Would you allow best man's newborn at wedding

[questionofthedaywedding]

If your best man would be father to a 1-2 month old new born on your wedding day, would you allow the newborn at the wedding, when it's generally a no children wedding ?

Is that being harsh to best man and his wife, who'll presumably only come if newborn can come?

Asking for a friend situation.

@Raindancer411

Oh gawd that young I would say yes, esp if otherwise he cannot come. They cannot expect him to leave his wife at home alone just to go.

My wedding we had kids as I didn't want it to be a barrier. I loved weddings as a kid, and they bring joy to it.

I so agree, I got married a long time ago but children were a part of every wedding. They do bring joy. The DJ organised a few games for them, which they loved. They also loved the dancing, especially the little girls with me in my "pretty" dress.

I would, without question!

@user1471600850

I would tell them to get stuffed! or in stronger terms FUCK OFF!

You'd tell your best man to fuck off? Well, I guess that would be one way to destroy a friendship. And probably a few more once word got round.

This is shocking, a very young baby should be welcome, it’s horrible to suggest the BM just leave his wife and child home, those first few months are exhausting, they are either all welcome or none attend.

Babes in arms should be the exception to child free weddings in my opinion. I can understand older children (it can get expensive). I should say I had children at my wedding, but I understand.

But to be honest if I was advising the person with the baby I would be saying, “miss the wedding and stay home in your pjs”.

A good friend got married when my eldest was 12 weeks. Not allowed in. I was knackered anyway. My DM had to take him during the church service (she sat in parish hall). I fed him after. She followed us to reception where I fed him again. She took him home and we followed after meal about 4 hours later. By which time my boobs were sore, full and leaking. Looking back I should have just said no.

No I would tell the people getting married - I am not assuming this is posted by the best man! if someone told me i was welcome to come to their wedding as the best man but couldn't bring my wife or baby but could pick someone else if I wanted I would tell them to FO!

I wouldn't attend a child-free wedding anyway (I have no patience for all the "our day" shit and people treating their guests like props) but this is particularly egregious. Best man should tell them to take a running jump.

Yes, I had no children at mine but I would have made an exception for that (and anyone with a small baby to be honest).

If their only going to be 1 month old they might not want to be there! Might be worth just having a chat with the best man say it's a child free wedding what does he think etc

I wouldn't even go if I had a tiny baby, especially to a child free wedding. Bringing the baby when they explicitly state its child free is rude to me. Ive been to weddings where there were wailing babies and I don't think that's fair to the couple getting married. Plus It wouldn't be much fun having to tend to a baby in a setting like that.

And I wouldn't be upset if someone in my wedding party couldn't attend because they had a small baby. It's life, and shit happens and its not the end of the world.

For our wedding we said no kids except babes in arms ie. Newborns. They will sleep most of the time and the mum will probably head off after the dinner.
I dont think it's a big deal inviting the baby.
X

What is this weird British obsession re no kids at weddings.

I think it must be a new thing. I'm 50ish and have never been to a child-free wedding. Or maybe it's to do with the circles you move in?

Babies in arms and primary care giver are classed as one unit in my mind.

Yes I definitely would
But then I don't really get child free weddings

seems reasonable to invite him to bring the baby - but how many other guests will be hacked off because they weren;t ably to bring their children if you do?

I'm guessing you're the wife of the best man and yanbu. Newborn baby should be allowed at the wedding if they want best man and wife there.

Of course I would allow it. It's a total dick move by the couple if they don't

@questionofthedaywedding

Wedding is quite far from where the BM and wife live.

The bridegroom are suggesting the best man just comes in his own and leaves wife and baby at home. They've even suggested BM can take another plus one instead of wife and baby.

If I were the wife, and my DH left me with a 4 week old baby to attend a wedding - presumably overnight - then I'd probably tell him not to come back.

If I were the best man being told that my 4 week old baby and wife were not welcome I would probably tell them I would not be there as my family come first.

I had a child free wedding and was 100% happy to have our friend and their 4 mo the old there.

I had no children under 12 at my wedding but I would have said yes to a tiny baby. Of course BM will want his DW/DP there & she can’t leave a baby that young.

The bridegroom are suggesting the best man just comes in his own and leaves wife and baby at home. They've even suggested BM can take another plus one instead of wife and baby.

Ahhahahah, you had me until this.

Someone has really summed up child free weddings here by saying guests are wanted as “props”

I’d wager more child free weddings end up
in divorce vs those with a more relaxed attitude 😂

@questionofthedaywedding

Wedding is quite far from where the BM and wife live.

The bridegroom are suggesting the best man just comes in his own and leaves wife and baby at home. They've even suggested BM can take another plus one instead of wife and baby.

Wtf?!? That’s ridiculous and I’d be pulling out of being BM and distancing myself from the batshittery

Bestman should step down and remove himself from this batshittery.