Would you pay £50 to attend a baby shower next week

[Donewithit888]

£50 includes the baby shower room hire, present (collective) and transport costs to get there, as it's around an hour from mine.

@Donewithit888

I'm not going to back out now, it's fuel costs, it was requested that we send £25 each for her present, forgot what it even is, by her sister, and most people just sent it right away like it was 5 pence.

If its organised transport as opposed to car sharing, then the cost doesn't sound that ott tbh. Do you have to pay for your meal on top?

😂

People are charging guests for the cost of the venue hire now? Might as well start charging for weddings!

ONLY if it were a close family member... Like sister.
Despise baby showers and asking guests to pay towards it is shocking

Nope, I’m still bitter about the only one that I did go to 15 years ago.. there was a sweepstake for the weight of the baby which I got correct and when I asked the mum’s friend that organised the shower for my winnings she told me that she had given the ££ to the new mum because she thought it would be nice and that I wouldn’t mind. Grrr

LOL not a chance. What a fucking cheek.

Not sure whether I should be clicking on YABU or YANBU though @Donewithit888

@15MinutesOlder

Nope, I’m still bitter about the only one that I did go to 15 years ago.. there was a sweepstake for the weight of the baby which I got correct and when I asked the mum’s friend that organised the shower for my winnings she told me that she had given the ££ to the new mum because she thought it would be nice and that I wouldn’t mind. Grrr

That's virtually theft. I'd have been fuming.

Oh this reminds of that programme about the hotel in Liverpool? They featured a baby shower and it was so tacky and they were all orange!
Never been to one, I just gave my friends a present when they had kids. Is that not the norm?

Jeez, how much is the room to hire if they're expecting £50 from each guest (unless I've got that wrong)

pay me £500 & I'd consider going

I wouldn’t event pay £5! Don’t throw a party if you can’t afford it.

Fuck no.

I wouldn't pay £50 to attend anything of the sort. I don't think I'd like anyone that would expect me too either.

I was offered the same but it was a 2.5 hour drive away. When I asked why it was because the sibling hosting the shower thought if she invited enough friends she could do a big fancy do without having to pay for anything.

No WAY

It's a definite no from me.

Maybe take it as a hint for whats to come if you are close friends or related to the expectant parents.

Have done in the past when I had friends with kids. Now I don’t and one of the best benefits is not having to go to and cough up for £££ bloody baby showers (and inevitably the newborn gift as well).

So no, absolutely not!

If it was a close friend and lots of my others friends were going so I know I’d have a good time, yes I would

Surely these events are held in someone’s house ? A room hire suggests a large number of people.

No way

Massively cheeky to ask for payment towards room hire!

Presents are usually bought by the guests and they can decide how much to spend.

For someone I was close to such as a good friend or family member I wouldn't mind spending £25 on a gift but I'd rather choose something for them than be told what I was to give.

It also massively depends on budget - I made a hamper up for a friend of mine that had a baby last year but I managed to pick up lots of lovely baby "essential" bits in sales/poundland/home bargains and used a wee craft basket and cellophane I had from an Easter craft and made the hamper for £10 all in.

To some people £25 isn't a big deal but when you then have travel etc on top of that it all adds up and definitely should not be expected!

No Americanised nonsense and too expensive.

I might. If it’s a close friend I’d easily spend £20-25 on a gift. One hour travelling could be another £20 for train or would be way more for cab. Chip in for room hire £5 each for a nice venue. If they took off the joint gift because you could say you’d rather choose a present yourself once the baby is born would you pay £25 to go?
I’ve never paid a charge to go to a baby shower but I’ve brought food contributions and I once hosted one which involved me buying decorations, games etc.

@15MinutesOlder

Nope, I’m still bitter about the only one that I did go to 15 years ago.. there was a sweepstake for the weight of the baby which I got correct and when I asked the mum’s friend that organised the shower for my winnings she told me that she had given the ££ to the new mum because she thought it would be nice and that I wouldn’t mind. Grrr

I’m livid on your behalf!

Absolutely not. Baby showers are getting as ridiculous as OTT hen parties by the sounds of it!

@Donewithit888

It's her sister and Mum who've organized it all and requested the room hire and present at those costs

Incredibly grabby. If they want to give her a nice shower, they pay for it, not the guests. I really dislike baby showers. We used to knit a few cardigans for the mum to be and buy a gift.

I'm American. The only showers I've ever been to have been small events held in people's homes, sometimes all women, sometimes men and women. These parties are usually held during the day and there are simple homemade refreshments--sandwiches, muffins, crudite, fruit salad, cupcakes, etc. People talk. People usually bring some kind of present for the baby. The mother-to-be unwraps the presents and everyone oohs and ahhs over the tiny little outfits and wonders over the complicated gadgets and she says thank you and everyone hugs her. No huge hall is needed.