7 week old staying away

[Wik944]

Is it okay to say no for my 7 week old baby to staying away an hour at his grandparents?

But he wouldn’t be there my baby would be with his parents alone, since my baby been born he hasn’t even changed a nappy lol

Have they even met the baby? He is choosing not to get involved, they will have to wait until he does.

He’s on the birth certificate so he could possibly get him overnight but I know he wouldn’t look after him it would be his mom looking after him

Bet he won't though. They sound more keen than he does. Even if it did go to court it could take months with no guarantee they would "win". Why does he not live with you, apart from lack of commitment?

@LIZS

Have they even met the baby? He is choosing not to get involved, they will have to wait until he does.

Yes they have met baby. Baby even stayed with me over night there which didn’t go very well

We just haven’t found a place and we live in different sides of London so he wldnt want to move down here

@Totalwasteofpaper

The way you phrase this sounds like it's not your idea and you don't want to.

Personally I would 100% NEVER agree to this and I think most mothers i know would be deeply unhappy / distressed / uncomfortable with it.

But if you want to/ it's your choice and you think they can provide proper care for your baby it's fine to leave them with a trusted family member.

If you are being harassed / asked and don't want to please do not.
Having a new baby is a great time to set boundaries. This is your child not theirs

You make the rules, not them.

'Distressed / upset' at a break of 1 hour? Crikey - I must have been a terrible mother!

Stay put unless or until he steps up. Does he pay towards the baby? Are you very young to feel unable to assert yourself?

@mumofEandE op clarified these people live an hour away as does bf, and want baby to stay overnight

mumofEandE they want the baby overnight on their own (not with either parent) and live one hour's travel away.

Its not for an hour, its overnight.

The answer is obviously no as the baby is 7 weeks old and his mother doesn't want him staying overnight an hour away without her.

Not an hour break, they live an hour away and want baby overnight

I just turnt 22 and he’s only paid once towards the baby and during pregnancy he wouldn’t really help with buying stuff for the baby

@Wik944

But he wouldn’t be there my baby would be with his parents alone, since my baby been born he hasn’t even changed a nappy lol

Why not? He needs to learn if in future he has contact eith baby. For now Just say no to anything you not happy with Stand up for yourself No obligation to leave baby with anyone Let your baby s dad take you to court for access

He’s not too fussed about doing stuff round baby tbf , therefore I don’t trust him with baby

@Wik944

He’s not too fussed about doing stuff round baby tbf , therefore I don’t trust him with baby

Perfectly reasonable. Just stop replying to his parents. Bet he has not told them how little he does or pays. You don't really have a relationship tbh. Have you considered CMS?

I accidentally vote YABU but YANBU of course.

7 weeks? No chance. I find grandparents who request this sort of thing rather common.

@Wik944

He’s on the birth certificate so he could possibly get him overnight but I know he wouldn’t look after him it would be his mom looking after him

Not any time soon, OP.

No court in their right mind would authorise a tiny baby spending the night away from their primary caregiver.

Does the baby have your surname? Because it doesn't sound like your boyfriend will be in the picture long term.

What is CMS

Child Maintenance Service childmaintenanceservice.direct.gov.uk/onlinerevive/public/landing-screen

YANBU. there's. I way I'd let my baby stay somewhere if I wasn't comfortable with it. They can come visit you!

You can say no, but I don't recommend that.

Baby will have a lovely time being cuddled and adored.
Grandparents bond with baby , which is such a huge advantage for any child.
You get an hour to yourself, to rest and relax and do absolutely nothing.

Its all good.

@2bazookas it is not an hour , but overnight an hour away with people baby has barely seen because his father can't be bothered. If they were offering op an hour's break babysitting at her home that might be different, but still only if op were comfortable.

Sorry but why are you even with this guy? He sounds like an appalling father.
Anyway, stick to your guns, if you’re not happy to have baby stay away overnight that’s the end of it. You are the baby’s parent and it’s your choice.

Hell would have frozen over before I'd have let me babies go overnight like this

No your baby is far too young to be away from you.