How often do you and your partner say “I love you”?

[SixteenTwelve]

Following on from the other thread about how often you kiss your partner, how often do you say “I love you?”

I chatted about this with a friend once and she thought couples were normally in one of two camps:
-multiple times a day
-hardly ever

I don’t think it’s a reflection of how much someone necessarily loves another person but I do think it’s interesting. We are in the multiple times a day camp and sometimes DP and I will text each other that we love each other during the day as well. It’s a bit teenagery I guess but it’s been 10 years and no sign of stopping.

Ah I’m someone who likes to hear it, my OH is not someone who needs to hear it. He also doesn’t think about saying it as he says I should just know. After 10 years we agreed to say it as we leave the house and at bedtime…. After a week he realised he liked hearing it too. Now said a lot more in our house.

Never. Married 28 years and we don't need to tell each other.

A few times a week, not at the moment though as my period is due and I hate his guts right now

A few times a week, when I get the real love feeling. I've never let it become a casual word that is said all the time on auto. I have friends who do this and its almost as if its lost its meaning

Multiple times a day.

We don't. Maybe once or twice a year if something significant happens like a loved one passes and the other needs a bit of affirmation. I think for us if we said it all the time it would lose its meaning. We know we live each other through our actions. I think it would annoy me if he said it every day. I don't either. Just not our thing

Multiple times a day, didn’t hear it very often growing up, but always knew I was loved.

All the time. We're together almost 14 years and I doubt there's a day that we haven't said it.

Multiple times a day. Together almost 9 years, married 3.

@rainyskylight - so today we said love you before dh left for work, he text me to say he was there (long journey) and he loved me. I spoke to him on the phone this afternoon and we said love you when we said bye. We had a cuddle just now and said it and we will say it before bed. If dh and ds are cuddled up together I'll usually mention that I love them both as I walk past.

I don't say 'I love you' to my husband out of habit; it's when I genuinely feel a burst of it so maybe once a day/every other day. My husband is a git and doesn't say it often - it took him two years to say it to me in the first place . He'll sometimes say it back to me (about 50/50) but rarely says it out of nowhere.

He didn't grow up in a very demonstrative household so I think it's alien to him, whereas I did but hated it haha.

At least twice a day every day. I don't come from a very loving family(abusive is more like it) but I am very touchy feely and free with my "I love you"'s and it comes very easy to me.OH comes from a very cold,distant and fairly dysfunctional one , no love yous there, and he needs to make more of an effort to say it but he manages well and it's becoming more ingrained for him too.

It varies - on any particular day it could be more than once or not at all. We don't have a routine!

I say it more often than him.

Multiple times a day, although I grew up in a household in which it was never said.

Say it to DC all the time. Hardly ever say it to DH.

We're in the few times a day camp. I think my parents are in the few times a decade camp!

Multiple times a day here.

Every day - morning, every night when we go to sleep, every time one of us leaves the house. And then every so often in between

@SixteenTwelve

If you say it lots did you grow up in “I love you” households. I can’t remember my dad EVER saying “I love you” even though I know he does. DPs family are all about saying “I love you” - I hear it more from his family than my own!

Yes I did. Same as above - before sleep, whenever we leave the house

I can't remember my parents saying to each other or to me but I expect they did love me.

I mostly just say it to DH because he likes it or expects it but my ex hit me when I couldn't bring myself to say it to him, shortly before I escaped.

I say it to DC all the time though, and the cat, it's natural with them.

Constantly, really. Definitely any time either of us is going somewhere, and always before going to sleep. And then just randomly throughout the day.

I never heard "I love you" from my parents growing up and I never heard them say it to each other either- probably since they definitely didn't love each other, ha.

Never these days. We know we do but don't feel the need to say it. I think some people are insecure and mainly say it so they can hear it back. Given the number of customers who say it to me as they hang up means I think it's just a habit with no meaning for many.

My parents don't say it either.

Never said when I was growing up, and it would annoy me now. I do say it to my dog, though.

We both say it to each other, multiple times a day and we both grew up in households where it wasn't said as often. DF never said it to me or my siblings. My DM started to say it to us after DF died. ILs never said it to DH.

Several times a day.