How often do you and your partner say “I love you”?

[SixteenTwelve]

Following on from the other thread about how often you kiss your partner, how often do you say “I love you?”

I chatted about this with a friend once and she thought couples were normally in one of two camps:
-multiple times a day
-hardly ever

I don’t think it’s a reflection of how much someone necessarily loves another person but I do think it’s interesting. We are in the multiple times a day camp and sometimes DP and I will text each other that we love each other during the day as well. It’s a bit teenagery I guess but it’s been 10 years and no sign of stopping.

My husband says it constantly which annoys me as I don't think it necessary and sometimes feel he is just saying it. I say it a few times a day (although not when I am feeling grumpy!) I say it to our 7 year old regularly and he says it when he wants too. I'd rather say it less and mean it than say it too often.

My parents have never told me that they love me.

I tell DH multiple time a day that I love him and he does likewise.

I grew up in a house hold where it was never said, I was 13 years old the first time my mum said love you. So I broke that cycle and we say it after every phone call, at school drop off if one of us leave out ect and and hugs kisses and I love you before bed.

I didn’t grow up in a ‘I love you’ household. I was married for 30 years and my ex hardly ever said it either. Now Im settled with new partner we say it about 3 times a day and I say to my grown up kids too on the phone which they must think is a bit weird 😁

Married 39 years and we say it all the time - probably more likely to say "I love you" than "thank you" - "I've made you a cup of tea" "Ooh I love you!"

Last thing we say at night and when he goes to work.

Multiple times a day.
Leaving for work, end of calls, before bed, same with my children.

'Nothing haunts us like the things we don't say'

Multiple times a day

And no, it wasn't said enough in my household growing up, my childhood home was awful, alcohol fueled and toxic.

We say it a few times a day probably? Usually the last thing we say before we fall asleep. We're not generally romantic/soppy types either!

Most every day.
25 yrs.
no sign of stopping.

Hardly ever, but we both know we love each other and show it everyday.
Gets right on my nerves when colleagues are on a call to their partner and say "love you"

Everyday, multiple times and my DDs too.

We don't really ever say it. Married almost 42 years, been through a lot of difficult times - redundancies, health, worries about sons, but we're always there for each other.

At least once every day. We also have very regularly conversations about how much we love and appreciate each other and how happy we are to have found each other. He’s the best man I’ve ever met.

Multiple times a day. Especially at night, but randomly as well. Accompanied by lots of nauseating pet names and in-jokes.

We're both relatively normal and functioning adults, honestly, but we were both unloved children, we've been together since we were 18 (25 years ago) and are best mates.

Big difference between a deep and meaningful “I love you” and a “luv u” at the end of a text, leaving the house, bedtime etc. personally I would 🤮 if my DH said “I love you” all the time but I’m happy with a “luv u” on a daily basis. For me it’s more important what they DO rather than what they SAY.

Multiple times a day, end of a call, in a text, or just because.
Growing up I don't ever remember my parents saying it to each other, although I know they did love each other.
Again i dont remember either of them saying it to me and my siblings either. At the time I didn't feel unloved, I just thought it was normal.
My mum said it more often when my dad passed away unexpectedly.
I tell my DP and ny kids every day, Multiple times a day.

Multiple times a day. When leaving for work, going to bed or when we just feel like it.

My family does say it to each other a lot tho. I say it to my sisters and mum a few times a week.

Just send a random message to my mum saying I love her.

Dd and I say it to each other loads.

I am not soppy or romantic btw.

All the time! Multiple times a day. My parents never really said it to us and I've never heard them say it to eachother. They are wonderful, I know they've always loved me, but they don't say it. One of my sisters is the same, me and my other sister have gone the opposite way and say it all the time. To everyone!!

@myfavperson

Hardly ever, but we both know we love each other and show it everyday. Gets right on my nerves when colleagues are on a call to their partner and say "love you"

Why do you care what other people say?

Loads. Same with my kids. My littlest will often say he loves us out of the blue.

@HoliHormonalTigerlilly
Just annoys me in an office full of people so everyone can hear. Can they not say it to each other in private? Bit like them couples who write "love you" on each other's social media when they are probably sat together.

LDR. Though we speak multiple times a day. We say it every time we hang up on the phone.

@Myownpapillon

Me - once every day or two DP - three or four times a year

So how do they reply when you say it if they don’t say it back? “I love you” “thanks” ??