7 week old staying away

[Wik944]

Is it okay to say no for my 7 week old baby to staying away an hour at his grandparents?

You are the mother. You can say no to anything.

Your baby is 7 weeks old you call the shots here. If you're comfortable, fine, if not then it's an absolute no, no reasoning or bargaining or compromising at all.

Staying with them for 1hour? That could work if you pump them some milk. Does he take a bottle? That young I wouldn't want to go much longer than that though. But mine have always been boob mad and I'd never relax in case they didnt take the pumped milk.

Okay? Okay for who?

You decide where your child goes, you don't need to justify it.

If you’re asking here it means you’re uncomfortable with it.
Just say no, OP.

@NatriumChloride

If you’re asking here it means you’re uncomfortable with it. Just say no, OP.

Yes good point. Say no OP!

yabu for even asking this! of course it is ok to say no! Don't let anyone bully you - one of biggest regrets from the newborn phase. x

What do you mean, ‘Is it OK to say no’?! It’s your baby; it’s up to you. Unless your baby’s grandparents are monsters I’m pretty sure they can babysit for one hour without a problem, but ultimately if you don’t think you’re ready to let them babysit, you don’t need permission or justification to say no to anything that makes you uncomfortable. It is fine to say no if you think that’s the right thing for your baby.

‘Staying away’ is a dramatic way of describing a one-hour visit to grandma’s house, though. Is there more to this than meets the eye? Are you anxious for a specific reason, or is it more that you just feel anxious about your baby being out of your sight at all? You only gave birth seven weeks ago, so it’s understandable if you’re feeling more worried or emotional than you usually would be. Or is there a reason you don’t trust the grandparents?

If it's because you need to go somewhere and you need her to watch the baby of course it's fine. It's not fine if you are being talked into it by someone else. It's your baby and you control who looks after them. If you want to say no, say no, but if you need this to happen then it's fine.

Of course it's okay. Personally I'd have been grateful to have a baby-free hour to take a long shower or a bath or whatever, but you decide what you're comfortable with or not.

Yes of course

Totally fine

Are you exhausted? Baby will be fine xx

Unless you feel the person or the location is 'unsafe' for your baby, there's nothing harmful or wrong about it, if that's your concern. I would have felt perfectly safe leaving my DSs at 7 weeks old with either my DM or my MiL. But if it's simply that you aren't ready to be separated from your baby, that's reason enough to say no.

I did at that age to have my hair or my nails done, always gave me a boost when they were young to have a bit of time to myself even for just a couple of hours.

Of course say no if you are uncomfortable. Lots of people wouldn’t be.

Who is making you think that you can’t say no?

Oh and you don’t need a reason to say no!

Of course it's ok if you are ok with it.
I've been looking after my grandson for 4-5 hours at a time once a week to give his mum a break since he was 2 weeks old.

The way you phrase this sounds like it's not your idea and you don't want to.

Personally I would 100% NEVER agree to this and I think most mothers i know would be deeply unhappy / distressed / uncomfortable with it.

But if you want to/ it's your choice and you think they can provide proper care for your baby it's fine to leave them with a trusted family member.

If you are being harassed / asked and don't want to please do not.
Having a new baby is a great time to set boundaries. This is your child not theirs

You make the rules, not them.

If you are proposing it for your own reasons, then it will be fine, unless the grandparents aren’t rapt with the idea. It’s not fair on them.

If someone else is proposing and/or insisting, then who the fuck do they think they are? My baby would have needed to be ripped from my cold, dead arms at that point. That umbilical cord was alive and pulsing still.

Totally up to you and how you feel, if you don't want them to go then say no.

DD1 had sleepover with grandparents at 5 weeks old and I slept like fuck and loved it. In no way was I distressed / deeply unhappy as a PP suggested. I actually LOVED the time to myself.

Each to their own.

I find it weird that a grandparent would ask to have a baby to themselves rather than go along with the type of visits that you arrange. I'm sure it makes you feel like they want you out of the way which is why it has your hackles up.

Is it an hour away or for an hour? Either way you should decide. Lots of mums aren't ready to be parted from their baby at that age. Others welcome the break. Don't let anyone pressurise you either way

Sorry I worded it wrong as in they live an hour away from me

An hour away

Are they asking / insisting you leave the baby?

Or do you want to leave the baby?