Would you pay £50 to attend a baby shower next week

[Donewithit888]

£50 includes the baby shower room hire, present (collective) and transport costs to get there, as it's around an hour from mine.

It includes room and gift but what about food and drinks? I’d pay if that was included.

It's her sister and Mum who've organized it all and requested the room hire and present at those costs

@YouHaveYourFathersBreasts

No way, even if I could afford it right now. You don’t invite people to a party and then charge them to attend.

I don't think you get it .

People pay to HOST the shower for the mum - the friends pay for it all

I'm

Eh no

How much of the £50 is to cover the cost of transport, and is it worth it to you? If the location is an hour’s easy drive and you don’t mind driving then I wouldn’t pay, but if you would need to get complicated public transport there and back, or a taxi, or you’d like to have a drink then it might be worth it?

No, I have never been to a baby shower and wouldn’t pay to go. But, I’m presuming that this hasn’t been arranged today and you’ve just received the invite? Did you already agree to go?

Another no. I have been to a couple. Not my idea of fun .certainly wouldn't pay £50

Is this a long standing arrangement or have you literally just been invited? Seems cheeky and reeks of trying to up the numbers if it’s a last minute invite.

Who on Earth hosts a party then expects the guests to pay for the room hire?

Was there any discussion about the venue? About the gift? Have they just arranged what they wanted then told guests that their share is?!

No.

But there must have been discussions around this?

Hahahaha NO. A baby shower is an event to extract gifts from everyone you know.
Get on with it if that's what you wanna do, but its extra extra grabby to then expect people to pay their way in regards to room hire and refreshments too. So no, I absolutely would not.
I'd also never expect my friends, or family members to attend such an event.

What is the breakdown of the actual costs? Travel costs aren’t a part of the CFery here.

Absolutely not, ridiculous.

Does the room hire include food and/or drinks?
I don’t think £50 is too much since it includes the gift and travel costs, but I would only do it for a good friend or family member, and definitely wouldn’t ask for that much for my own baby shower.

I'm not going to back out now, it's fuel costs, it was requested that we send £25 each for her present, forgot what it even is, by her sister, and most people just sent it right away like it was 5 pence.

Nooooooo!
Mind you, you probably couldn't pay me £50 to attend either!

Absolutely no way. I hate what baby showers and hen do’s have become. Grabby excuses for being spoilt and the centre of attention.

I don't think you get it .

People pay to HOST the shower for the mum - the friends pay for it all

Fuck that. Sounds like a joyless transaction. OP, what’s the gift? (Being nosy)

I'm not friends with the sort of grabby people who have baby showers thankfully, I wouldn't have dreamt of having one. I loathe all that sort of American nonsense.

Likewise..uou would have to pay me to go

@YouHaveYourFathersBreasts

I don't think you get it .

People pay to HOST the shower for the mum - the friends pay for it all

Fuck that. Sounds like a joyless transaction. OP, what’s the gift? (Being nosy)

Joyless and wrong 🤣

The guests don't pay to host, the host does! Guests bring presents.

@Gowithme

I'm not friends with the sort of grabby people who have baby showers thankfully, I wouldn't have dreamt of having one. I loathe all that sort of American nonsense.

The thing that gets me is that, often, you're still expected to buy a gift when the baby is born. My understanding is that the baby shower gift is instead of the newborn gift. It seems to have tranated strangely over here.

They asked you to pay £25 towards the gift??

So they are dictating what present you buy and expecting you to pay to attend? Sod that!