Page 4 | To think this isn't 'pretentious'

Xtraincome · 12/02/2022 19:15

If you're response was
"Well, I'm reading social work at uni, at master level of course, I wouldn't be caught dead doing like my twatty sibling"
But you didn't at all, but I guarantee that was your Bros interpretation as he is clearly an insecure prat.

Well done on your masters OP! Ignore your bro and his nonsense as best you can.

WeAreTheHeroes · 12/02/2022 19:16

I think I'd be tempted to text back that it was lovely to meet his Gf and you hope to see her again some time. Ignore the twattery from your brother. I bet this is entirely his spin on things - she's probably said, "you never said blameit is doing a master's".

TyrannosaurusRegina · 12/02/2022 19:17

@pigsDOfly

But you're not 'doing social work' are you, you've 'done' social work and now you're doing the next level, a masters.

She asked you what you were doing at uni and you told her. How on earth is that being pretentious, you were stating a fact.

Don't be wary of telling people, be proud of what you've achieved. Your brother is being ridiculous.

A masters in social work tends to be for people who have done an undergrad not in social work, to convert to social work.

namethattuneinone · 12/02/2022 19:18

@blameitontheweatherwoman

Meeting my brothers new girlfriend last night at a family event. Small talk etc and she asked me what I was doing at uni, I said and I quote, 'a masters in social work'. That was fine, small pleasantries were exchanged and that was it.

Must note me and my brother don't have the best of relationships. God knows we've tried but we just don't get on, we're polar opposites and fall out, make up, fall out, make up.

Anyways, this afternoon I received a text from him, basically the way I presented myself and my education was 'pretentious'. Was there any need to tell his girlfriend I was doing a master in social work rather than just 'I'm doing social work'. He said even saying I was doing a postgrad would have been better.

It was honestly not a conscious thought but was then thinking, even if it was, why bloody not? I'm proud of it?

However it's made me weary about how I present it to others (sure I'm overthinking). Is it pretentious to say that when asked??

Its what your studying for fucks sake!

He expects you to dumb it down for his girlfriend ?? I can see why you have issues with him...

icannotbebothered · 12/02/2022 19:18

Not pretentious at all, if you're doing a masters.. it's normal to say you're doing a masters?

Camomila · 12/02/2022 19:20

I'm not sure how a postgrad sounds less pretentious than a masters? Postgrad could be anything from a postgrad certificate to a PhD.

I don't think you were being pretentious, you were just answering a question accurately.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 12/02/2022 19:20

i should say Are you sure Pretentious is the word you are looking for ?

IncompleteSenten · 12/02/2022 19:21

There's nothing pretentious about it

It's education. It's fine. People need to get over themselves.

MrsKeats · 12/02/2022 19:21

She asked. You answered honestly. Your brother sounds a nightmare with a chip on his shoulder.
Hope your studies are going well!
Never dim your light for others who don't want you to shine is my motto.

mummykel16 · 12/02/2022 19:21

@blameitontheweatherwoman

Meeting my brothers new girlfriend last night at a family event. Small talk etc and she asked me what I was doing at uni, I said and I quote, 'a masters in social work'. That was fine, small pleasantries were exchanged and that was it.

Must note me and my brother don't have the best of relationships. God knows we've tried but we just don't get on, we're polar opposites and fall out, make up, fall out, make up.

Anyways, this afternoon I received a text from him, basically the way I presented myself and my education was 'pretentious'. Was there any need to tell his girlfriend I was doing a master in social work rather than just 'I'm doing social work'. He said even saying I was doing a postgrad would have been better.

It was honestly not a conscious thought but was then thinking, even if it was, why bloody not? I'm proud of it?

However it's made me weary about how I present it to others (sure I'm overthinking). Is it pretentious to say that when asked??

Why ask if they don't wanna know?

Stuff them, green eyed gits

mustlovegin · 12/02/2022 19:22

Social studies is a subject that anyone of average intelligence can manage.

It's not your fault that this woman can't be bothered OP

EinsteinaGogo · 12/02/2022 19:23

If you do respond, OP, I'd definitely go with a 'how do you mean?, how so?' type response.

Get him to expressly say why he thinks you were pretentious.

What a twat, how bloody dare he?

DoubleYouOhEmAyEn · 12/02/2022 19:23

Pretentious means you're pretending to be something you're not. Which you aren't. He's a dick.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 12/02/2022 19:23

say to him "I think the word you are looking for his Proud"

OfstedOffred · 12/02/2022 19:23

Aren't masters in social work quite common? In that field of work, I mean. It doesnt sound in the least pretentious to me. Masters degrees are ten a penny these days anyway.

EinsteinaGogo · 12/02/2022 19:25

@mustlovegin

Social studies is a subject that anyone of average intelligence can manage.

It's not your fault that this woman can't be bothered OP

, Did you mean to be so rude, @mustlovegin ?

"never mind, OP, anyone can do what you're doing". Fuck me,

Wilkolampshade · 12/02/2022 19:26

Tell him to get fucked.

girlmom21 · 12/02/2022 19:27

@WonderfulYou

I'd think you were a bit pretentious emphasising the Masters to be honest, but that's because I know people who do so and are being pretentious.

It makes me sad that as women we still have to act dumb else people get offended.

I have a degree and a PGCE and I am incredibly proud. I am also starting a masters and hope to get my phd one day.
I will never hide this from anyone out of fear that others might be jealous.

The same as my family and friends should not be ashamed to say they’ve not been to uni, college, got GCSEs etc as they should be proud too.

I'd think she was pretentious if she was a man. But I know people who will tell you all about their PHD like you're too thick to possibly understand who don't last more than a few weeks in a job because they're just not capable.

That's just my experience.

User310 · 12/02/2022 19:27

But you are doing a masters in social work.
He sounds an idiot and why would the girlfriend be bothered anyway?! Both strange

Latara · 12/02/2022 19:27

I wouldn't bother replying to your brother.

Good on you btw for doing a masters in social work.

TakeSomeMoreTea · 12/02/2022 19:27

You have done nothing wrong and should be proud.

I don't think your Brother likes you, which is very sad. How are you usually?

TakeSomeMoreTea · 12/02/2022 19:30

I read your first post again and no you don't get on, so just ignore him. It must be hard though.

BillMasheen · 12/02/2022 19:30

Despite my flippant answer earlier, I did have a similar but work related dilemma a few weeks ago.

I went to a work conference, by pure coincidence, based around what I actually did my dissertation on. I only got invited because the organiser thought i might be interested in networking. She didn’t know I’d done a research project on the very thing. Eg if it had been a conference on use of Lego in primary education, I’d done a comparative study on Lego vs Minecraft. (Actual thing was even more bizarrely niche than that)

First teabreak a few of us got chatting on the topic, and someone asked if Lego was even any good, or maybe we’d be better switching to oh I don’t know some computer game.

I wrestled with myself for a good 10 seconds before saying, well yes, I did a postgraduate research project on this.
But I still feel oddly embarrassed that I came across as a right nobhead. And I don’t know exactly why I feel I should, given it was an actual conference on my specialist subject. Bloody imposter syndrome I guess.

FriendofDorothy · 12/02/2022 19:30

Your brother is a knob.

Travis1 · 12/02/2022 19:31

Not pretentious and you should
Be bloody proud. What a dick he is