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Dumped for eating Maltesers

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Malteesser · 03/03/2022 22:39

Been seeing someone for a few weeks. We went to cinema last night and he bought popcorn and I bought a big bag of maltesers. I opened them when we sat down and began eating them. He said “why don’t you wait until the film starts?” So I just laughed and said “too tempting” as a joke. He seemed irritated and said something like “you won’t have any left by time the film starts”. This got my back up a bit and I just carried on as I was. I finished the bag around 10 minutes into the film. I saw him watching me and felt his disapproval Hmm but why?? It didn’t effect him, he had his popcorn. He was really grumpy throughout the film and afterwards was quite off with me. We were meant to be going for something to eat but he said he wasn’t really in the mood and would be heading home.

Before I went to bed I text him asking if I’d done something to upset him and he replied “I don’t think this will work out, it’s nothing personal x” Hmm I replied “ok no worries”.

It’s been bugging me all day as before we sat down in the cinema he was absolutely fine!!! We were laughing and joking etc, no bad feeling at all and he literally changed as soon as we sat down.

Have I been dumped for bad Malteser etiquette?!?

OP posts:
Obira · 05/03/2022 16:39

I would probably not continue dating someone who ate a whole family size bag of Maltesers in one sitting. It’s a huge amount of sugar. He probably thought you were greedy and likely to have difficulty controlling your weight.

SilverGlassHare · 05/03/2022 16:41

Gif this reminds me of one of my old boyfriends. He hated me eating pepperoni - he once went on a massive rant about it on the way to a pizza place, then got mad when I ordered double pepperoni on my pizza just to piss him off. Was yours called Pete by any chance?!?

stayathomer · 05/03/2022 16:49

I would probably not continue dating someone who ate a whole family size bag of Maltesers in one sitting. It’s a huge amount of sugar. He probably thought you were greedy and likely to have difficulty controlling your weight.
Why should it matter to him if she can't control her weight? And why honestly would it matter to you? (Puts on psychiatrist hat)

OP I think you had a lucky escape too!

ClemFandangoo · 05/03/2022 16:50

I would probably not continue dating someone who ate a whole family size bag of Maltesers in one sitting. It’s a huge amount of sugar. He probably thought you were greedy and likely to have difficulty controlling your weight.

You’d be disgusted at me then, I’ve been known to polish up a tub of Ben and Jerrys on my own Grin

Holothane · 05/03/2022 17:05

@ClemFandangoo can I applaud you she’d be disgusted at me a well I love malteasers and tofffee.

Holothane · 05/03/2022 17:06

Sorry got names wrong apologies.

pastypirate · 05/03/2022 17:08

@ItallwentwrongwhenBowieleft

But OP you didn’t follow his manly advice. He pointed out the error of your ways and you had the audacity not to agree with him & not to comply with his instructions. How very dare you?

Many of us will recognise this early red flag behaviour.
My god you’ve had a lucky escape OP.

Nail on head
girlmom21 · 05/03/2022 17:46

@ClemFandangoo

I would probably not continue dating someone who ate a whole family size bag of Maltesers in one sitting. It’s a huge amount of sugar. He probably thought you were greedy and likely to have difficulty controlling your weight.

You’d be disgusted at me then, I’ve been known to polish up a tub of Ben and Jerrys on my own Grin

Standard Saturday night in our house Grin
Fairislefandango · 05/03/2022 18:10

I would probably not continue dating someone who ate a whole family size bag of Maltesers in one sitting. It’s a huge amount of sugar. He probably thought you were greedy and likely to have difficulty controlling your weight.

Confused Plenty of people eat normally but can stuff themselves for a treat. Presumably the guy was happy to go on a date with the OP looking as she does. So why on earth would eating one bag of sweets make any difference to that?

I mean, obviously you can decide who not to continue dating for whatever reason you like. But, honestly, deciding not to see someone again purely on the basis of their sugar intake on one evening says a lot more about you than it does about them! I wouldn't want to date someone who made peculiar judgements like that!

