Let me know the good things about being single please

[Robinred81]

I’ve recently come out of a marriage and am trying to get my head around being single. Please tell me what you enjoy about it.
So far the only thing I can come up with is not having to share a bed

Loads.
No sharing when you don't want to share - food, snacks, the TV remote, the duvet.
No one else's farts, toilet mess, kitchen mess, washing, washing up, noise.

God I miss living on my own! I love being selfish and suiting myself.

The freedom to talk to whoever you want, watch what you want, have random trips as and when suited, if you have to stay late at the office, you have the freedom too, ect. It's beautiful, yes sometimes I do miss the connection, but other times it's freedom.

Since being divorced I have been proposed to twice and got some beautiful diamond rings really struggle to make it over the line to being married because in all honesty being single.
I’ve had some amazing experiences some fantastic dates some fantastic holidays some fantastic shags the idea of being tied to one person for the rest of my life now just seems utterly incomprehensible

For me the best part of being single is not dealing with angry ex sucking the joy out of everything, putting all the mental load on me, getting us into more and more debt, making false accusations, generally being a horrible controlling bastard.

Everything @hawkins001 said! I love living with DP, but I definitely miss the lack of accountability. The freedom to do as you please, without having to run it by someone else. Not having to consider their plans, etc. I lived alone for six years and it felt somehow indulgent to be selfish (for want of a better word)

OP, you can do whatever you like. The freedom is overwhelming at first. Once you adjust to it, you'll be reluctant to give it up as you'll like it. That's the truth. Embrace it.

I'm only just starting to enjoy it but things so far include
complete quiet and privacy when I want it
No horrible farts/ nose picking
I can buy treat things for myself and just enjoy them at my own pace
My bedroom has become a sanctuary of comfort
complete financial control

I'm so, so jealous OP. There are no end to the positives. Sharing space with other people is exhausting. You have peace, calm, tranquility, cleanliness, fragrant air, total freedom. You don't have to explain anything to anybody.

I loved being single. I took a very special man to make me want to live with someone again.
Loved watching what I wanted on TV
Loved being a slob and not judged
Loved having the house how I liked it and no compromising e.g no signed sports shirt in a frame
Lie - ins when I felt like it
Loved going on dates
When I first was single it was a hard step but I really did grow to love it

You have your own private space and can please yourself. Enjoy it!

• not having to share a bed
• no pressure to have sex
• if you have kids, you're in charge all of the time (which is draining most of the time but other times liberating!)
• eat what you want for dinner
• use your vibrator more
• don't have to share the remote
• don't have to compromise on many things
• go and shag who you like with no strings

All the above plus not having to hear the Match of the Day theme tune ever again 🤣

My ex spent all weekend watching sports, would only eat chicken, listened to music that hurt my ears and hated cats. Life is bliss on my own in comparison!

So many things!
Ownership of remote control
No in law crap
No one to cook for

The single life is the only life where you don’t have to compromise. How tiresome it is to compromise the whole time!!!

The thrill of new beginnings.
No rules.
Feeling young and free again.
Oh my God I loved it!!

No Talk Sport
No match of the day
No passive aggressive man sulking
No wet towels all over the bathroom floor
No more bad sex
On the flip side
Autonomy and freedom

I’m so jealous, and I’m allegedly happily married! I loved living by myself, but didn’t appreciate it quite enough at the time

It can feel rubbish when first living alone. All the virtues people are extolling sound alien and unlikeable at times.

But then something happens (as long as you stuck with it and don't jump into seeing other people) and you start finding yourself. I've been seperated for three months now. I love it. I hated it at first. It's a grieving process. Get through the process and you'll be so happy. I love love love living without a man. My house is so much tidier without half as much effort, I come home to peace and I don't dread getting out of the car and coming home anymore. I listen to MY music when I want to and as loud as I want. I haven't really watched a lot of telly. I got so bored watching telly every night with ex. Now I can and do read books, drink wine and dance around my living room, see my friends, have more money as although we went 50/50 he ate so much that I have more money now! My sheets day clean, sometimes I switch sides so I have clean sheet feeling for longer

You will get there if you trust the process and don't jump into needing male attention to feel OK about yourself. Don't isolate yourself, get out, make plans, get a haircut. Do nice things for yourself.

No wife work!
No sharing the duvet!
No arguments over cooking

Thanks everyone. You’re all making me feel a lot better about the situation

I definitely agree with the poster who mentioned that their bedroom has become their sanctuary. I redecorated mine, hung my pictures, bought new bedding and throws, have lovely candles and basically made it Into a super cosy retreat.
I eat more healthily now, drink less, run more. I got a cat, see my family more often, have dinner parties. I’ve made some wonderful new friends and don’t feel any guilt about popping over to theirs or going out with them. Generally a lot happier now I’m not treading on eggshells.

It's wonderful. The best bit is never having to compromise. If I only want toast for dinner, I have toast for dinner. I always know how much money I have. Oh and I don't have to carry the mental load for someone else. Letting go of that resentment is a game changer. My life is so much happier without feeling taken advantage of, Every. Single. Day.

Whole bed to yourself.
Watch what you like on tv.
Have whatever you like to eat.
Don't have to clean up after a grown adult.
Can decorate house however you like.

@JiannaTheWitchQueen

It can feel rubbish when first living alone. All the virtues people are extolling sound alien and unlikeable at times.

But then something happens (as long as you stuck with it and don't jump into seeing other people) and you start finding yourself. I've been seperated for three months now. I love it. I hated it at first. It's a grieving process. Get through the process and you'll be so happy. I love love love living without a man. My house is so much tidier without half as much effort, I come home to peace and I don't dread getting out of the car and coming home anymore. I listen to MY music when I want to and as loud as I want. I haven't really watched a lot of telly. I got so bored watching telly every night with ex. Now I can and do read books, drink wine and dance around my living room, see my friends, have more money as although we went 50/50 he ate so much that I have more money now! My sheets day clean, sometimes I switch sides so I have clean sheet feeling for longer

You will get there if you trust the process and don't jump into needing male attention to feel OK about yourself. Don't isolate yourself, get out, make plans, get a haircut. Do nice things for yourself.

Wow I needed this today, such great advice so brilliantly put. I jumped too quick into the Male attention thing but this is really brilliant

Yep, definitely making your bedroom your private, safe sanctuary.

Being inside your own head (when you're with someone else, you stop focusing on yourself and who you are).

Doing what you want when you want.

No more shaving!!

Not having to look at his miserable face and putting up with another bad mood.

Not feeling 6 inches small...