DP doesnt want to see me- who's unreasonable

[Blossomtree12]

I have a cold, which a caught from my DS. Lft all negative. I feel OK just a chesty cough.

DP said they don't want to see me over the weekend because they don't want my cold. I said if we lived together you couldn't just kick me out because of a cold.

Who's being unreasonable?

I actively stay away from people with colds, not because I'm worried about Covid but I have almost zero tolerance of being ill.

I'm with your DP, sorry.

It's hard to know he's being unreasonable.

Is he in a job where he can't risk becoming sick?

*who's being unreasonable

But you don't live together.

He doesn't want to get sick. Is that really so hard to understand?

YABU. Why would you want to potentially make him sick? keep your germs at home.

What's with the they? Are you trying to hide your sexes?

I'm with your dp. I don't think it's personal just think your dp doesn't want a cold. And at least you get some time to yourself this weekend and won't have to look after dp next time they're ill! Win win!

@Benjoir

It's hard to know he's being unreasonable.

Is he in a job where he can't risk becoming sick?

They are more at risk at their job to get sick. They could have sick time off

You sound like hard work.

They were around me yesterday morning and I still had a cold then so don't really know why now they have decided they can't catch it from me

YABU

YABU I think.

I don’t like to be around my partner when either of us are ill as I know I’m a bad patient and he drives me insane with snoring when he has a cold. Why not just have a weekend getting better? You get to rest, he doesn’t have to worry about getting ill or being irritated that you’ve insisted on coming round when he doesn’t want you to. It would be different if you lived together but you don’t 🤷‍♀️

You don't live together though. Who wants to catch someone's cold if they can help it? Yabu

YABU

YABU.

You don't live together so it's sensible that he stays away.

As far as you're concerned, it's just a cold. But if he catches it, it'll probably turn into full blown manflu. Never mind him not wanting to catch it, why on earth do you want him to? An ill male adult is rarely fun to be around.

And one of the advantages of not living together is not having to spend time with the other person when they're sick. You don't live together, so he's not wrong to enjoy the pros of that.

YABU.

You are sick.
Being near you could make others sick.
He doesn't want to get it.
Alot of people with symptoms have negative LFTs initially before they become positive also.

I would avoid you too until you are better.

YABU

Daft.

If she doesn’t want to risk it then she doesn’t want to risk it. You need to respect that.

I have a cold not covid. Before covid people went to work with colds, round people's houses. I don't understand why colds are being treated similar to covid now

He or she sounds tedious and needs to man/woman up. It's a cold, colds are everywhere. Avoiding them is as pointless as avoiding sunlight.

COVID has made us all crazy, we need to expose are immune systems to germs that's literally how they get stronger and prepare to fight stuff like covid,

Why are you being so needy, you don't live with your DP, you don't need to be together 24/7 ... just chill out and concentrate on getting better.

You, sorry.

I caught "just a cold" from a friend last month and it took me 3 weeks to get rid of the snot and phlegm. Just as I was starting to feel normal again OH brought home another shitty viral thing from work and here we go again.

Some people just don't fight off colds and whatnot as easy as others, those tend to be the people who really try to avoid them.