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Will get vaccine for holiday but not family

164 replies

tinkletoots · 10/02/2022 13:51

DD refused to get vaccine due to not knowing what was in it so I have not seen new grandchild as I did not wish to meet if she was unvaccinated due to my own health (ofcourse things are now changing and now living with the virus cautiously).

She has announced she will now get vaccinated as she wants to go on holiday.
AIBU to think I have missed out on seeing my grandchild when all along she was capable of being vaccinated.

OP posts:
MarbleQueen · 11/02/2022 18:51

I think it’s worth noting that there was a period of time where lots of people were refusing to see unvaccinated family members. Many people posted here about it and there was lots of support for avoiding them along with support for cutting them off completely.

Svara · 11/02/2022 18:53

@MarbleQueen

I think it’s worth noting that there was a period of time where lots of people were refusing to see unvaccinated family members. Many people posted here about it and there was lots of support for avoiding them along with support for cutting them off completely.
Yes, that was horrifying!
SoupDragon · 11/02/2022 18:54

@MarbleQueen

I think it’s worth noting that there was a period of time where lots of people were refusing to see unvaccinated family members. Many people posted here about it and there was lots of support for avoiding them along with support for cutting them off completely.
How many of them refused to see their new baby granddaughter and blamed their unvaccinated daughter for that?
llansannan21 · 11/02/2022 18:54

If it was to travel to visit a relative abroad, or for something such as a funeral, I'd be OK with this. In your shoes OP I'd be upset too.

Svara · 11/02/2022 19:15

I think of that tea analogy about consent. It's okay to not want tea when visiting someone one day, but to want tea months later in a different situation. She might not have been sure she liked or wanted tea, now she does.

It's not like the holiday was soon after, she may have changed her mind for heaps of different reasons since, none of which may be that she wants to go on holiday more than she wants to enable her mother in her anxiety problem.

MarbleQueen · 11/02/2022 19:42

How many of them refused to see their new baby granddaughter and blamed their unvaccinated daughter for that?

Plenty I imagine. People refused to see their elderly parents too and there seemed to be a twisted pride in cutting family members off or excluding them from Christmas.

I’m not saying it’s right at all. Some people are going to struggle to repair their relationships.

XenoBitch · 11/02/2022 19:51

YABU
You chose to not see your DD and new grandchild. That is time you will never get back.

Svara · 11/02/2022 19:59

@XenoBitch

YABU You chose to not see your DD and new grandchild. That is time you will never get back.
This is so true. I have precious photos of my parents holding my DS as a newborn. To think of a grandparent choosing not to have those moments.
AutomaticMoon · 11/02/2022 20:17

@BigSandyBalls2015

There has to be more to this. What was your relationship like with your DD pre covid?

Utter madness IMO. One of my DDs isn’t vaccinated and I couldn’t care less, it’s her choice.
That doesn’t make her dim or uneducated.

Also can I just say that vulnerable people and those with all sorts of health issues have had covid mildly and recovered …. It’s not the automatic death sentence they many believe FFS.

Don’t talk so much sense, you might get banned or something!
SomeDyke · 12/02/2022 10:59

Except it was explicitly stated on here, based on that raw data, that vaccinated were more likely to pass it on -- a statement about vaccine efficacy versus no vaccine that should not have been inferred from that table as was explicitly stated in the red footnote.

I also note the several posters who thanked the poster for that data.

I'm SHOCKED at the number of people so unable to correctly interpret the data, I wonder why that is...........

FromEden · 12/02/2022 11:32

You're SHOCKED, but who gives a shit. The reality is people like the OP have sacrificed seeing their grand kids for no reason at all, based on posts like yours which are wrong And that's sad. Shame on you.

newmum2be101 · 12/02/2022 11:59

@FromEden

You're SHOCKED, but who gives a shit. The reality is people like the OP have sacrificed seeing their grand kids for no reason at all, based on posts like yours which are wrong And that's sad. Shame on you.
👏🏻
MajorCarolDanvers · 12/02/2022 12:12

Anti Valera are inherently selfish so it's not at all surprising that a selfish motivation has changed her mind.

MajorCarolDanvers · 12/02/2022 12:12

@MajorCarolDanvers

Anti Valera are inherently selfish so it's not at all surprising that a selfish motivation has changed her mind.
Anti vaxxer. Typo.
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