Sharing bed sheets, is it me?

[MakeMineALarge1]

Ok I really don't know if I am being weird here, but I have my sheets on my bed that I share with my husband and my daughter has hers that she shares with her boyfriend.
I bought myself some new bedding last week, I have used it once, washed it etc and now she has put it on her bed!
I don't know why but it makes me uneasy, obviously its washed between uses etc, I can't verbalise it but if makes me uncomfortable.

Yanbu , each bed has its own dedicated sheets.

Really hated it once when we used to have au pairs, and I’d shown a particular woman where her bedding was, spare set etc. Found that she’d come down to the main airing cupboard and taken the bedding for my bed. Didn’t like that at all.

@HoppingPavlova

Couldn’t get annoyed tbh. I have several adult kids here and the bed linen is interchangeable, none is ‘assigned’ to each person. It would be the same for us except we have a different sized bed so have our own.

We are not precious though, if we have family or people we know well to stay and people give up beds for guests, if it’s for less than a week we don’t even change the sheets when they go. We don’t have guests that shit in beds or similar (and every bed has a waterproof protector so while we would change sheets in such a scenario, mattress would be fine). I have enough washing as it is without adding to it with stuff like this.

You don't change the sheets after someone else has slept in it - minger - so guests sleep in a bed of yours and then you will get straight in it? Really?

@Wafflesnsniffles I genuinely cannot remember the last time I had o/n guests, but yes, do you know what I would buy them new bedding, you can pick up a set so cheaply I wouldn't hesitate.

For those who are assuming I am obsessed with hygiene, I can assure you I am not, far from it.
I have no issue staying in hotels, in fact I love staying away
But in my house, we all have our own bedding, sheets, pillow cases, duvet covers it all gets washed then folded together so when you get it out of the cupboard you get a full set

@MakeMineALarge1

All bedding is kept in one place

But why don't you just keep your own bedding in your bedroom? Surely there's a drawer, shelf or wardrobe that you could tuck your bedding away into?

@tashface

I have a divan bed in the spare room all bedding is in there - to put it in my room I would have to empty a drawer or make space

[quote MakeMineALarge1]@tashface

I have a divan bed in the spare room all bedding is in there - to put it in my room I would have to empty a drawer or make space[/quote]
Sounds like it would probably be worth it though. One set of folded sheets wouldn't take up that much space.

What about putting it in one of those plastic storage bags and sliding it under your bed?

In my house I have sorted it so this can't happen.

My spread is king size, the spare is a double and the dc are singles. If I were you OP I would invest in a new duvet a size up from what you have now then she can't use your bedding. Plus having a bigger quilt than is intended for the bed size is bloody lovely!

I don't think OP should be changing where she keeps her sheets. She has said that to DD that they are only to be used by her. That should be enough.

Apart from the fact she has taken your bedding which just needs a conversation surely, I don’t get the ick factor.

What about in hotels?

DDs bed needs changing to a single. Problem solved.

@Wallywobbles she bought her own double
This never happened when she had a single

You don't have a bedding problem, you have a cheeky mare of a daughter problem. If she can't treat your belongings with respect, she can get out of your house.

[quote MakeMineALarge1]@Wafflesnsniffles I genuinely cannot remember the last time I had o/n guests, but yes, do you know what I would buy them new bedding, you can pick up a set so cheaply I wouldn't hesitate.[/quote]
Would you throw it away after their visit? Or keep it for their next visit........... potentially 3 years later.
Or just do what most people would do wash it and reuse. Or put bedding you already own on the visiting peoples bed.

What your daughter does is definately not ok. But buying bedding just for an occasional guest which you then might be throwing away - thats a crime against the environment.

You don't change the sheets after someone else has slept in it - minger - so guests sleep in a bed of yours and then you will get straight in it? Really?

Well, yes. I think the positive here is that I don’t invite complete strangers, or the homeless to sleep on our beds. We’re all quite happy sleeping in sheets a guest known to us has been in. Another fact that may shock you, none of us have ever become ill or adversely affected by this. In fact, quite the opposite as spare minutes in my days are generally extremely limited so no stress by having to fit an extra load of bedding in an already full laundry schedule. In spare minutes I do have I’d rather dick about on Mumsnet than run around with additional loads of laundry.

No sharing bed sheets or towels in this house.

I'd be more annoyed that she'd taken them without asking? Why did she think she could take them?

We haven't had overnight guests for ages, but I think I'd buy new.

Ok that's a whole new level of ridiculous. What unbelievably wasteful behaviour.

Did I miss it - has anyone answered the question of why they would sleep in hotel sheets slept in by countless strangers, but think it's 'ick' for members of their own family, or guests they know,to use the same (washed) sheets?

@Wafflesnsniffles
I bought a duvet cover to fit a king size duvet. I had no use for it after so donated it

Makeminealarge - thats ridiculously wasteful. Of your money and just generally. Imagine if we all did that........ charity shops would be full of bedding!
Why is a used duvet cover in a charity shop fine for other people but not you?

I think you have issues......... go for counselling or something! (sorry if that sounds blunt but wastefulness really irks me. the environment doesnt like it either)

I'd be annoyed, but don't think I'd have the ick.

That said, i do remember that my first boyfriend used to 'share' bedding (obviously clean) with his parents, and that used to give me the ick. Guess I've mellowed a fair bit with age

Haha counselling for 1 duvet cover that I had no use for after that I donated.
Wow and what pray tell will a counsellor for for me?

Can't even remember if I donated it it gave it. Either way someone made use of it.
Love the thought of going for counselling about 1set of bedding from 7 yrs ago.

I bought new as it was a king size duvet and I only had doubles.

MakeMineALarge1 re your extremely weird attitude re hygiene.
One set of bedding that you was used once and you donated - because you thought it was perfectly fine to donate for others to use but no way you possibly could do that.

Thats weird. And yup if I was doing that Id seek help. Because its odd. And wasteful.

Whilst there you could have a moan about your daughters cheeky attitude as well. Double the value!

It’s just sheets. Clean ones at that.