to you from some, you seem lovely. And so does he because ridiculous duvet behaviour aside, he sounds caring. Even if his love involves overheating the children!

About the putting am extra quilt on your child, could you tell him to check the temperature of your child's hands and forehead to see that they are not too cold? Similarly show him the signs of when they are too hot, damp hair, waking up and so on?

@MrsTerryPratchett

He's a lovely, lovely bloke and we are a fortunate pair to have each other and our little ones. We haven't had an easy run of it and we're hoping the skies are starting to look brighter.

I hope so too. Contrary to the very odd answers to you from some, you seem lovely. And so does he because ridiculous duvet behaviour aside, he sounds caring. Even if his love involves overheating the children!

Thank you MrsTerryPratchett that's such a kind thing to say

I think a lot of people (especially on the internet) can feel emboldened to be quite abrasive in their manner. But I asked for opinions, I should be able to take them with grave and good humour, hopefully anyway (And i've hidden the extra duvet!)

Grace* !! Grace and good humour! That says all you need to know about my life recently 😂 that autocorrect assumed grave was the right choice there!