How often do you and your partner say “I love you”?

[SixteenTwelve]

Following on from the other thread about how often you kiss your partner, how often do you say “I love you?”

I chatted about this with a friend once and she thought couples were normally in one of two camps:
-multiple times a day
-hardly ever

I don’t think it’s a reflection of how much someone necessarily loves another person but I do think it’s interesting. We are in the multiple times a day camp and sometimes DP and I will text each other that we love each other during the day as well. It’s a bit teenagery I guess but it’s been 10 years and no sign of stopping.

Never. No one in my family does or did either. I don't remember either of my parents ever saying this to me, although I suppose they must have when I was very little. I tell DC all the time, several times a day.

Multiple times a day, been together for 26 years

All the time. We're both autistic but very playful and happy together - it's always sincere and shown in actions too.

I'm aware every day of how lucky we are to have found each other, and have an grateful for every moment of the past two decades. Meeting him genuinely changed my life.

Definitely every day, often several times a day. Some times on automatic, often because we do things that remind each other we love each other. Kindess or making each other laugh.

At the end of texts.

And after sex!

Multiple times a day❤️ as long as they show it then that's all that truly matters xxx

@SixteenTwelve

If you say it lots did you grow up in “I love you” households. I can’t remember my dad EVER saying “I love you” even though I know he does. DPs family are all about saying “I love you” - I hear it more from his family than my own!

My mum and dad were always telling me they love me, and still do. I tell my own children every chance I get. My husband's parents were the same.

Multiple times a day (and we've been together for 14 years)

Multiple times a day! My mum always said it but my dad not so much. Although I now make sure I say it every single day& night to my little boy xx

Neither of us ever do! However, neither of us are from huggy/lovey families. Both very caring families etc.

It doesn't bother me in the slightest, I think growing up not hearing it means it doesn't feel natural to me IYSWIM. We show our love in other ways

Multiple times a day. Apparently I have even said it to DP in my sleep!

Never. Not once in the entire time we have been together or married.

Daily. Saying good bye. Saying good night.... Just because

Not even on your wedding day @Manekinek0?

Mostly several times a day.

Several times a day to partner its Not from childhood never heard either of my parents say iy to each other or children

@deadlanguage no. We never had the conversation of not saying it but it just never happened. I know it sounds a bit strange but we are both believers that actions speak louder than words. We both try to do nice things for each other everyday and put one another first. We have both been in awful relationships before where the other person would say "I love you" all the time and then be violent or cheat.

Several times a day, both of us. More importantly, we always try to be kind to each other, kindness is so underrated. I had a terrible first marriage including DV, and it's lovely to tell DH how loved he is, and it still makes me smile having it said back to me.

Every day! Although we do live on different Continents at the moment

Together 16 years, say I love you multiple times a day. Ds (3) has started random exclamations of love too. I come from a family like this though - I tell my mum/dad/sister I love them at the end of a call or when I leave, and will tell my sister and her husband I love them if they're together when I say bye. They all do the same back/say first too.

Only on birthday cards!
Not the effusive type but we do love each other.

We’re in the multiple times daily camp. Have been together 10+ years.

We both show it multiple times days too, tbf.

Lots of times a day but we have autistic children who say it to us a lot so it's become more of an habit.
I don't think I ever heard any I loved you growing up which looking back is pretty sad.

What are the moments in which people are saying this multiple times per day? I am very happily married and say this once per day (at bed time) plus spontaneous declarations a few times per week. Are people saying it every time their partner takes the bins out? Or every time they make a cup of tea? Baffled.

Never. It sounds cringe to me and I suspect DH thinks the same. Very happily married for over 30 years, it's a case of deeds speaking louder than words.