Wants the lifestyle but someone else has to pay for it?

[cleocleo24]

If you knew someone with this attitude, not benefits related, what would you think of them? Could you be friends?

"Someone else" has to pay for anyone's lifestyle. Either someone pays for another's lifestyle directly, or the person acquires the money to pay for it themselves. That money has to come from somebody else, that person is "paying" for their lifestyle.

is op writing about her partners ex and distorting it to make it misleading? it's odd they haven't commented recently after such a vitrol tirade previously.

Appreciate this is a long shot but have the pair of them actually put together a budget for what they need/want with the money available, taking into consideration the extra accommodation now required and the outstanding debts?

It may help focus some of the discussion and manage expectations of lifestyles now they have split.

@Iamnotamermaid

Appreciate this is a long shot but have the pair of them actually put together a budget for what they need/want with the money available, taking into consideration the extra accommodation now required and the outstanding debts?

It may help focus some of the discussion and manage expectations of lifestyles now they have split.

Good idea, we have mentioned this to her lots of time. I don't think she wants to and isn't willing to budget. She doesn't seem to want to practical things like this or make any hard decisions.

This could all have been avoided if they had sat down together and worked all this out and made difficult decisions rather than her ex just announcing he's going and how much she will have.

This could all have been avoided if they had sat down together and worked all this out and made difficult decisions rather than her ex just announcing he's going and how much she will have.

But he's not financially controlling and she's the arsehole.

@cleocleo24

Who needs enemies with you as a friend? You really do come across as nasty and the drip feeds are 'roll our eyes time'.

She's made it everyone's business by continuously talking about it to everyone and slagging him off. We went out for my birthday meal recently and she took over the whole conversation even though if was for my birthday.

Telling everyone he's financially screwed her over. Even down to comparing the cost of their cars and that he's brought himself this car.

She then announced she's going to divorce him. When I pointed out she may well be much worse off if she does, she didn't like that. My understanding is that any legal representative or judge would view the situation as very unfair to her ex if she did.

She's now trying to get more than the monthly amount offered to her and has secured £000 from him in a lump sum payment.

I would understand her point as the amount doesn't sound much but from my reading he's not legally responsible for paying towards her leaving costs only their dc which he's doing. I would also understand her point if he hadn't let her have the entire house and walked away with nothing. But why would he pay towards a house which he will get nothing from financially? They aren't selling it so he gets his share and he's walked away from that huge asset. She then told me her parents pay for xyz for their dc so then the CM seems quite reasonable. It's like she wants him completely broke.

She now does the majority of the childcare but he wanted to have the dc more days but she said no. He has to do all picking up/ taking them to hers.

It seems she feels very entitled to his earnings even now they are split up and begrudges him anything as she says it will be a stretch for her. But she forgets he's given her a house, works full time and earns significantly more than her.

She doesn't want to downsize the house but expects him to pay towards a house he will get no money from.