Toothbrush heads in pocket

[Essexmummy88]

My “partner” has four heads of toothbrushes in his coat pocket, yes I went through his pockets to find change for drinks at toddler group. He says he “just has them” but that’s obviously not exactly normal so I’m wondering is there some reason he would stash toothbrush heads in his pockets? Could it be some drug related thing?

@Essexmummy88 Women's Aid place a family at a distance for a reason

You don't need more than 3p to accept help
You will be fed , with a roof over your head and your children will be safe

Please don't allow your children this lifestyle any longer

You have a duty to Safeguard them

@VelvetChairGirl nobody's excusing anything. We're answering OP's questions.

OP I don't know the extent of the drug use in this situation, but my only thought from my own experience of living with a hard drug user was that after smoking heroin, there is often the tarry brown residue on the front of their teeth - and could the toothbrush heads be a portable solution for that?

Doesn't make much sense if he doesn't leave the house though, why he'd have the need for them. Could smoke it locked in your own bathroom and clean teeth then.
Then again people often use in their dealers house, trying before buying, could be cleaning after that.

I'm sure you'd have noticed a host of other things if he was using drugs like that though, it's not exactly subtle.

The plastic handles can be used as makeshift blades - if he's trying to get into a place with metal detectors, these 'shanks' won't show up.

@Gingernaut

Are you saying a toothbrush handle can be used as a knife? Surely it won't be sharp enough to use as a knife?

OP, I know women who can barely speak English, have no understanding of how services work in the UK, have no money or jobs - but have kids and abusive husbands, who have been able to leave them with support of women's aid and supported financially through CTC etc. 3p or not, you can get help.

@Essexmummy88
Why are you back with him? What happened after the police came last time?

Pretty sure this thread will disappear, but before it does OP I want to reiterate
Leave
Leave
Leave

You could go into refuge with your kids, up north, nearer your family, there are places all over the country. I remember your last thread, so many people gave you brilliant advice and support. But here you still are? Hmm. Toothbrush heads are a pointless red herring thing to wonder about. Get out, stay out protect your kids from an abusive druggy.

Op, go to your family. It doesn't matter if they're far away. In fact it's probably for the best if you get far away from your boyfriend.
Your children can adapt to a new school. They will be psychologically damaged forever if you stay with this man. Changing school is nothing in the long term.

Pack some bags for you and your children TODAY, ask a relative to come and pick you up or ask if they can loan you some money for train tickets.

What are you wanting from the thread? Somewhere to chat?

We all know the toothbrushes aren't the issue.

What is your next step? Why not call womens aid again? They understand when people aren't quite ready and it can take a few "goes" before they leave.

I honestly don't think everyone chimming in with ideas about toothrbushes will help OP.

Op please.. call womens aid and get out. Please.

@Essexmummy88
I’m so sorry you are in this terrible position and I understand how hard it is to end a relationship.
I made mine leave last year. It wasn’t easy but I held my ground and he has now accepted it. The police were behind me and were there if I needed them.
Would it be possible for you to lock him out next time he leaves?

Sorry to lower the tone (if that's even possible) but could it be a sexual thing?

I have NO idea and he sounds like an abusive arsehole.

I also wonder what he could have in his pockets that WOULD make you leave? Guns? Drugs? Needles?

I dunno. It all just sounds so awful for you. I wonder what you need to enable you to break free from this nasty cunt.

@GastroNuisance how on earth is that helpful?

Oh I don’t know anymore

It’s not a sexual thing that’s for sure

Ok. I work with homeless people who are entrenched with drug issues

I’ve never known any of them speak about toothbrush heads. They’re very open with me. We are all adults. So they’ve no reason to lie. I also work for a needle exchange and the same thing.

[quote girlmom21]@VelvetChairGirl nobody's excusing anything. We're answering OP's questions.[/quote]
I am just saying there is no excuse in law for a shiv, your be better off with a knife in the eyes of the law. as for the DP no one is going to help her but herself and it is hard, you have to decide no and stick with it and be strong against all the threats and fear, there is support but thats exactly what it is support they cant take the steps for you only offer help when you do

OP if you want to leave start a thread in relationships saying you need practical advice, link your old thread and if you feel able to give a vague idea of your area.

Tonnes of posters will have lots and lots of advice on the practicalities of leaving.

Money or no money, kids or no kids, family or no family, there is help out there for every single person to leave an abusive relationship

@Liz1tummypain

www.corrections1.com/contraband/articles/8-real-and-lethal-prisoner-made-shivs-irEWaHv5Qhr1o3sV/

@Essexmummy88

Oh I don’t know anymore

What is it that you don't know?

Why is he back in the house again after the police made him leave last time ?

Are you just inviting him back in each time?

Why is he back in the home?