How often do you and your partner say “I love you”?

[SixteenTwelve]

Following on from the other thread about how often you kiss your partner, how often do you say “I love you?”

I chatted about this with a friend once and she thought couples were normally in one of two camps:
-multiple times a day
-hardly ever

I don’t think it’s a reflection of how much someone necessarily loves another person but I do think it’s interesting. We are in the multiple times a day camp and sometimes DP and I will text each other that we love each other during the day as well. It’s a bit teenagery I guess but it’s been 10 years and no sign of stopping.

Multiple times and also text. I didn't think of it as a teenage thing as we are in our 30s!

@drawingpad - same here and I'm autistic too.

When we wake up, when we go to sleep, before we leave the house and other random times. We do still mean it though.

About 3-4 times per day verbally then at the end of messages (not every one).

Once a week on a Monday.

Never, but he shows me his love and I show him mine. Except at the moment because we've pissed each other off, we'll be ok by the end of the week though.

We're in the "hardly ever" team.

Oh all the time. When we say goodbye as we leave for work, when we say goodnight, when he makes me laugh or does something lovely, when we say goodbye on the phone, when he brings me a cup of tea…
I always want him to know how much I adore him, and he’s pretty good for tellling me too.

Multiple times a day & lots of soppy text messages.

Together for 16 years and no sign of stopping yet.

At the end of every phone call and sometimes during the day for a specific reason.

I do come from an I love you family. DH doesnt but probably says it more than me!

Rarely.

Very rarely. Doesn't mean we don't though and it feels heartfelt when we do day it.

Maybe twice a year but it never feels natural! After 30 years I have got used to not caring about it. He does write soppy cards though.

Multiple times a day, also tell DD at every opportunity that I love her. I always end phone calls with my parents by telling them too. Always have but having a lot of problems with my pregnancy and the baby and they really have been my rock, so feel more appreciative of everyone in general lately, I say it because I genuinley mean it and not because it's just habit.

Dh has never said it in the 8 years we have been together! He is autistic and doesn't verbalise feelings. He shows me and that is fine, actions speak louder than words..............my ex said it a lot but was also abusive and controlling.

Hardly ever but we do love each other and show it through actions all the time. Words don't really mean that much to me, and I've dated people in the past who say all sorts including "I love you" constantly yet I didn't really feel loved by those people.

Every day, same for each of us with DD. My dad never said I love you my entire life, and I don't want DD to grow up like that. He wasn't being spiteful, just very stilted emotionally. But it's important to me that we are open with our feelings with DD and that she hears those words from us both.

Almost never. But we are very happily married, don’t argue much (at all), like each other’s company and never run out of things to chat about. But we are not massively demonstrative. We say it to the kids a lot.

We've been together 29 years and say it very rarely. We probably said it when we were in our 20s but not really now.

We do however show each other that we love and respect each other by listening to and respecting each others views (generally we have the same views which helps with a strong relationship), we consider each others feelings, we look after each other and do nice things for each other like buying each other little treats.

It works for us and basically actions speak much louder than words.

@SilverHairedCat

All the time. Every phone call texts, leaving the house etc.

Never heard it from my family. Ever.

Same as this. Not growing up but all the time. My DH more than me as I can be grumpy! But multiple times a day. I always mean it when I say it. Not just a platitude.

DH says it to me more than I say it to him, it's not that I don't love him I obviously do but for some reason feel a bit awkward saying it. I'm quite socially awkward though in general. We say it by message a few times a say but say it using different words which mean nothing to other people but to use they mean love you (if that makes sense)

Every time we end a phone call and before we go to sleep

I can’t remember my dad EVER saying “I love you” even though I know he does.

I’m the same. Both my mother and father.

I don’t say it very often.

After every call, when saying goodbye (even if I’ll see him if 20 mins!) and at bedtime. Together 22 years.