Will get vaccine for holiday but not family

ajandjjmum · 10/02/2022 13:53

I volunteer in a vaccine centre, and am continually amazed by the idiocy of some people. 'Don't want it, but I've got to get it because I'm getting married in the Caribbean', 'Being made to have it to go on holiday'. My tongue is sore from the number of times I've had to bite it!

Sorry your DD has behaved like this - I too would be hurt.

AutumnLeaves21 · 10/02/2022 14:30

You’re the unreasonable one. If you’ve had a vaccine, why does it matter that she hadn’t?! I say this as someone triple vaxed. I honestly can’t believe someone would miss out on their new grandchild due to this. I would be so upset if I was your daughter. The world have gone mad, honestly.

Pedalpushers · 10/02/2022 14:35

@AutumnLeaves21 because vaccines aren't 100% protective and someone unvaccinated is more likely to have Covid to pass on to you? But whatever the reasoning, at least OP has been consistent whereas her daughter has been a hypocrite.

AutumnLeaves21 · 10/02/2022 14:38

Can still catch it and still pass it on. Honestly the world has gone completely bonkers over covid. If the daughter wants to have the vaccine for any reason she chooses then that’s her decision. Op is being hysterical. I would never not visit my newborn grandchild! Shocking.

Veryworried22 · 10/02/2022 14:39

this is ridiculous. When all restrictions are dropped some of you will go into utter meltdown at having nothing to control people with.
You made the choice to keep yourself away from your grandchild. Deal with it.

PurpleDaisies · 10/02/2022 14:41

She’s getting vaccinated now. Really, does it matter why?

CorrBlimeyGG · 10/02/2022 14:42

It was your choice not to see your grandchild.

Bakewelltart987 · 10/02/2022 14:42

She didn't stop letting you see grandchild you chose that like she chose not to have vaccine! Her having the vaccine or not makes absolutely no difference to you and how your body will fight off covid if you caught it.
I hope your shielding if you don't want to come into contact with any1 not had the vaccine.

ShallWeTalkAboutBruno · 10/02/2022 14:44

You made the choice not to see your grandchild.

StrongCoffeAvalanche · 10/02/2022 14:48

YABU. Don't get me wrong, I think she was an idiot not to have the vaccine. But... Your daughter can do what she likes vaccine wise, on what she believes. She shouldn't have to do it for you and your beliefs.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 10/02/2022 14:50

YABU. It was your choice not to see her. That's on you.

ohhooh · 10/02/2022 14:50

I got vaccinated so I could go on holiday 🤷🏻‍♀️ don't see the problem with that really!

You decided not to see your granddaughter due to vaccination status, that's your choice. You probably encounter people all the time who haven't been vaccinated!

Lazypuppy · 10/02/2022 14:53

Sounds like it was your decision not to visit so YABU

Starlight86 · 10/02/2022 14:53

Honestly.....If i was your daughter i would be disgusted with YOUR behavior.

YOU chose not to see your grandchild.

How dare you blame your daughter for making a choice based on her body.

People truly do amaze and dismay me all at once.

MarbleQueen · 10/02/2022 14:53

It’s sad you’ve chosen not to see your grandchild.

The media absolutely whipped this up into a frenzy.

Topseyt · 10/02/2022 14:57

I don't get the impression that she did stop you from seeing your grandchild.

I presume that you are vaccinated and boostered? I know that the vaccines are not 100% and there can still be spread, but really, you could still have gone. Otherwise, what is the point of getting vaccinated.

I have health issues which make me vulnerable. I still go to see my elderly and vulnerable mother. Nobody will be stopping me there. You could have seen the child.

Unless you are completely shielding still (if you ever did) then you could pick up Covid or any other infection anywhere at all.

We are going back to normal in England in the next three weeks. We are almost normal now. Learn to live with it. I stopped hanging onto every last news item about case numbers over a year ago now and it has been very liberating. I am pleased to see Covid has long ago ceased to be the only item on the news. It occupied that spot for far too long.

Chloemol · 10/02/2022 14:58

@AutumnLeaves21

You’re the unreasonable one. If you’ve had a vaccine, why does it matter that she hadn’t?! I say this as someone triple vaxed. I honestly can’t believe someone would miss out on their new grandchild due to this. I would be so upset if I was your daughter. The world have gone mad, honestly.

Go away with your comment

Vaccines are not 100% effective, op has health issues so there is still a chance she could get it from vaccinated people, but far more chance from unvaccinated

Lindaloo08 · 10/02/2022 14:58

Neither of you made any effort to meet in a garden/park/through a window to show/see the grandchild? If you were my mam, I'd find it hard to come back from this with you, new baby - it's up to you to make the effort. We had an issue with someone not vaccinated in our family, we accommodated the person by outdoor meeting. You chose not to meet your GC, you live with that.

AutumnLeaves21 · 10/02/2022 14:59

@Chloemol YOU go away. Unless the op is shielding she’s being ridiculous. So are you. Go away 👋🏼

DarleneSnell · 10/02/2022 15:02

You got your jab and still chose to keep away from your grandchild, that's your choice. Nuts to me, but yours to make.

You both made your own choices for your own reasons, but the person trying to influence the other is you. Laughably unreasonable.

ChoiceMummy · 10/02/2022 15:03

@tinkletoots

DD refused to get vaccine due to not knowing what was in it so I have not seen new grandchild as I did not wish to meet if she was unvaccinated due to my own health (ofcourse things are now changing and now living with the virus cautiously).

She has announced she will now get vaccinated as she wants to go on holiday.
AIBU to think I have missed out on seeing my grandchild when all along she was capable of being vaccinated.

It shows you what she values.

DoNotGetADog · 10/02/2022 15:08

Your daughter was probably much more hurt that you refused to come and see her and her baby than you are now.

I’m as pro vaccine as the next person, but it’s a choice. She didn’t want to have the vaccine so she didn’t. She wants to go on holiday and has to have the vaccine so she now has had it.

You didn’t have to make the stand that you did. It was your choice. I think you’re being manipulative to now make her decision to have the vaccine to go on holiday a slap in the face to you. It’s nothing to do with you.

EmmaH2022 · 10/02/2022 15:13

There are so many factors in this choice

I see it as "everyone has a price".

I didn't get vaxxed for my health

I would be more upset in her shoes that you didn't see her. Suppose there was no vaccine or it was years away?

orzoisorange · 10/02/2022 15:14

[quote Pedalpushers]@AutumnLeaves21 because vaccines aren't 100% protective and someone unvaccinated is more likely to have Covid to pass on to you? But whatever the reasoning, at least OP has been consistent whereas her daughter has been a hypocrite.[/quote]
Fed up hearing this misinformation.

You are MORE likely to catch and transmit Covid if you have been vaccinated, in Scotland at least. Double the rate, in some age groups.

Table 12, page 33. publichealthscotland.scot/media/11619/22-02-09-covid19-winter_publication_report.pdf

Will get vaccine for holiday but not family

Airyfairymarybeary · 10/02/2022 15:16

YABU for not seeing your grandchild because you disagree with your daughters views! There would have been ways around this but you are obviously too stubborn.