AIBU to not want to decide what we have for dinner EVERY night?!

[whatstheproblemguys]

I work part time, 3 days a week. My job requires me to leave home around 7.00 to get our 2 year old dropped to nursery and me to work to get sorted to be able to start at 8.15 and I finish at 4.30. I then go and pick up both kids, come home sort everyone out with dinner and bed and do a few extra hours of work once it's quiet. Husband works 9-5, starts at dead on 9 and finishes dead on 5 but is full time WFH.
On my days off I do the housework, food shopping and any other jobs that have arisen after the weekend and then I have a fairly quiet day where I prioritise doing something with the toddler that she would enjoy. Anyway, that's a little background.
So, onto my complaint. I cook EVERY evening. I do the shopping 95% of the time, and I make meals with whatever I manage to find on offer/reasonably priced. Husband is a self proclaimed awful cook. He's cooked for me twice in our entire 10 years we've been together. The first time was the day I'd come out of hospital after major surgery and he presented me with a still half frozen steak pie, a whole raw carrot and not cooked through boiled potatoes. The second time, he tried to make a curry, not only did it take him forever to do, he then managed to burn uncooked rice. It really is tragic.
He also has the cheek to moan about what I make, not because it's not nice but because we 'had this recently' or 'I'd have preferred mashed potatoes with this' which as you can imagine doesn't go down well.
So on the odd occasion I ask him, what do you want for dinner tonight, I always get 'well I don't know, I don't do the shopping' (no but you're perfectly capable of opening the fridge door and seeing what's in there) or 'I'm too busy to think about dinner right now'.
I'm so sick of having to decide what the dinner plans are, sick of cooking every night (bar the odd take out) and sick of the criticisms every time! I've tried the 'well why don't you cook, I can help' or 'why don't you tell me what you want and I'll get it' but I always get some stupid reply that pisses me off more.
So AIBU to have had enough? To not get any help or input or even a hint as to what to cook? I know there really are more important things happening in the world at the minute than my pathetic dramas but it's really wound me up tonight!

Seriously why are so many women married to useless men?!

I do the vast majority of cooking in our house, which I don't mind because I enjoy it. But deciding what to make is often the hardest part, and I would love it if my husband would say "Can you make X tonight?" so I don't have to think about it. He never would say that though, and never complains about anything I do cook, because he knows how lucky he is! He's also quite happy to order takeout or take me out to eat when I just don't have the energy or the imagination to figure out what to make or go to the supermarket, so I can't really complain!

teach your hubby to cook 2 simple meals, maybe involving a jar of sauce. Or get him to get fish and chips one night. If you break him in gently you might find his confidence increases and he starts to enjoy it and get adventurous ! But put him in charge of dinner 2 nights a week.

I also don't understand how people can say they can't cook, or how people accept that as an excuse.

If you can read, and you're not totally stupid, then you can cook

Obviously you have bigger problems, but if you can read you can cook IMO. Twice in 10 years is a joke. Doesn't have to be something that would make Gordon Ramsey pat him on the back but even basics like bolognaise and chilli don't take much to learn.

@whatstheproblemguys Oh it broke my heart a little when you said about lack of self worth and worry he'd leave you because of your weight. Congratulations on the weight loss. This man-child of yours sounds like a complete deadbeat - 2 hrs a night computer games!!! As someone else said if he was earning a fortune and you were living a life of leisure this might be tolerable but your not. It sounds like you are partners. A long hard think of is this the life you want and if you do sitting down and talking to him about the life you want together. His behaviour is totally unacceptable.

Thank you all for you time and comments. Clearly I'm not being unreasonable.
I've got someone to have the kids for me one evening this week so we can sit down and properly talk about it without there being a reason to avoid it.
We had a row this evening when I said he should have some more appreciation for everything I do round here, and that he wouldn't know his arse from his elbow if I walked out or died. He laughed and I walked off leaving him and the kids at the dinner table and said he could sort the kids out. Then followed 101 questions about what they needed, what medication our daughter has and how much, where the nappies and wipes are, where the kids pjs were. I sat with my feet up and the dog across my lap.
It starts here!

Jesus Christ, we all started out unable to cook.

I didn't start cooking until I went to university. My two housemates (blokes) shamed me into it.

I'm pretty good now (even if I do say myself!) but it is all self taught. BBC Good Food website is very good and there are lots of videos on there.

He needs to start doing easy things at least like bunging a pie in the oven. DH was rather rubbish but he's not too bad now. At least I know he wouldn't starve if I got hit by a bus.

I had a very similar conversation with my DH last week, I’m just so bored of cooking. So he took it on - he meal planned and we had the first of his meals tonight. Quantities were off but it tasted nice enough. He got sort of stressed prepping and cooking to tight timescales due to DC activities, so he definitely gets why it’s a chore!

He’s never been a cook, so I appreciated that he heard me when I said I needed a break. In fairness we split chores evenly and I used to like cooking - I’ve just recently lost the will to plan.