To be annoyed he did not let me know the plane landed?

[Trippingslippingx1]

AIBU
Made friends with a guy last summer
He works same field as me
Friends until January when he admitted he liked me and asked me out - he organised a second date before we even went out on first date

He admitted he wants to go slow
He is 38/M I am 35/F
Both never married and no children

Been about two months now of weekly meetups - various activities - Not staying over or sex yet but he is very warm and intimate when we are together. My choice as I have been rushed into sex in the past with disaster zone all over it. It is a strong boundary of mines that I do not have sex or start staying over until we are in a relationship.

He has gone on a three week break back to his home country

I texted him a bit in the airport - no news since he landed over there and he did not respond to my last text whilst he was in the airport. That was on Monday

I am now freaking out I have not heard from him. Check plane landed safely 😂

AIBU to think it has weird he has not let me know he is safe?

@AlternativePerspective

Tbh from what I’ve read on here this is the norm for dating.

You have your answer now at least so you can move on. But I would be really tempted to get your friend to join up and contact him or whatever it is you do on these apps,and try to set up a date for some time soon.

For all you know he might not actually be in India.

Anyway, at least you know where you stand, and TBH I would prepare for loads of this kind of thing while you’re on te dating scene.

Definately. Nah I think he is in India - he is just not that interested in me, clearly thinks he has a better match out there for him.

Wow, OP you sound a but mental and extremely needy and the posters here who create elaborate scenarios in their heads are equally as mental. When I go home to see my family (in Germany so not even as remote as I India) I also don't have time to text regularly. If my boyfriend blocked me or sent me some insane message about how he's too beautiful to be treated badly () because I was too busy with family to reply, I would think they are crazy

@XelaM

Wow, OP you sound a but mental and extremely needy and the posters here who create elaborate scenarios in their heads are equally as mental. When I go home to see my family (in Germany so not even as remote as I India) I also don't have time to text regularly. If my boyfriend blocked me or sent me some insane message about how he's too beautiful to be treated badly () because I was too busy with family to reply, I would think they are crazy

Well, I agree partly with this.

What proof does anyone have that he’s married or gone to India to get married, apart from the fact that he’s Indian?

Talk about racial prejudices.

@XelaM

Wow, OP you sound a but mental and extremely needy and the posters here who create elaborate scenarios in their heads are equally as mental. When I go home to see my family (in Germany so not even as remote as I India) I also don't have time to text regularly. If my boyfriend blocked me or sent me some insane message about how he's too beautiful to be treated badly () because I was too busy with family to reply, I would think they are crazy

I say partly agree because it’s transpired he’s just not into OP considering he’s back on dating apps. Equally amazed at the responses on here.

Chalk it down to experience @Trippingslippingx1
A lucky escape.
What a rotter.

You are saying you would have no reaction to getting to know a guy for 10 months, dating him for 2 months with talk of going slow and long term - seeing him on Sunday before he left to him completely ghosting? I have still heard nothing from him. I did not send any further message except a short one on Wednesday. (Thanks for the intervention ladies)

Then finding out he clearly has has the ability to use a dating app back in the city we live.

It is hard to really explain the situation clearly through a dating forum but my friends say I have acted extremly calmly and have under reacted given the type of chat he was giving me before be left.

I think I just needed somewhere to vent. 😂

@LadyEloise1

Chalk it down to experience *@Trippingslippingx1* A lucky escape. What a rotter.

Thanks doll - definately - lots of them around. Onwards and upwards 🙂