MadForBurpees · 05/03/2022 18:18

@Obira

I would probably not continue dating someone who ate a whole family size bag of Maltesers in one sitting. It’s a huge amount of sugar. He probably thought you were greedy and likely to have difficulty controlling your weight.
Are you for fucking real? Bet you're one of those people that can make a cadburys Creme Egg last s week! Lighten up and enjoy life.
alfagirl73 · 05/03/2022 19:49

@Obira

I would probably not continue dating someone who ate a whole family size bag of Maltesers in one sitting. It’s a huge amount of sugar. He probably thought you were greedy and likely to have difficulty controlling your weight.
How do you know the OP isn't at the gym every morning?! One large bag of Maltesers on a night out is hardly the end of the world. I had a load of Maltesers today (thanks to this thread!), but most of the time I'm on a healthy diet and I'm at the gym 5-6 times a week! People don't have to eat like a sparrow in order to be healthy.
marieantoinehairnet · 05/03/2022 20:08

You've started something, after reading this I went out and bought a massive box today, and DH and I just ate the whole box in one go, he is a keeper Grin

marieantoinehairnet · 05/03/2022 20:09

@Obira

I would probably not continue dating someone who ate a whole family size bag of Maltesers in one sitting. It’s a huge amount of sugar. He probably thought you were greedy and likely to have difficulty controlling your weight.
Cor, what a fun sponge
Adeleskirts · 05/03/2022 20:19

I’m not really getting the whole if you don’t over eat and binge you’re a fun sponge or something is wrong with you to be honest,,,

SilverGlassHare · 05/03/2022 20:39

@Adeleskirts

I’m not really getting the whole if you don’t over eat and binge you’re a fun sponge or something is wrong with you to be honest,,,
That’s because you’re misunderstanding what people are saying. No-one is a fun sponge for not wanting to binge at the cinema - the PP is being called a fun sponge for being judgemental about the OP.
Seemslikeagoodidea · 05/03/2022 20:50

YANBU, it's better to eat snacks before the film gets underway - less annoying for other people. He probably hoped to enjoy some maltesers once he'd finished his popcorn (which I think is a much more annoying snack for other people to listen to, when people a munching it by the bucketload - yuk).

You dodged a bullet there. YABU a bit though, for making me want maltesers now, when there are none here.

LightSpeeds · 05/03/2022 21:10

@Obira

I would probably not continue dating someone who ate a whole family size bag of Maltesers in one sitting. It’s a huge amount of sugar. He probably thought you were greedy and likely to have difficulty controlling your weight.
The way someone looked would probably indicate if they were not controlling their weight more than the fact that that they ate a whole bag of Maltesers.

I can eat half my weight in chocolate every day and I'm a size 10.

Ultimately, OP, if it was Malteser-Gate that put him off, you're better off without him. He would have ditched me pretty quickly too!

I've heard that a lot of men moan about women on OLD that they never eat anything and are always on a diet...

LaLaKickSticks · 05/03/2022 21:45

Eating snacks while watching the trailers is just as acceptable as eating them during the film! What an arse he was!

girlmom21 · 06/03/2022 07:25

@Adeleskirts

I’m not really getting the whole if you don’t over eat and binge you’re a fun sponge or something is wrong with you to be honest,,,
I'm not really getting how you've deduced that from any response here
FrankGrillosFloof · 06/03/2022 07:32

It’s 7:30am and I really want a giant bag of Maltesers.

Momicrone · 06/03/2022 08:36

Bingeing is bingeing, be it food or alcohol

dottiedodah · 06/03/2022 08:56

Well he sounds like an arse! What do you go to the cinema for other than to enjoy some choccieswhile watching film or trailer s? I think you are better off without him! He would probably be constantly checking your chips or whatever if you stayed with him!

TracyMosby · 06/03/2022 10:32

@Momicrone

Bingeing is bingeing, be it food or alcohol
But he was ready to binge popcorn. Whats the difference?
NewYearCalavicci · 06/03/2022 13:43

[quote Sweetpea1532]@NewYearCalavicci ...you need to weigh in here as it falls under the realm of your duties as 2nd in command as the Maltesers spokesperson Grin[/quote]
@Malteesser
@Sweetpea1532 is the unofficial Malteser spokes person , however as her second in command i feel that you should read this post where the merits of boxed Maltesers were debated at length !

You have certainly had a lucky escape with his maltesergate shenanigans

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3805274-to-ask-what-the-secret-is-behind-the-maltesers-box?pg=1&messages=50

AnneKipankitoo · 07/03/2022 07:37

Thanks for the link @NewYearCalavicci.

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