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To not want son to share Netflix password!

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idontgetpaidenoughforthis · 16/03/2022 07:16

Someone is using our Netflix account when everyone in the smiley is at work. I'd got an idea that it was DS (18) girlfriend.

I changed after getting the notification that it was being used on a new device. DS wasn't at home until yesterday and he asked me for the new password to put in his smart tv. Then last night he went to girlfriends house. This morning I got an email notification that the account was signed into on a streaming stick at 23:37. It can only be him at girlfriend's house so her whole family can use it.

AIBU to think I pay for the service and someone else should not get it for free? Or am I being tight-fisted?

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idontgetpaidenoughforthis · 16/03/2022 13:46

@RedHelenB

I think yabu if she only watchs it while he's there too.
It's no tho, the first notification I got was when everyone was at work.
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BananaPlants · 16/03/2022 13:50

She is not some random stranger though. Are you generally tight-fisted?

Londondreams1 · 16/03/2022 13:52

Amazon might make you upgrade in the next bill. Sorry if it has been mentioned . I pay for Amazon for 2 households , they did it automatically when they saw devices used like that .

Londondreams1 · 16/03/2022 13:54

Netflix sorry , it was Netflix that made me upgrade . You have to say how many devices and then if you sneak watch it in another house a few times they let you off but on the regular and you have to upgrade

Gizacluethen · 16/03/2022 13:59

YANBU he doesn't get to give something out that you pay for.

I gave my mum my password. Her husband then gave it to his parents. I did the same and kicked everybody out. If he wants to share it with other people then he can pay for it.

Londondreams1 · 16/03/2022 13:59

After this they just took a higher premium from the account in the next bill, which is fine by me

To not want son to share Netflix password!
Candleabra · 16/03/2022 14:09

@frazzledasarock

This discussion always polarises responses.

There are people on one side who have paid for the service and feel they should get to decide who does and does not use the service.

And the other side who think, well it doesn't cost you anymore for me to use it or you're tight, whinging entitled people.

Wow anyone who thought I was whining and entitled for sticking to the terms and conditions of a service I’d paid for would get short shrift from me.

You want something, you pay for it.

theresAtablet4thatNow · 16/03/2022 14:13

Explain the situation to your son, and if he doesn't respect your wishes, he can pay for his own account.

WoMandalorian · 16/03/2022 14:15

Change the password and log your sons smart tv onto it yourself. That way he can still watch on his tv but doesn't know the password so he can't share

frazzledasarock · 16/03/2022 14:18

@Candleabra I agree with you, I meant the posters whinging that the person who has paid should 'share' or is a tightwad, and that the payer is not losing out on anything blah blah.

Candleabra · 16/03/2022 14:23

@frazzledasarock yes I know what you mean. I mostly find this “sharing” only ever goes one way.

PourSomeLove · 16/03/2022 14:25

It wouldn’t bother me as long as it didn’t affect me using it. My friend uses ours, no point her paying too.
It bothers me because if they fall out she has has access to the account details and could change the password herself!

Presumably you are the account holder so you could reset the password using your email.

You just sound annoyed that she’s getting it for free. But you’d be paying anyway so 🤷🏻‍♀️

OopsIChangedItAgain · 16/03/2022 15:08

Which package do you have?

Ours we can use on just 2 screens at a time, and I let my parents use it. When I first shared my password with them I told them to only use it after 8 o'clock to avoid locking myself or the kids out, they seem to have forgotten this but they use it infrequently so it's not usually a problem.
Until a few weeks ago when I randomly received an email saying that I had upgraded my package to the most expensive 5 screens at a time one.

What had happened was I and my parents were watching something on Netflix and my 4 year old tried to watch something on his tablet. Apparently if you try to watch it on more screens that your package allows a message pops up asking you if you want to upgrade. He did not have to enter the password to confirm this but was easily able to upgrade without me knowing. Even though he was on the kids' profile.

So that's something to be cautious about if you're not on the premium package.

cuno · 16/03/2022 15:15

I think YABU. We share our Netflix with two other households and never had a problem when I wanted to watch something. Never had to ring someone up, you're just making up excuses now. It's only his girlfriend fgs. And no, she can't kick you out of the account, unless you're foolish enough to have the same password for your email!

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 16/03/2022 15:17

This wouldn't even register on things I need to even think about let alone get worked up about. Blimey.

BelleNoir · 16/03/2022 15:18

I share mine with my son's girlfriend and my mom, what's the problem?

SartresSoul · 16/03/2022 15:19

We pay for the family plan and I recently found out that DH let’s both MIL and SIL use it. Found out because I tried watching something one evening only to be told there was already too many screens watching it… I thought we’d been hacked. I was pissed off and changed the password so I could watch something, DH then got a text from SIL asking why it had logged her out Hmm.

Your DS is taking the piss. Change the password and don’t give them the new one.

DelphiniumBlue · 16/03/2022 15:23

It's your account so you get to choose who uses it. DS is in the wrong to be giving it to his GF, as it then limits what you can do - you might prefer for a friend of your to use it, or a family member.

DearlyBeloathed · 16/03/2022 15:25

God, you sound mean.

Squeezita · 16/03/2022 15:25

Change the password, and then enter it yourself for your DS. That way he never knows the new password.

That's what I do with my family.

Bedsheets4knickers · 16/03/2022 15:26

It would bother me that she didn't have the decency to ask you . It wouldn't bother me that it's used while we are out .
Call her out on it and your son . Their is away to go about things .

whumpthereitis · 16/03/2022 15:35

Call me Petty White, but this would bother me too. It’s the lack of courtesy demonstrated by not even asking. If I’m paying for shit, I expect to be asked.

moanriver · 16/03/2022 15:39

Change password. Log into your son's smart TV before he's home and save it. Voila

Pyri · 16/03/2022 15:41

@Bedsheets4knickers

It would bother me that she didn't have the decency to ask you . It wouldn't bother me that it's used while we are out . Call her out on it and your son . Their is away to go about things .
Why on earth would she need to ask the OP?! Presumably the son just said “I’ve got Netflix, let me log in”
Maray1967 · 16/03/2022 15:43

Agree with PP - sit him down and put him straight - it is not for sharing with another family without agreement with you. If he shares it again he won’t get access to it himself.