How often do you and your partner say “I love you”?

[SixteenTwelve]

Following on from the other thread about how often you kiss your partner, how often do you say “I love you?”

I chatted about this with a friend once and she thought couples were normally in one of two camps:
-multiple times a day
-hardly ever

I don’t think it’s a reflection of how much someone necessarily loves another person but I do think it’s interesting. We are in the multiple times a day camp and sometimes DP and I will text each other that we love each other during the day as well. It’s a bit teenagery I guess but it’s been 10 years and no sign of stopping.

Usually once a day.

At least once a day, Usually more. Also end most calls with it.

Few times a week maybe but I really don’t pat it much attention

Every day - married more than 50 years!

Multiple times a day

Every day. Definitely last thing at night. Having recently lost my mum and wishing I'd told her more often, I make sure to tell the kids and DH that I love them lots.

almost never

but that's ok

Me - once every day or two
DP - three or four times a year

Multiple times a day. Every time one of us leaves the house (DH works outside the home and I work from home so we say it at least every week day morning when he leaves). Every night before bed. We text each other it in the day occasionally if we have that overwhelming love come over us. As a thank you (for making a tea etc) we say love you

Every day, usually more than once. We have a rule that we never leave the house without saying it.

Multiple times per day

If you say it lots did you grow up in “I love you” households. I can’t remember my dad EVER saying “I love you” even though I know he does. DPs family are all about saying “I love you” - I hear it more from his family than my own!

Every day multiple times. And no I don’t think we said it much growing up. Parents still married though and clearly do love us.

@irregularegular

almost never

but that's ok

Is it though? I'm the same and don't think it is ok.

Every night and I definitely didn't grow up in an "I love you" household. Although my mum now says it to my kids. Just don't think it was the done thing when I was a kid (80s)?!

We say it all the time
My mum told me all the time too, my dad doesn’t really

Never, not my thing.

We used to say it multiple times a day and I am glad now that we did.

@Edinvillian does your partner show his love if he doesn’t say it?

My dad has never said I love you can can’t even say “I love you too” but he shows his love through acts of service like checking my tyres before a long journey (I am perfectly capable of checking my own though)

All the time. Every phone call texts, leaving the house etc.

Never heard it from my family. Ever.

Multiple times a day, he's working upstairs so sometimes I even text it to him or send him a gif. We always say it before we go to sleep, I don't feel right unless he knows I love him at the end of the day.

Every day, usually more than once!

@irregularegular

almost never

but that's ok

Several times a day, but it's not OK. We say it as habit, the words mean nothing and we barely tolerate each other, we just can't afford to get divorced. So I agree with irregular you can barely say it but mean it more.

We’ve been together 6 years and say it constantly-it still makes me smile! I grew up in a ‘love you’ household so it has always felt natural!

@SixteenTwelve

If you say it lots did you grow up in “I love you” households. I can’t remember my dad EVER saying “I love you” even though I know he does. DPs family are all about saying “I love you” - I hear it more from his family than my own!

The opposite. I suffered neglect as a child and have been left with PTSD. I'm also autistic. I tell DH and the kids I love them all the time. I definitely didn't learn by example.