Page 14 | Would you pay £50 to attend a baby shower next week

Donewithit888 · 2022-03-12T09:11:21+00:00

£50 includes the baby shower room hire, present (collective) and transport costs to get there, as it's around an hour from mine.

LethargeMarg · 12/03/2022 17:08

My first instinct was definitely not but thinking back to my sisters baby shower we definitely had to pay something (maybe £15???) for all the games and stuff 🙄and then buy a posh pub lunch and own drinks and a present so was probably more than £50 for all that.

woodhill · 12/03/2022 17:08

[quote MabelsApron]@woodhill From recollection what she asked for was brand new really effing expensive baby clothes.[/quote]
Very cheeky

bellinisurge · 12/03/2022 17:19

No. I'd also smile sweetly while thinking fuck off and ease that person out of my life.

Geranium1984 · 12/03/2022 17:45

I haven't had a proper babyshower as mine was in one of the lockdowns but as a surprise a handful of friends came over with some food, bubbles, balloons, cupcakes and a few gifts and we sat in the garden. Obviously no venue hire or transport costs but I'd expect if I was going to a properly organised on that there would be a small cost from each guest. Though most people hold them at home. I don't think it's something the other to be organises.

KarmaStar · 12/03/2022 17:49

Not sure if it's your event and Yabu for expecting guests to pay or you are a potential guest and Yanbu to not go.😀.
But I would not go.

PeachCottonTree · 12/03/2022 17:54

The sister and Mum should be footing the cost for the room, decor & food since they are hosting and should have selected a venue within their budget. Guests should be free to bring a gift within their budget rather than be told they are contributing £25 to a big ticket item.

sausagesandchamp · 12/03/2022 18:06

If I was the mother-to-be, I'd be mortified that had been arranged and requested on my behalf. Does she know?

luckylavender · 12/03/2022 18:07

I wouldn't pay £50 to attend any week

crosstalk · 12/03/2022 18:14

I'd rather celebrate the baby's birth at some point when you know what size the baby is and what the parents want. My DC were 10 and 9lbs and I'm tiny so pretty clothes would have been wasted.

Rather than a baby shower I would have wanted someone to do something afterwards. Even if to come in for half an hour so I could shower!

As for the reveals - ridiculoso. Until the 20C red was for boys and blue for girls. It's all marketing.

Movingsoon21 · 12/03/2022 18:15

It’s a shame they’ve been so prescriptive about the gift but I don’t think it’s unusual to pay for your own food (so venue hire would be similar) and you cant really be annoyed about transport costs - surely it will always cost something to get to a venue unless everyone lives within walking distance?

I would say most baby showers I’ve been to have been at someone’s house and I’ve chosen my own gift, usually around £20. Probably cost c.£5 to get to them as not too far away. But I have been to a couple that were afternoon tea style and they would have cost the same as the others, plus food. Usually around £20 for food and drink so would be around £50 total.

Obviously if you’re struggling for money then you won’t be able to afford it but I don’t think it’s an unreasonable ask unless most people invited are struggling financially. This would be a totally normal spend in my circle and we’re not a flash bunch (mostly teachers, physios, social workers, etc).

Hintofreality · 12/03/2022 18:17

I wouldn’t even attend a baby shower for a baby I was at the conception of!

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 12/03/2022 18:34

I've been to 1 or 2 afternoon tea style showers where there was a cost "per head". I've no problem paying that as it's a child free treat for myself. That and the cost of a gift, and transport to a venue an hour away would come to around 50 quid anyway.

As an aside, are parties only for rich people? Those without lots of money, or family/friends without lots of money can't celebrate? Surely it's not too offensive to say x event is next weekend, tenner a head, we'd love if you could join us? I'd much rather do that than never be able to celebrate anyone...

HELLITHURT · 12/03/2022 18:42

Fuck me what happened to buying a mothercare outfit when the baby was born?

MrsDThomas · 12/03/2022 18:42

Went to my 1st (and only) in January. Cost me £12 for afternoon tea then i (and the granny to be) over indulged on the prosecco.

£50 is a huge no.

HELLITHURT · 12/03/2022 18:44

@Anotherdayanotherdollar

I've been to 1 or 2 afternoon tea style showers where there was a cost "per head". I've no problem paying that as it's a child free treat for myself. That and the cost of a gift, and transport to a venue an hour away would come to around 50 quid anyway.

As an aside, are parties only for rich people? Those without lots of money, or family/friends without lots of money can't celebrate? Surely it's not too offensive to say x event is next weekend, tenner a head, we'd love if you could join us? I'd much rather do that than never be able to celebrate anyone...

Why are you celebrating someone being pregnant? Celebrate the babies birthday with a gift?

So nothing to do with wealth but everything to do with being grabby.

mysunandstars · 12/03/2022 18:54

When I was pregnant I was so worried someone would throw me a baby shower I booked a couple of tables at Slug & Lettuce, paid for some finger food & invited my friends & family just to come & spend the afternoon with me. Didn't want a penny spent on me or baby, just their company. Was lovely. I

Cognoscenti · 12/03/2022 19:00

@mysunandstars

When I was pregnant I was so worried someone would throw me a baby shower I booked a couple of tables at Slug & Lettuce, paid for some finger food & invited my friends & family just to come & spend the afternoon with me. Didn't want a penny spent on me or baby, just their company. Was lovely. I

That's a good idea, I should have thought of something like that! I panicked a bit when one of my friends asked if I was having one and possibly overdid the "oh definitely not, they're awful" bit to make completely sure I didn't end up with a surprise one. 😂

Sceptre86 · 12/03/2022 19:07

No but I don't believe that other people should be paying for these types of events. If you want a baby shower or a family member wants to host one for you then they cover the costs. If that means they can stretch to homemade sandwiches cake and tea at home then that is fine but if they want to go to a hotel or hire a room then it's up to them to absorb that cost. I'd be buying my own present with a gift receipt and they could exchange it if they got doubles or didn't want it.

SafelySoftly · 12/03/2022 19:13

No baby showers are tacky, chavvy and cheap.

Just wai my til the baby arrives safely and well and send a present then.

peboh · 12/03/2022 19:18

No.
I have no issue attending a baby shower, and enjoy them mostly, but I wouldn't pay towards the shower. They're usually done in someone's house/backyard.

Kite22 · 12/03/2022 19:27

No, but I am with Jennifer2rm too.

LowlandLucky · 12/03/2022 19:28

April fools day is a few weeks yet

Kite22 · 12/03/2022 19:29

I also object to people deciding something, arranging it, and then presenting others with the bill they have then divided amongst people too.

If people want to club together to get a present, then they need to agree to that first. If people want to share transport they need to agree to that first. Not have it imposed upon them.

LethargeMarg · 12/03/2022 20:07

@MrsDThomas

Went to my 1st (and only) in January. Cost me £12 for afternoon tea then i (and the granny to be) over indulged on the prosecco.

£50 is a huge no.

But once you've paid £12 for afternoon tea, Then i presume extra for the Prosecco (£20 a bottle in a cafe or pub) and bought a gift it can't be much change from £50? I agree it seems a lot in just not sure if there's no other costs if it's that much more than what you'd usually pay ??

strawberry2017 · 12/03/2022 21:14

No and I also wouldn't want my friends to spend so much on attending something for me either.