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To not want son to share Netflix password!

145 replies

idontgetpaidenoughforthis · 16/03/2022 07:16

Someone is using our Netflix account when everyone in the smiley is at work. I'd got an idea that it was DS (18) girlfriend.

I changed after getting the notification that it was being used on a new device. DS wasn't at home until yesterday and he asked me for the new password to put in his smart tv. Then last night he went to girlfriends house. This morning I got an email notification that the account was signed into on a streaming stick at 23:37. It can only be him at girlfriend's house so her whole family can use it.

AIBU to think I pay for the service and someone else should not get it for free? Or am I being tight-fisted?

OP posts:
frazzledasarock · 16/03/2022 07:18

I wouldn’t want it shared either. The girlfriend hasn’t even asked your permission to use your account.

Change password again & tell your son the password isn’t for sharing around his mates.

SausagePourHomme · 16/03/2022 07:19

ridiculous. It doesn't disadvantage you in any way. It is designed up to be shared

Justmuddlingalong · 16/03/2022 07:19

3 strikes and he's out. If you have to change the password a 3rd time you won't be giving it to him either. He can get his own account if he wants to give other people his password.

CareBear50 · 16/03/2022 07:20

Personally I wouldn't mind someone else using it as long as it didn't interfere with my ability to use it.

frazzledasarock · 16/03/2022 07:21

Not really, if all DS’s mates and girlfriends family are using OP’s account she won’t be able to use it herself.

The girlfriends family should buy their own account.

greyspottedgoose · 16/03/2022 07:21

I guess it depends on how many devices you're paying to use it on and if it impacts you

GeneLovesJezebel · 16/03/2022 07:21

Change the password again, and tell son to pay for his own account.

Coulddowithanap · 16/03/2022 07:21

If he is just sharing with his girlfriend then I think you are being a bit tight.

Do you just have one person able to watch at a time, if so just tell them they can't watch if you want to watch something.

HouseofHolbein · 16/03/2022 07:21

I wouldn’t like that. I have shared Netflix before but it was with someone I knew wouldn’t take the piss and it was a little thing I could do to help her through a challenging time.

Kids know not to share it with anyone.

araiwa · 16/03/2022 07:22

Wasn't it him using it?

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 16/03/2022 07:22

Imagine she ends up as your dil.. Great start!

Freddiefox · 16/03/2022 07:24

Can’t see the problem as long as it doesn’t restrict you watching it

Coulddowithanap · 16/03/2022 07:25

If it really bothers you get your son to pay half.

AndAsIfByMagic · 16/03/2022 07:25

Change it again and tell him you did it because you were notified that an unknown device was using your account.

tiredanddangerous · 16/03/2022 07:26

Change the password again and put it in his smart tv yourself. That way he has no reason to know the password.

Roselilly36 · 16/03/2022 07:30

Our account was hacked recently, Netflix notified us very quickly, changed p/w etc. I don’t think you are unreasonable for DS not to share the p/w.

Original poster
idontgetpaidenoughforthis · 16/03/2022 07:31

@Freddiefox

Can’t see the problem as long as it doesn’t restrict you watching it
It bothers me because if they fall out she has has access to the account details and could change the password herself!

I have no problem with him taking his laptop with Netflix logged in to hers and watching it there. What I object to is her logging in on her own devices.

To the PP that said just ask them not to watch when you want to (device limit) I'm not going ring them every time I want to watch something!

OP posts:
DDivaStar · 16/03/2022 07:31

I would have an issue with ds and gf using it as long as it didn't interfere with me using it.

Of course if its the whole family they really should buy their own.

Idroppedthescrewinthetuna · 16/03/2022 07:42

If it bothers you, don't give him the password. Put the password into his devices. If he doesn't like it then he can pay for his own and share with who he likes.

TheReddestJohansson · 16/03/2022 07:48

I think he should ask so you can at least say ‘don’t tell her it, you type it in’ but unless she has your email address too she can’t do much with just the password.

I’d just have a chat about boundaries and respect, because I suspect if he’d asked first you probably wouldn’t have minded.

I let my DSC use my Netflix when they’re at their mum’s house (on their mum’s tv), I don’t mind (though I do think it’s a bit cheeky) as it doesn’t cost me more and they asked. I did object to their mum asking for my login info to Disney+ as you can make in app purchases so that felt less ‘safe’ to be logged in elsewhere (same for Amazon Prime) especially with someone I don’t fully trust. But you can’t buy anything through Netflix so I think it’s a safe one tbh.

RedHelenB · 16/03/2022 07:59

I think yabu if she only watchs it while he's there too.

MintyFreshBreath · 16/03/2022 08:03

We have a 5 package deal and gave DSS access to one of the account. When we found out the ex had the cheek to sign herself up to the spare one we changed the password! DSS doesn’t know what it is, only we do. The ex may well watch on DSS’s account and we can’t stop that but she’s not bloody well stealing one of our spare ones the cheeky mare. Get her own and stop being a cheapskate!

justasking111 · 16/03/2022 08:07

DS uses it at university as do his mates and girlfriend so mine is shared. In exchange I have access to their Disney account. Maybe girlfriend has a Disney account

Faevern · 16/03/2022 08:13

It's the not asking, the entitlement isn't it?

I share the standard plan with my DS, I went on Netflix and it said two devices were streaming. I texted to see if both DS and DGD were on it, they were not. I discovered that a relative who had used my password once on their iPad while staying at my home had been using it ever since. My fault for not changing the password but I was pissed off at the entitlement.

ImAvingOops · 16/03/2022 08:14

Don't think his girlfriend can change the password herself. I think you have to be the account holder and any changes would come to your email for you to confirm. So unless you use the same pass for your email as your Netflix, she couldn't log you out.
I have shared mine. The only thing that's irritating is if they use all your spaces and you can't watch it yourself. But that would be rare and truly cf territory and under those circumstances you should definitely change the password.

If you are paying for 5 users but only need 2 then you could reduce your monthly bill and decide to only pay for 2. Then gf family would have to get their own Netflix. But if they are using your sons space, while he is there or not using it himself, then is that really a problem?