To think young babysitters should be paid in cash?

[Confrontayshunme]

We are going out for dinner with friends, and a friend's DD (15) is going to babysit our school aged children for a few hours. I pointed out that I needed to get some cash to pay her, and my DH said "That's okay, I'll just do a bank transfer." I told him that probably quite a few young teens may not have a bank account. Then he said "Well it is good work experience for her to get me her parents' details and follow up with me if it doesn't work." As a teenager, I relished having cash that was all my own, and a few times, I had odd parents who were tricky to get paid or their cheques didn't work, so I always asked for cash.

I told him I thought it might be difficult for a 15yo girl to confront and negotiate with a big 40yo man for payment, so we should do cash so she feels comfortable and doesn't have to worry about it. He then said that it was sexist to think that, as he had was comfortable doing that when he was a (6'3" 17yo) boy. Am I the only person who feels like the dynamic is all wrong (though I acknowledge that is a separate issue to the cash vs bank transfer)?

YABU - teens today should be fine being paid by bank transfer and discussing money with unrelated adults

YANBU - most teen girl babysitters would like cash as it is easy

Git to agree with the others though. Your DH sounds like a knob

@splink

On the other hand, he probably knows how to use a comma.

What actually is the point of comments like that?

Like, what kind of superiority kick does that actually give you?

I'd say your husband is a bit nieve if he thinks paying her via her parents account is acceptable - just because it's convenient to him. What if the kids parents didn't hand over the money? He then hasn't paid her has he? There could be lots of reasons - parents in overdraft, money spent before she asked, she doesn't feel she can ask parents for cash anyway... very nieve of him.

I presume that, if he's using a middleman agent (the parents) to deliver on his side of the transaction (expecting them to do it free, though), any risk would rightfully be his. I've ordered stuff online before that's gone missing with the courier - but it's Amazon's (or whoever's) problem to make good my loss and not mine, as they chose to use the courier and thus haven't completed on the deal that we both made.

Maybe her hourly rate could cover her and her parents' time in enabling her to receive her pay i.e. 4 hours babysitting + 30 mins (or more) admin/travelling to a bank branch = being paid for 4.5 or more hours?

Somehow, I doubt he would willingly take this risk and responsibility (or any additional cost) on himself, though, as he's the sort of person who is never wrong and whose way is always the best one for everybody, I'm guessing....