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To ask why some people are SO rude about Valentine’s Day?

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Sweetlikejollof · 15/02/2022 13:47

I find this so strange. If you don’t celebrate it, then that’s fine. Nobody is trying to make you.

However, some of us do celebrate it. And we enjoy it. So, why be rude about it? Why all the vitriol? Every year, multiple threads of people being remarkably unpleasant that others have the effrontery to celebrate something that they don’t personally care for. Why?!

And the ‘it’s commercial nonsense’ and ‘we celebrate our love every day’ arguments aren’t relevant here, as I’m not asking why you don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day (your relationship is entirely your business), I’m specifically asking why some people are rude about other people celebrating it.

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Sweetlikejollof · 15/02/2022 16:21

@amiafreakofnature You think telling you that dragging other women down won’t fix your problems is ‘discrediting’ you?

As stated multiple times above, Valentine’s Day is celebrated by people in all kinds of relationships. Some of those relationships are shitty. Nobody is denying that.

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UserBotLurking9to5 · 15/02/2022 16:21

I celebrate it by slagging it off! Thank you.

goawaystormy · 15/02/2022 16:22

[quote HelloFrostyMorning]@goawaystormy

we have sex 3 or 4 nights a week anyway.

And you mentioned this because...........................[/quote]
I mentioned it because it's entirely relevent to the overall point I was making. Of course if you quote me out of context it looks strange Hmm

What I actually said was: 'Me and my boyfriend do low key valentines day, we cook together, watch a film, have sex, and exchange cards. Except we cook together, watch a film (or tv show) and have sex 3 or 4 nights a week anyway.'

So I mentioned it to explain that our valentines day 'celebrations' weren't actually any different to how we normally spend our time together. But it was still a celebration, i'd still say that we 'did' valentines day because it was nice, felt special, and was a good excuse to celebrate.

You are the perfect example of the kind of person OP is talking about on this thread. Spiteful and won't let other people enjoy things, twists things to make them appear different to how they were. And taking other people sharing their experiences (shock horror at the amount me and my boyfriend have sex) as personal attacks, rather than just as they are - sharing in the context of the discussion taking place.

amiafreakofnature · 15/02/2022 16:23

I haven't dragged any women ......

amiafreakofnature · 15/02/2022 16:23

You have done just that though by using my previous posts to score points

HelloFrostyMorning · 15/02/2022 16:23

So @amiafreakofnature tell me where I said 'men OWN women' ...

You can't can you, because I never said it

You cannot make stuff up that isn't true, (and was never said,) to try and win your (lame) argument. That's against the rules. Also proves you are losing the argument.

UserBotLurking9to5 · 15/02/2022 16:23

But seriously, it's easier when you're single. It can be a bit coerced. Celebrate in this way on this day. And people do get upset about it as a quick glance on here ystrdy shows

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Sweetlikejollof · 15/02/2022 16:24

@UserBotLurking9to5

I celebrate it by slagging it off! Thank you.
😂😂😂
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GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 15/02/2022 16:24

Oh, everyone's fighting now.

amiafreakofnature · 15/02/2022 16:24

So a man can't spoil his woman

His denotes ownership - obviously

HelloFrostyMorning · 15/02/2022 16:25

@goawaystormy

Wow, you sound irrationally angry. Did I touch a raw nerve? Or are you just having a bad day ? Confused

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Sweetlikejollof · 15/02/2022 16:25

@amiafreakofnature

I haven't dragged any women ......
The pp who you have insulted and dragged down clearly disagree. As do I.
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Sweetlikejollof · 15/02/2022 16:25

@GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou

Oh, everyone's fighting now.
Grin
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amiafreakofnature · 15/02/2022 16:26

The women I've insulted- where are they then?

goawaystormy · 15/02/2022 16:28

@amiafreakofnature

So a man can't spoil his woman

His denotes ownership - obviously

Bloody hell of course it doesn't Hmm

Just because I refer to 'my boyfriend' doesn't mean I think I own him, it's just an expression of my relationship to me

Similarly if I were to say 'my friend and her husband' I don't think my friend owns the man in question - it's just describing their relationship.

'my mum'
'your dad'
'my friend's girlfriend'
'the boss's husband'

None of this is anyone owning anyone else, it's just expressing how people are related to each other.

HelloFrostyMorning · 15/02/2022 16:29

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amiafreakofnature · 15/02/2022 16:29

You don't see the difference between their wife /mum and their woman?

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Sweetlikejollof · 15/02/2022 16:30

@amiafreakofnature

The women I've insulted- where are they then?
You think your comments to @HelloFrostyMorning aren’t insults?

You came this post and commented this before I engaged with you at all:

“And you sound an absolute delight OP
Have you pissed everyone off on social media boasting by any chance and want to come here telling everyone how unfair people are?”

You don’t think that was insulting?

You’ve made multiple goady comments, basically spoiling for a fight and clearly disappointed that nobody was biting.

I repeat, insulting other women and dragging them down won’t fix your love life. You can be as nasty as you like on MN, but it’s unlikely to make you feel any better. I’m done with you, now.

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HelloFrostyMorning · 15/02/2022 16:31

@amiafreakofnature DO yourself a favour dear. Just stop. You are embarrassing yourself. Sad

amiafreakofnature · 15/02/2022 16:31

Lol the OP is the only one starting threads objecting to people who don't celebrate valentines and frothing at the mouth at anyone who actually dares to reply so what does that say about needing help 😂

goawaystormy · 15/02/2022 16:31

[quote HelloFrostyMorning]@goawaystormy

Wow, you sound irrationally angry. Did I touch a raw nerve? Or are you just having a bad day ? Confused[/quote]
I'm not irrationally angry.

It's just very tiring to see over and over again on MN posters quoting other posters out of context to entirely twist what they were trying to say. It's manipulative.

Why exactly did you feel the need to misquote me and then question what I wrote when it was quite clear why I said it in the context of my original post?

amiafreakofnature · 15/02/2022 16:33

OP where is that insulting all women?
You on the other hand tried to get personal and failed to make a point- why would I object to Valentine's Day due to my own relationship when I've already said he bought me a present ? Nice try though!

Dovecare · 15/02/2022 16:33

My husband had not sent me a valentine card for 50 years. This year he broke the habit with a lovely card but signed it Bear.....our labrador. He just couldn't sit right with the idea but wanted me to know how much I was loved. The lab got lots of kisses lol xxx

ExConstance · 15/02/2022 16:35

Well I love Valentines day, DH and I have celebrated it for 39 years now with overblown romance, cards, a good bottle of champagne and a special meal, either at home or out. It is just a day to have a bit of fun, enjoy yourself and put extra emphasis on the love you have for your significant other. If i didn't have DH i think I'd make a point of spoiling my dog instead, and drinking the champagne on my own.

Saysama · 15/02/2022 16:38

@amiafreakofnature

OP where is that insulting all women? You on the other hand tried to get personal and failed to make a point- why would I object to Valentine's Day due to my own relationship when I've already said he bought me a present ? Nice try though!
Nobody said you were insulting all women. Just that you’ve insulted women. Which you clearly have.

And you’re objecting to Valentine’s Day because your relationship is shitty, you feel shitty and you want to make other people feel shitty.

Nice try, though!