DH and I share a double bed, but have our own duvets (both always stealing duvet of the other so we have a duvet each). Strangely DH has always had a flat sheet between him and the duvet and I adapted years ago not really finding a great issue with it...
So - changing our bed involves, 5 pillowcases (I have 3, he has 2), one fitted bottom sheet, 2 flat sheets and two double duvet covers......and when you're a short ar*e like me it's rather an effort as I have to keep walking round the bed to straighten it all up.
I'm embarrassingly awful at remembering to change the bed and it really REALLY neeeded doing......badly .
Took me about 20 minutes in total and I arrived downstairs and told DH (jokingly) "gosh I can't wait until we buy a bigger duvet cover so that changing the bed isn't such a great effort"...
His response was "oh I've been changing my pillow cases/sheets/duvet cover as and when needed" (bollox has he - they were just as bad as my ones - if not worse as he sweats like a pig in bed). He then proceeded to ask which sheet I'd put under his duvet.....told him and it was "the wrong one" - the one I put on (although cotton - and admittedly several years older) is apparently not warm enough.....would I mind putting one of the white sheets on.
Told him they'd both been on the bed so I'd had no choice and he asked me to go and put one of the dirty white sheets back on his side of the bed.......on top of the lovely clean and fresh fitted sheet, fresh pillowcases and fresh duvet cover.
I did it (to keep the peace......and he was in the middle of getting all 3 DS's ready for bed so it wasn't like he was sat on his ar*e being lazy or anything) and he told me I "should have checked with him before changing them and then it wouldn't have happened!!!!".
He doesn't seem to see that (in my eyes) the whole 20 minute exercise was a total waste of time as there's a horrible smelly dirty sheet mixed in with all the nice clean ones.
It should also be added that I'm appallingly undomesticated, and I find the whole "domestic" stuff a real struggle to keep on top of. He does his fair share and I'm VERY grateful for that (otherwise house would just be terrible!). However, he tends to make little comments to try and encourage me to get stuff done (I don't mind that - it usually spurs me into action and I feel great afterwards!),.....but then on the other hand seems to have complaints when I do things off my own back! (it was hoovering "at the wrong time" a few weeks back.......).
OK yes I KNOW I'm probably being very unreasonable given how helpful (and patient with me over it) he is with the housework but I can't help feeling like it's a bit of a kick in the teeth.....and I really don't want to bring it up with him now as I know that the mood I'm in I'd probably get over emotional about it and we'd end up rowing about it.......and I know it's not worth fighting over.
Right - rant over......