Sharing bed sheets, is it me?

[MakeMineALarge1]

Ok I really don't know if I am being weird here, but I have my sheets on my bed that I share with my husband and my daughter has hers that she shares with her boyfriend.
I bought myself some new bedding last week, I have used it once, washed it etc and now she has put it on her bed!
I don't know why but it makes me uneasy, obviously its washed between uses etc, I can't verbalise it but if makes me uncomfortable.

Go into her room and borrow a couple of intimate apparel items. See how often she pinches your stuff after that

@CarrieHughes she is a size 8 I am a size 18 not much I can take haha

@OfstedOffred she is saving up apparently............

Shocked at the number of parents who can't discipline their children.. this is the second thread tonight.

@CarrieHughes

So the number you are SHOCKED at is two?

She might save up a bit faster if you put a lock on all the cupboards. Seriously, put down some rules, start making it more of a lodger situation: she has one cupboard with her sheets, bathroom stuff, allotted household goods. One shelf in the fridge, one kitchen cupboard. Nice bedding and your clothes and treats are all under lock and key. Heating on for only parsimonious amounts. Rota for when she can use the washing machine. She’ll be out of your hair in no time

@kittensinthekitchen

Shocked at the number of parents who can't discipline their children.. this is the second thread tonight.

@CarrieHughes

So the number you are SHOCKED at is two?

Yes, if more than two I'd be EXTREMELY SHOCKED. More than 5 EXTRAORDINARILY SHOCKED. More than 7 I might give up on my diet and get a takeaway ;)

If she definitely knows that it's yours then she is being very cheeky and I'm not surprised you're annoyed.

From everything else you've said here, I'm wondering if it's time for her to move out and start making her own way in the world.

@MakeMineALarge1

Just to clarify I did get her to take it off and remake it She is 24 I cannot take her phone off her, or ground her, but every single time she uses something of mine I tell her its not acceptable! Its not the borrowing a coat etc that is the issue, its the fact she just presumes she can take

so its bigger than bedding..... she is 24 and not being polite. Time to put the boot in I think. If she was a lodger or in a HMO, her housemates would not put up with it and neither should you. Either she obeys the house rules and shows good manners or she goes.

24 is way too old to be having to hide bedding from anyone, I can't believe that's even being suggested. The mature thing to do is to start taking her things

Ah, X posted with you were you've explained that she's living with you to save up.

That doesn't mean she gets to do whatever she wants in your house and ignore your requests for her to leave your personal things alone.

I know adults living with their parents is the new norm but it doesn't mean you're at their mercy. It's a two way street. You don't actually HAVE to let her continue to live with you when she's 24. She can live with you so long as she is respectful of your house and your rules. Don't be a doormat.

Nothing ick about laundered sheets, ffs.

But our bedding is ours and no other beds in the house get it.

@CarrieHughes
"Yes, if more than two I'd be EXTREMELY SHOCKED.
More than 5 EXTRAORDINARILY SHOCKED.
More than 7 I might give up on my diet and get a takeaway ;)"

fess up, you are hoping aren't you

We all have our own bedding, so yeh I would be annoyed, nothing to do with the washing of it, I trust my washing powder and machine🤣 just the fact she took it

Oh dear, a dreadful situation to be in, on a Sunday too, You can have mine, but they have some cat hairs on them.

I honestly find the housekeeping rules of other people baffling. A sheet or duvet cover is just that. It can be washed, hell, you can disinfect or bleach it if you want. That child was shot up your fanny as a sperm and most likely was fired back out again at birth but she slept on your sheet and you might as well take it out to the bonfire and burn it. You might as well stick her on the bonfire too. That’ll teach her.

I can assure you I'm not a door mat.
I told her it's not acceptable and made her strip it off

In general, our family bed linen has been just that. A help yourself from the linen cupboard situation. There were a couple of duvet covers I considered "MINE. HANDS OFF" because they were special to me, but no ick factor. The children had some favourites too but there was no hard and fast division of duvet covers and most of the base sheets looked the same anyway.

So whilst sympathising with those who want to keep their bed linen separate, and particularly with the OP whose lovely new set has been swiped by her daughter, it's not something I particularly get worked up about.

You're her mother. Just tell her fgs. Why are so many people on here, wimps.

I find it off that she used your sheets. My kids are teenagers so no boyfriends staying over yet but we all have our own bedding.
I always did growing up too. Tell her to buy her own stuff and then use them (not really) but yeah it's fair enough to be miffed about it.

@CarrieHughes

More than 5 would leave me SHAKING AND CRYING.

[quote kittensinthekitchen]@CarrieHughes

More than 5 would leave me SHAKING AND CRYING.[/quote]
6 would make me heartbroken

I imagine if you say 'Darling I'd rather you didn't use my bedding - I shag your father on that' she would probably stop doing so.

This'll do it.

My kids borrow all sorts of stuff, happy to share it and I buy bedding for everyone to use

If she knew teh bedding was yours and she normally doesnt use yours, she shouldnt have taken it. Not sure how I would feel about the boyfriend. One thing if I decided myself they can borrow. Another if they took it without me knowing.

Do you ever stay in hotels?