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Toothbrush heads in pocket

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Essexmummy88 · 12/02/2022 12:50

My “partner” has four heads of toothbrushes in his coat pocket, yes I went through his pockets to find change for drinks at toddler group. He says he “just has them” but that’s obviously not exactly normal so I’m wondering is there some reason he would stash toothbrush heads in his pockets? Could it be some drug related thing?

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LIZS · 12/02/2022 17:02

@Essexmummy88

Why would be store the toothbrush heads if he was making weapons. And we do have knives in our kitchen so not sure why he would make his own.

Handles broken off and sharpened?

Bluecatsalltheway · 12/02/2022 17:26

LIZS · 12/02/2022 17:26

Is this the guy who was allegedly in rehab?

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Essexmummy88 · 12/02/2022 17:28

No he hasn’t been in rehab you must be thinking of another post

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OutlookStalking · 12/02/2022 17:39

Essex mummy. Are you making a plan to leave? Do you want to leave?
Are there kids in the home?

LIZS · 12/02/2022 17:44

If he is an abusive drug user/dealer you need to leave for your dc sake, if not your own

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Essexmummy88 · 12/02/2022 17:57

Yes I am making a plan but it’s like the equivalent to the plan of a homeless person suddenly renting Buckingham palace

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LIZS · 12/02/2022 17:59

If police were previously aware are ss involved? Is a refuge an option?

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Essexmummy88 · 12/02/2022 18:10

Yes ss were involved. A male social worker came to do a visit/check whatever you want to call it. Stayed a few minutes spoke to me and then left and closed the case.

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Essexmummy88 · 12/02/2022 18:11

Sorry not sure why I pointed out he’s male

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OutlookStalking · 12/02/2022 18:32

Do you want help to leave? Can you contact the Social worker again and aks for help?

Or ring women's aid?

Maybe ask them to help you work out what to do next to get closer to leaving.

girlmom21 · 12/02/2022 18:34

Social services can only help with what they can see. If you hide things from then you can't expect them to be able to support you with that issue. Call him.

Anonymous48 · 13/02/2022 15:24

@Essexmummy88

So many people have tried to help you in your threads, including Mumsnet themselves, who arranged to have the police go to your house because they were so worried. Yet nothing ever changes.

You haven't answered anyone's questions about what the result of the police coming was and why he is still in your house after that. You claim the guy from social services came and talked to you briefly and then closed the case.

I can only draw one of two conclusions. You are either lying to us about things like your boyfriend pushing you around for an hour leading to you breaking a tooth, or not "letting" you order any food when you go out to eat, because it's fun for you. If that's the case, please stop. It isn't funny.

The other possibility is that these things are all true but when you talk to the police or social services or your dad you don't tell them what's going on and you minimize everything and pretend everything is OK. If that is the case, then really please please stop. It's not just you that is affected. Your kids are being more scarred by the day by being in this situation, however much you'd like to believe they're unaware. For their sake, get out. You don't need to make a plan at this point other than having your dad come pick you up or going to a refuge.

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