To not want to go to bed at 730?

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Everything I read about dcsleep suggests to try to sleep when they do, but going to bed at 730 is a bit depressing as an adult … or AIBU?

I mean, it's depressing if you're doing it for years, but in general that phase only lasts 6 months or so.

Depends how tired you are 🤷‍♀️

I have never heard of that - EVER. Only 'sleep when the baby sleeps' when they're around to 8-10 months old. But not 'go to bed when your kids go.' Where on earth did you hear that?

I never slept when the baby slept. I have too much FOMO

Our kids don't go to bed that early.

Agree with Insta, if I'm exhausted I'll go to bed whenever I get the chance. Especially if likely to be disturbed through the night

How old are they?

Adults don't go to bed that early regularly generally.

Our kids (baby and toddler) go to bed around 8, asleep by 8:30 then we go at around 10.

I go to bed at that time a couple of nights a week, out of choice, it’s lovely. I did it more often when I had really tiny babies, that was less out of choice, I was exhausted but knew I would be up with them in the night, getting up early in the morning and looking after them all day. You do what you need to do.

And yeh my kids have never gone to bed at 7.30 so I'm probably jealous that it's even an option 😆

That's more about daytime napping and stuff with newborns, when you're up a lot in the night. If you have a bad sleeper then you might voluntarily go to bed to get some sleep in the evening while your partner looks after the baby though!

I do get really tired. It’s just otherwise life is get up, go to work, come home, manage crotchety DC, bath and bed for them and bed for me.

Mine didn't have a bedtime for the first few months. They just snoozed on me while we watched some telly.

Go to bed when you're tired. YABU to be making a mountain out of a mole hill here.

I have always thought that meant when they are babies and you sleep during the day when they do, not at night too?

I assume you’re talking about a baby before ) months?

I just kept DC down with us until about 4 months so they went to ‘sleep’ in the living room with us with lights and TV on low. Went upstairs with us at 10/11 at our bedtime, had a feed, went to sleep again.

From about 4 months I felt comfortable putting them down upstairs working backwards from our 10/11 bedtime so 9pm by about 5 months, 8pm by 6 months etc.

I did, and I credit that choice for getting a great amount of sleep in the early post partum days/year. But I like a solid 8-9 hours a night and am an early riser

Also you could just rest/read/chill out if you don't want to sleep.

Depends when our baby was newborn I went to bed at 8.30pm till midnight while dp did any feeds, then I did a 1am feed and any feeds after that. Meant we both got blocks of sleep. Didn’t have any naps in the day as I wanted to get shit done! But that block of sleep at night helped massively even though we didn’t get any evenings together for a few months.

• 6 not )

I can't do it...I sometimes grab a nap in the day with baby if it falls whilst my older one is at nursery.

In the evening I want to hang out woth hubby so baby goes bed at 6.30 abd I go up at 9

Not a newborn no.

I don’t like doing it every night because I have other things to do as you say. But it doesn’t have to be every night - if you’re tired and think you might benefit from it then why not

Bed at 7.30 sounds absolutely wonderful.

But anyway, depends on how your DC sleep. If you're going to be woken up multiple times in the night, then it's not a bad idea. If your kids sleep through then it's not necessary

Do you mean when people say to do that during the day? I've not heard about doing it at night , go to bed at whatever time suits you

I secretly loved going to bed when DD did when sleep was at its worst. It didn’t last forever but it was lush to just jack in responsibility for adulthood each night and have lovely, lovely sleep.

DD was AWFUL and I only survived by going to bed between 6 and 8pm til she was about one. She sleeps through now and I’m still an early to bed bird, but have plenty of nights out. I don’t look back thinking “Oh, the pub nights I missed! Oh, the emptying of the dishwasher I didn’t do!”

It is - but when it's a choice between that and not sleeping sometimes needs must. It's not fun but it's not forever, I know I certainly did it when mine was a baby.