Dumped for eating Maltesers

[Malteesser]

Been seeing someone for a few weeks. We went to cinema last night and he bought popcorn and I bought a big bag of maltesers. I opened them when we sat down and began eating them. He said “why don’t you wait until the film starts?” So I just laughed and said “too tempting” as a joke. He seemed irritated and said something like “you won’t have any left by time the film starts”. This got my back up a bit and I just carried on as I was. I finished the bag around 10 minutes into the film. I saw him watching me and felt his disapproval but why?? It didn’t effect him, he had his popcorn. He was really grumpy throughout the film and afterwards was quite off with me. We were meant to be going for something to eat but he said he wasn’t really in the mood and would be heading home.

Before I went to bed I text him asking if I’d done something to upset him and he replied “I don’t think this will work out, it’s nothing personal x” I replied “ok no worries”.

It’s been bugging me all day as before we sat down in the cinema he was absolutely fine!!! We were laughing and joking etc, no bad feeling at all and he literally changed as soon as we sat down.

Have I been dumped for bad Malteser etiquette?!?

Consider it a blessing in disguise.

If you fancy winding him up - ask him out again and take two bags with you... one for the trailer and one for the film

What a dick. Good riddance!

Wtf? 🤣 Luck escape there,hun!

Fucking food police.
I worked with one and snapped after 7 years , so ate a full bag of fruit pastels in one go without breaking eye contact with the bugger. I regret nothing.

Maybe he just got the ick over it

I can't stand anyone eating something noisy in the cinema or anywhere tbh. But I'd have mentioned it before I'd agreed to go to the cinema with you.

Did you ask him @Malteesser?

@WildCherryBlossom

This will be an unpopular opinion but a large bag of Maltesers is designed for sharing. It's a huge number of calories for one person to consume. And then you wanted to go out for dinner afterwards? I think he may have found that off putting.

Good job the food 👮‍♀️ are around!

W**ker
Consider yourself lucky he's dumped you. Imagine anyone putting up with that behaviour!!

It's odd, a woman can dump a man for any reason at all, and it's absolutely fine (of course).

But this guy is a twat / pillock / controlling?

No. It's fine that he dumped her, for whatever reason. That's his prerogative. But I doubt anyone gets dumped ever without wondering why... and often coming to the conclusion that the dumper was just weird?

One doesn't preclude the other.

I believe he had the right to do as he did and that OP has the right to think he is a twat for doing it.

No cognitive dissonance here!

Mmmm Malteasers

@Bluelillies

I once got dumped for wearing ugg boots I’d arranged to meet him but I had a knackered ankle and they where the only footwear I could wear at the time We met and within seconds he started screaming at me for being ‘chavvy’ and ‘cheap’ I walked away-and the next day he texted to demand a shag I told him I was up for it but I can only shag while wearing uggs-they turn me on in a way no man ever could

Never heard from him again

Brilliant!!

@WildCherryBlossom

This will be an unpopular opinion but a large bag of Maltesers is designed for sharing. It's a huge number of calories for one person to consume. And then you wanted to go out for dinner afterwards? I think he may have found that off putting.

Perhaps, but what is it his business what she eats, or how much she eats?

@LubaLuca

Are you a noisy eater?

My mum sounds like a horse munching on rocks when she eats malteasers, if I was a few dates in and heard that she'd have to go

@CadvanTheBard

No not dumped. You've had a lucky escape!! Imagine how controlling he would be about other things! You should be jumping for joy for escaping that!

Indeed a lucky escape if he eats stinking popcorn! Maltesers are always gone before the film starts when I go!

I found your date . images.app.goo.gl/7Ht3nqe3GRf8xxQa6

More to the point why would you want to be with a man that could resist Maltesers??? That's just weird

Hilarious! And, yes, I think you had a lucky escape from a controlling man child. Good luck that you found out now.

I once went to the cinema on a date and the man I was with clapped loudly every time he laughed at the film. People kept turning round. That relationship didn't last very long!

I remember going on a first date to see La Bamba (back in the Dark Ages) and in the first few minutes, a plane explodes in the sky. My date gave a high pitched scream and I just couldn't fancy him after that.

@AnneKipankitoo
Still the Queen of GIF! 😂👸
And that gif had the unique box with the puzzling hole for opening it and dispensing...it caused quite a stir on a thread last year

He was probably going to dump you anyway, the date was just some kind of confirmation on his mind.

Bloody hell if he’s neurotic over a bag of Maltesers you’re better off without him. Beyond weird.

@Alexandria94

Somebody who understands! Although I'm very sorry that you do *@YouCantTourniquetTheTaint*

It's a horrible condition and I wouldnt wish it on anybody. Moving to work in an open plan office where people munched on apples and packets of crisps throughout the day, with no physical barriers, was absolute torture for me. My manager eating her granola and yogurt in our morning meetings. People will never understand the panic/upset/anger you feel, especially when you are "trapped" in a situation where you can't just get up and run out.

So I hope he doesn't have misophonia, but it he does then he may not be the one for OP if she would like to eat her malteasers freely in future.

I'm sorry you understand too

People don't realise just how much this condition does affect your life. Every aspect really. Mine started when I was around 5/6 I didn't know it was a thing, a proper neurological condition until 6/7 years ago.

It literally triggers your flight or fight response, you feel such intense rage I'm talking 10 out of 10, you could fight a bear with the adrenaline. But you know
it's disproportionate to what happening. Then the feeling of shame, guilt come and you calm down.

There's literally no therapy, no exposure therapy, no medication, no CBT, nothing that can help this, apart from not being triggered in the first place.

I'm sorry the sufferers get it.

This guy, is probably a dick, but I suspect and its not an excuse, from what the OP said regarding the date going well until then, that there is an issue regarding food, misophonia, or a quirk/feeling that you shouldn't eat until the film starts. There will be an explanation, but it isn't an excuse to be a dick.

I think you may have failed the "marshmallow test". Essentially, you're a loser.