Aibu to wonder if Botox and fillers now normal?

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I’ve so so many friends that have these now and really do feel I’m the odd one out
Friends all between 30-45 and look amazing! I’ve got to admit I’m very tempted but a bit nervous and also Ttc one last time, so unsure if it’s safe to do if Ttc???
and should I wait! I’m 40 early next year so was thinking about maybe then!
So how many have tried /or already do it? What’s your thoughts? Good?

I have Botox three areas and lip fillers I’m 32 , I’ve had my Botox done 3 times and every time it starts to wear off I look grosse and my wrinkles start showing again. I will have Botox for the the rest of my life now 😆 I love a shiny smooth forehead over wrinkles you should go for it

What will you do, @a12356777, when your jowls and neck go too? What will you do when your lip fillers start to look odd and out of proportion to the rest of your face at the age of 45? What will you do if you find yourself unable to afford botox and filler three times a year? To be having regular botox at the age of 32 and to think you look 'grosse' in your natural state at your age it sounds as if you could invest that money into some therapy to help you with your self-esteem and self-perception.

32?? The world's gone mad.

@a12356777

I have Botox three areas and lip fillers I’m 32 , I’ve had my Botox done 3 times and every time it starts to wear off I look grosse and my wrinkles start showing again. I will have Botox for the the rest of my life now 😆 I love a shiny smooth forehead over wrinkles you should go for it

You will hit 70 with maybe a overfilled forehead and lips. It will look awful and weird.

[quote Clarabe1]@5128gap it ends with you being dissatisfied with your appearance and finding other things to ‘fix’ because thats the thing when you are in your early 40s, it is relatively easy to minimize the affects of aging. Wait until you get into your fifties, you need far more invasive work to get the same affect. It’s a costly and ultimately futile job to keep the signs of getting older at bay. It’s also ends with an obviously older woman looking ridiculous. It’s a money making scam - and shockingly an unregulated one.[/quote]
I'm already 52. To an extent you're right. When you fix one thing it does encourage you to fix another because done well, it looks so good. But I'm all done now and perfectly happy to maintain at this level with the odd top up. If that changes I may have a lower face lift to get it done with, rather than the tinkering. (The poster on this thread who is 50 and has done that looks fabulous) What I will never look is ridiculous. I have eyes, and a mirror, plus an adult DD who favours a very natural look, and would be blisteringly honest if she thought I was heading in that direction. The cost isn't an issue. It's money ive earned, ive no dependents now, and no one is going without for me to indulge myself, after decades of putting others first.

@SilkenBunny

Well hopefully be in a position to get surgery on them too I guess ? Il see what happens. I’d have loads of plastic surgery if I could afford it I absolutely hate the way I look I always have. I get mine done By trainees assisted by a qualified nurse so It’s very cheap so I can afford it. It makes me feel better about how I look so I don’t see the harm.

@a12356777 that's very sad and I hope you find some peace with your appearance. I hope that doesn't sound condescending because I genuinely mean it. Do take care with who does the work especially as you get older as bad work is more obvious the older you get. I guarantee that when you're my age you'll look back on your younger self pre-procedures and wonder what on Earth you were worrying about!

Jesus so many judgemental women if you don’t like it don’t get it done. I’m not judging others for not having it. 32 is a perfect age to start - even younger is better as Botox is preventative it doesn’t cure wrinkles just makes them look better and smooths them out but there still there mildly. If you have no wrinkles at all and have Botox in your twenties it will completely prevent them.

@SilkenBunny thank you I wish I could too - yes maybe🙈I’ve been happy with the work so far but when financial issues are better I will use a better clinic.

"Starting Botox at a young age and having it regularly will weaken the muscles of the face. In time the muscles will become atrophic and not be able to hold the skin up adequately. As a result this will age the skin in the long run.” In her opinion, “preventative Botox is actually speeding up the ageing process of the muscle and skin”.

In addition, Dr Owens explains that because preventative Botox is a relatively new phenomenon, there’s a lack of research around it. “We don't have a load of 70-year-olds that have been having micro-dosed and personalised Botox to check they turned out alright.” But, she adds, “I do think if you attend an expert, you minimise the possibility of looking extremely strange 10 or 20 years down the line.”

I have a few friends who have succumbed to a bit of tweaking. It was barely noticeable at first when we were in our mid to late 30s (probably because they didn't really need it) but, 10 years on and a couple of them are beginning to look a bit 'bride of wildenstein'. However if they're happy, I'm happy.

It's easy to think they look amazing if that look is the norm in your friendship group. I would suspect however, that to the rest of us they will look like women who have Botox and fillers.

Fritillerie
I too watched Inventing Anna and feel Anna Chlumsky does not look at all good for 37. I presume she was wearing some make up and still she looked drawn and grey. She has not aged well.

@doadeer

Oh well dr Owens can piss off. Each to there own I say I love Botox.

I do wonder at the number of people saying they look haggard in early 30s... Have we lost perspective of what looking normal even looks like with the filter generation?
I know lots of mums all through their 30s and I've never thought any of them look bad or need work. They just have normal human skin. 🤷‍♀️

Yes I think it is mainstream now, though I don't understand those in their 20's and 30's and I notice that as people are becoming used to their new look they are having more mls injected and some are looking quite freaky.

I am the other side of 60 and haven't dabbled yet, but some of my friends in their 50's are having little tweaks that look so good I'm tempted to give it a go. One friend had cheek fillers recently and I was surprised at what a difference it made to her whole face.

I fear that once I start it will be a slippery slope.

Anna Chlumsky is 42 isn't she? It was refreshing to see a wrinkled, expressive female face on telly, but actually her skin looked very dry and dehydrated which probably exacerbated the wrinkles. Maybe that was part of the character though?

I admitted earlier that I started botox at 35, now I'm in my late forties I'm starting to wonder whether it was all worth it - less than a year on from when I last had it, my lines all decided to make a reappearance. Ten years of botox has possibly made them less deep but it certainly hasn't prevented them!

Also I have to admit to myself that while it took five years off my face when I was 35 (I was amazed!) it doesn't take any years off my face now - it actually looks a little harsh on some photos when I'm smiling and that in itself is quite ageing.

I didn't realise a smooth shiny forehead was so desirable!

Though the frosted temples, laughter lines around my eyes, and sun-kissed/weather-beaten skin may give the game away ...

Genetics, I suppose - does a high forehead leave room for wrinkles?

Apologies- Anna is 41!

However, she looks drawn compared to actresses her age; Kate Hudson, Ann Hathaway, Jessica Alba. They may well have had work done.

@Gwenhwyfar

" If women are not allowed to have fine lines, or be able have a face that shows expression, then where does that leave those of us who could never afford to have these treatments?"

I do worry about this.

I really wouldn’t worry because the majority of women either can’t afford them or don’t want them.

@a12356777

It's not that people are judgemental: it's that hating the way you look from a young age, as you stated in one of your previous posts, and using expensive and invasive treatments to mediate that would normally be considered indicative of a mental health problem, to be honest.

I’m 39 and none of my friends have Botox or fillers. It’s just not something I think any of us would have done, we all have varying levels of lines and wrinkles but all I see are beautiful natural faces. I hate the way fillers etc change peoples faces and expressions.

Oh well dr Owens can piss off. Each to there own I say I love Botox.

Remember listen to experts until you disagree.

I'm hating all this what we are teaching our youngsters.

I've seen these scifi horror films but we seem to keep rushing forward towards them

There's a Ben Elton book that saw this coming. This other Eden? When a character meets an older woman without cosmetic surgery and can't believe how deformed she is.