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Original poster

Sharing bed sheets, is it me?

254 replies

MakeMineALarge1 · 06/03/2022 19:07

Ok I really don't know if I am being weird here, but I have my sheets on my bed that I share with my husband and my daughter has hers that she shares with her boyfriend.
I bought myself some new bedding last week, I have used it once, washed it etc and now she has put it on her bed!
I don't know why but it makes me uneasy, obviously its washed between uses etc, I can't verbalise it but if makes me uncomfortable.

OP posts:
murakamilove · 08/03/2022 07:30

@starfishmummy

You'll need to burn them now.
The only solution! Superb answer! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
HoppingPavlova · 08/03/2022 08:00

I had guests coming, I had a king size duvet but no cover, I had to buy a cover, later I gave both the cover and the duvet away so that they could be used by someone else. I am not sure what else I could have done!

So, if a guest stays both their bed linen and duvet are single use only? You are aware hotels don’t buy new bed linen and duvets for each new guest right?

Momicrone · 08/03/2022 08:20

I'm confused, don't you just rotate covers

NazMedusa · 08/03/2022 08:26

@TossieFleacake

I totally get it OP. I feel the same about bedding, we each have our own sets and I wouldn't dream of putting my set on any other bed. Don't care that it gets washed inbetween, I am firmly in the 'bedding should not be shared' camp.
I feel the same. Just very icky...

And hugely rude of your daughter to not even ask you before using your new bedding. I'd be well annoyed.

SilverSep · 08/03/2022 08:28

@Squirrelblanket

I think you should call the police to report it and then burn the whole house down.
[rofl]

-my daughter would have run from the house at that point !

^Squirrelblanket

I think you should call the police to report it and then burn the whole house down.^

  • get thee back to Arrse bad girl ! Smile
Original poster
MakeMineALarge1 · 08/03/2022 08:41

Jesus, for the love of God, hotel sheets are different. They aren't mine!
Yes I'm aware they aren't put on new for me.

OP posts:
Momicrone · 08/03/2022 08:50

Can you get some more, so there's enough for all to share?

ivykaty44 · 08/03/2022 08:50

So your happy to share clean sheets with strangers but not family you know?

spacehardware · 08/03/2022 08:59

Why can't people comprehend the actual issue is a grown ass adult daughter taking the piss by helping herself to everything nice, when the OP has kindly allowed her to return home to live so she can save money?

I'd be fuming

Original poster
MakeMineALarge1 · 08/03/2022 09:09

Thank you @spacehardware

OP posts:
FluffyBooBoo · 08/03/2022 09:12

@spacehardware

Why can't people comprehend the actual issue is a grown ass adult daughter taking the piss by helping herself to everything nice, when the OP has kindly allowed her to return home to live so she can save money?

I'd be fuming

Possibly because in the op, the issue appears to be that op has the ick about using (clean) sheets that have previously been used by another adult (and then washed).
TheKeatingFive · 08/03/2022 09:16

The 'ick' has been mentioned numerous times on this thread

Original poster
MakeMineALarge1 · 08/03/2022 09:23

There is an ick factor and its the taking

Hotel sheets do not cause me a problem

OP posts:
ivykaty44 · 08/03/2022 09:38

Why can't people comprehend the actual issue is a grown ass adult daughter taking the piss by helping herself to everything nice, when the OP has kindly allowed her to return home to live so she can save money?

because that isn't what the op wrote

I don't know why but it makes me uneasy, obviously its washed between uses etc, I can't verbalise it but if makes me uncomfortable.

Op talks about the washed sheets, but it still makes her feel uncomfortable

ivykaty44 · 08/03/2022 09:40

The taking sheets that are clearly not for sharing would be an issue - if dd knows that is the case.

We have shared covers and particular covers that belong to people in the household - either they were gifted to that person or its been said these are mine for my use only

ivykaty44 · 08/03/2022 09:42

Perhaps having worked in a hotel and know how many men wet the bed, I have a different opinion about hotel sheets

Sparklingbrook · 08/03/2022 09:47

'The ick' is something I have only ever heard on MN, having found out what it is I have never suffered from it. Confused
And especially not over laundered bed linen.

Original poster
MakeMineALarge1 · 08/03/2022 09:53

@ivykaty44 ignorance is bliss

OP posts:
thenewduchessoflapland · 08/03/2022 09:57

I think the real issue here is the OP's DD is a CF who thinks she can help herself to anything of her mum's.

She's an adult with a job so can be providing her own bed sheets/towels/toiletries etc.

She basically saw something she liked so pinched it.

If she lived in a shared house would she be pinching her housemates bedding?

We don't share bedding in our house;everyone has their own bedding preferences so have their own bedding sets.

Momicrone · 08/03/2022 09:58

Spacehardware, what I can't comprehend is why a mum wouldn't want to share bedding with her daughter, why get angry about sharing stuff already in the house?

ivykaty44 · 08/03/2022 10:38

I think the real issue here is the OP's DD is a CF who thinks she can help herself to anything of her mum's

sheets in an airing cupboard might seem fair game and not cf territory - has op had a conversation about house rules and sheets?

hotel sheets are laundered at high temperatures before reused, then put through a roller iron, so pretty much sterile when you get them back

Gwenhwyfar · 08/03/2022 12:07

"sheets in an airing cupboard might seem fair game and not cf territory - "

Yes, some families have a cupboard for sheets and blankets and anyone can take them. It's the same with food in the fridge. In some families, the food belongs to certain people, but in others it's for everyone.

martakeithy · 08/03/2022 13:31

@Squirrelblanket

I think you should call the police to report it and then burn the whole house down.
😂 I concur. tbh I am a wierdo who would give the new set to DD and buy myself another (different) new set. Not like sharing sheets (stomp)! Grin
LaDamaDeElche · 08/03/2022 21:02

I always thought everyone had their own sheets which only they used. I must have lived a sheltered life 😂

nettie434 · 08/03/2022 22:01

Several people have suggested that they would buy new bedding for themselves and give the other ones to her daughter.

As the daughter 'keeps taking things' (shoes and clothes as well as bedding), I don't think that's a good solution. How would that stop it happening again? All it means is that the daughter gets a new set of bedding when what she should be doing is buying her mum a new set and promising not to use it.

It doesn't matter whether you are happy sharing sheets if you use the sheets of someone who wants their sheets to be used by them alone.

The problem with 'borrowers' is that they generally seem to choose the lovely new item while rejecting the old ones.