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Husband kicked dog

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Chickencuddle · 20/02/2022 09:26

My dog had some food my husband didn't want him to have so he kicked it away from the dog and the dog bit his toe. It all happened so fast I don't know if the dog meant to bite him or was trying to get the food. But my husband got very angry kept saying angrily " he f*cking bit me" and kicked the dog around 3 times so it wasn't just a reactive kick if that makes sense. He kicked him the first time.. The dog backed away then he had to walk towards the dog and kicked him twice more.
He is normally such an animal lover so I was shocked and I told him not to kick him.
He just kept saying "well he bit my fucking toe" I asked to see his toe and his toe wasn't even red. I don't know what to say.
In my head I feel appalled I know I would never do that ever. But I know I can overthink and react. The dog isn't hurt didn't whimper or anything but was obviously not liking it and backing away.

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LondonQueen · 20/02/2022 13:26

He would be my ex if DH did that to our dog, if he can hurt an animal he can hurt your DC too.

anothernamedoesntsmellsosweet · 20/02/2022 13:32

Sorry, I have seen your other threads and remember reading them at the time. Your husband is a piece of shit. Please please please get your kids, pets and yourself well away. You have been asking for several years on here if he is busier. The answer is yes he is

PiperPosey · 20/02/2022 13:32

I rescue dogs that have been abused.
OP YOU are NOT going to leave him. We all know this. You just come here to vent.
Since you are NOT leaving please rehome your dog before he becomes what I see daily...Cowering, shut down, fearful, intimidated, scarred, scared animals that urinate and defecate out of absolute fear of humans.
And you don't think it will happen to your dog?
Watch your children as to how they react to your husband's demands. I bet they are scared of him. Are you?

Mellowyellow222 · 20/02/2022 13:35

When I saw the video of that awful footballer kicking the family pet cat, I immediately wondered what type of father he was.

Anyone who can be so casually cruel and violent towards a helpless animal, his own family pet, must be scum.

Onlyhuman123 · 20/02/2022 13:36

Scumbag. I'd have gone mental at him and kicked him, see how much he likes it. What else does he do to your poor dog when you're not around?!

Totalwasteofpaper · 20/02/2022 13:42

@PiperPosey

I rescue dogs that have been abused. OP YOU are NOT going to leave him. We all know this. You just come here to vent. Since you are NOT leaving please rehome your dog before he becomes what I see daily...Cowering, shut down, fearful, intimidated, scarred, scared animals that urinate and defecate out of absolute fear of humans. And you don't think it will happen to your dog? Watch your children as to how they react to your husband's demands. I bet they are scared of him. Are you?
I agree you should rehome your dog.

For 2 reasons:

  1. For the dog. It deserves a safe happy home..
  1. If you have no pets it will make leaving him easier (should you ever decide to you)
WonderfulYou · 20/02/2022 13:45

OP YOU are NOT going to leave him. We all know this. You just come here to vent.
Since you are NOT leaving please rehome your dog before he becomes what I see daily.

I agree.

Please also think about putting your kids in temporary foster care/ in the care of a family member as no animal or child should be forced to live this way.

FlipFlops4Me · 20/02/2022 13:46

I'd leave him. Immediately. No question about it. He's a cruel bully.

He's shown you who he is. Now it's your call.

Ludo19 · 20/02/2022 13:49

OP it's pretty clear you've accepted your husbands version of events and I pity you.

  1. His first reactive kick should have been his one and only regardless if he made contact. I don't however agree that this should give him a free pass or a way to chastise an animal. The dog bit his toe where food is involved some dogs get focused and it was a reactionary movement for the dog to nip.
  2. You'll be next and so will your kids. Your husband is a cowardly bully. An absolute scumbag. Animal lover my arse. Anyone who lives animals wouldn't dream of kicking a dog.

Rehome the dog, for its sake.

PiperPosey · 20/02/2022 14:08

@Totalwasteofpaper Absolutely agree 100% ...
@WonderfulYou Yep!
@Ludo19 absolutely all of this!
@FlipFlops4Me It is her call... Absolutely. And it's sad that she is NOT acting on it. It sickens me.
OP so what are you going to do about it? I'm serious. You get us all wound up and then you ghost us.

Madein1995 · 20/02/2022 14:24

Op, imo you are just as bad as the abuser if you allow that poor animal to live somewhere it is being abused. Rehome the dog.
Honestly, makes me fuming to think of what kind of vile creature behaves that way and what kind of woman accepts it and does fuck all to protect the innocent dog and the children. Disgusting.

Reviewer123456 · 20/02/2022 14:31

@Chickencuddle

He is actually vegan and very into animal rights etc
Not exactly true this statement is it? You say he in to animal rights but he thinks it is ok to kick the dog not only once but 3 times. I have never heard of a animal rights supporter who abuses their pets…..
Reviewer123456 · 20/02/2022 14:34

Perhaps you should show him this thread and he might see what people think of disgusting creatures like him. My god I am fuming!

Chloemol · 20/02/2022 14:40

I would be going upstairs, packing his bags and kicking him out

End of relationship

AnotherForumUser · 20/02/2022 14:41

If you are determined to stay with this piece of scum and be his apologist then at least have the decency and courage to protect his innocent victims. The dog and the children. Please rehome the dog and if you have the guts tell the shelter why. Abused animals can require people with experience to look after them so they can recover and begin to trust again. And contact your family or social services to care for your children. They do not deserve to live in a household with such a sick abusive bastard.

myothercarisaskoda · 20/02/2022 14:41

Come on OP, time to leave him. Should have done ages ago.

Faithtrusts · 20/02/2022 14:42

That would be a deal breaker for me. I couldn't look at him the same way ever again. No coming back...

housemaus · 20/02/2022 15:14

I'd leave my husband over this, without a second thought. One kick in self-defense and shock would have upset me a lot but I'd have understood it. To go after and kick the dog twice after that is fucking disgusting and shows what his automatic, true reaction is to something that he's annoyed by when he thinks he has all the power. Fucking prick.

Pancakeorcrepe · 20/02/2022 15:20

You are as bad as the abuser for allowing this to happen - it is clear from your other posts that he is an abusive wanker.
Why subject innocent animals and your children to this? You really need to take action.

Bluehasnoclue · 20/02/2022 15:23

I could not forgive this at all. Sorry OP.

MrsBaublesDylan · 20/02/2022 15:23

You have just witnessed an act of abuse on an animal.

If you're unsure if it's ok or not, ring and report it to the RSPCA.

You might find they solve the problem for you by removing the dog.

Fine if you want to spend your life enabling an abuser, not fine to allow children and animals to suffer at his hands too.

Tee20x · 20/02/2022 15:31

So he realises it wasn't a reactive kick and went over to kick the dog some more because he missed?

It's a no from me.

Toanewstart23 · 20/02/2022 15:34

Sod the dog

There’s children in this mess

Sunnytwobridges · 20/02/2022 15:42

That would be a wrap for me.

The kicks after the first one was abusive. And I don’t deal with abuse of any kind. He is a disgusting human being and has really shown his true colors.

EmbarrassedAllOver · 20/02/2022 15:43

@Chickencuddle

He is actually vegan and very into animal rights etc
That means nothing. Gaby Pettitos partner, who strangled her to death, was abusive.

Sometimes people act for a cause to improve their own image rather than actually live the message.

Someone who kicks a dog isn't vegan out of principle.

Your husband is a nasty coward. I suspect he's nasty in other ways too - good people don't kick animals. Especially when he clearly caused it by moving food near the dog.