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AIBU...is he being innapropriate?

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Theresalwaysonebadapple · 06/02/2022 19:58

One of the dads in ds' class at school watches my stories on social media every day. We are reasonably friendly but for me anyway its only in a platonic way (we are both married). I'm just not sure if it's a bit odd or if I'm overthinking it? He must know I know he's watched them but he carries on anyway every single day

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Octomore · 07/02/2022 13:01

If you read the pp's you would know that this is not a personal family account or anything. I am trying to work my way up to being more of a content creator so being a private account would fuck up the possibility of that

Which is why you need to accept that people will look at it.

CocoPancakes · 07/02/2022 13:09

It's kind of weird behaviour, especially it's not just generic family stuff you're posting. I have a similar situation with DH ex GF. She will, without fail, watch every story I put on Instagram but like you, she doesn't follow me, never has done and nor do I her. We are not connected on any SM and have never had any form of contact with one another so I don't understand how she knows I've posted a story unless she is creeping on my page every day.
It doesn't really bother me because I don't put overly personal stuff up, it's all fairly mundane but so baffled by how she knows to check my stories.

EeeICouldRipATissue · 07/02/2022 13:09

I am trying to work my way up to being more of a content creator so being a private account would fuck up the possibility of that
Whilst wanting to block people from a public account and engaging with your content
Yeah, can't see that strategy being very successful at growing your following Grin

Chichimcgee · 07/02/2022 13:18

I am trying to work my way up to being more of a content creator

But you’re going to block him, even though he’s doing nothing wrong?

You do realise that Instagram will show your stories to people they think you might know, so both phones will have registered each other at the same location (school) and the algorithms think you might know each other so show stories or suggest to follow etc

I think he probably (like most of us) watches random stories and yours happens to be among them

Ohmybod · 07/02/2022 13:19

Im going to block him...or maybe I'll just mention it to him casually at school pick up

So you know him well enough to mention this in passing at the school gates?

You remind me of Amanda from Motherland. This is exactly the sort of thing she’d do. “Sorry Kevin, my public Instagram page isn’t for the likes of you. Please stop looking at it”.

Bonkers.

EeeICouldRipATissue · 07/02/2022 13:27

Sorry Kevin, my public Instagram page isn’t for the likes of you. Please stop looking at it”

Grin I don't even know the bloke, but I'm starting to feel a bit sorry for the poor sod lol
MeSanniesareBrannies · 07/02/2022 13:29

@Ohmybod

Im going to block him...or maybe I'll just mention it to him casually at school pick up

So you know him well enough to mention this in passing at the school gates?

You remind me of Amanda from Motherland. This is exactly the sort of thing she’d do. “Sorry Kevin, my public Instagram page isn’t for the likes of you. Please stop looking at it”.

Bonkers.

😂😂😂
Chichimcgee · 07/02/2022 13:30

Sorry Kevin, my public Instagram page isn’t for the likes of you. Please stop looking at it

🤣 love it!

NerrSnerr · 07/02/2022 13:35

If you want to be a content creator you have to accept that people from real life will see your content.

SleepingStandingUp · 07/02/2022 13:37

Just respond to him like you would of he was female - notice you've viewed a few tutorials, anything in partic you're looking for guidance on etc. If it's his partner etc grew, it's not weird. If he's doing it to perv it might just put him off. If he replies inappropriately block

steff13 · 07/02/2022 13:55

I don't understand what harm it's doing for him to watch your hair/makeup tutorials.

Yesitsmeeeee · 07/02/2022 13:59

Hey OP! I’m a content creator. It’s not my full time job but I make a bit of money off it and I have roughly 25k Instagram followers. People will look at your stories that you know. It just comes with the territory.

I have a lot of people that I go to school with who will watch my stories and don’t follow me and I agree it is a little weird. But I only find it weird because they obviously care enough to watch my stories but they don’t follow me. I know they’re not laughing at me because I don’t post myself on there at all and there’s literally nothing you can laugh at. But they know it’s me because my name is obviously on it and I have the Instagram account in the bio of my personal account and my friends often share my posts. I like to look at who views my stories so I know who it’s reaching.

I imagine you’d find it a little less weird if he followed you so he wasn’t seeking out your account every day to watch your stories, they were just coming up at the top of his feed. If you don’t like it I personally would just block him.

AryaStarkWolf · 07/02/2022 14:02

If you read the pp's you would know that this is not a personal family account or anything. I am trying to work my way up to being more of a content creator so being a private account would fuck up the possibility of that

If you want to be a content creator you should be happy people are looking at your stories surely?

AlDanvers · 07/02/2022 14:05

I was just curious as to whether it was a bit strange is all...surely if he was that interested in watching my try ons & hair tutorials he'd just hit follow?!

Are you on a wind up or just not read the replies?

Thewindwhispers · 07/02/2022 14:27

Wow surprised at the responses. If you’re posting videos of yourself putting on make up / outfits and your child’s classmates dad is happily watching them, that is creepy and a bit repulsive. I’m gonna summe that you’re quite physically attractive and that the dad is lonely and a bit icky. I’d block him.

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Theresalwaysonebadapple · 09/02/2022 15:55

@Thewindwhispers

Wow surprised at the responses. If you’re posting videos of yourself putting on make up / outfits and your child’s classmates dad is happily watching them, that is creepy and a bit repulsive. I’m gonna summe that you’re quite physically attractive and that the dad is lonely and a bit icky. I’d block him.
Thanks for being one of the only people to actually see where I was coming from!! I actually did what a pp suggested and questioned him about it on Insta....turns out he likes me...although his words were a little more explicit than that 😬😬

Totally awkward at the school gates now & do I mention anything to OH or his wife?!

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RampantIvy · 09/02/2022 15:59

EW, he does sound rather creepy. I guess something like this was bound to happen, except this time you happen to know who the creep is.

Saysama · 09/02/2022 16:40

I’m not sure why a confrontation was preferable to just blocking him and going about your business. Do you genuinely like drama, OP?

Send screenshots to his wife or not. Up to you. Either way, BLOCK HIM. Ffs.

Sedai · 09/02/2022 16:47

If you put something on social media you are inviting anyone you are friends with on that page to watch it. If you're uncomfortable, update your privacy settings or remove anyone who makes you uncomfortable.

BABAHOTEL · 09/02/2022 18:06

Why didn't you just block him @Theresalwaysonebadapple, is he blocked now?

Ok, there is no issue him fancying you and following you, it's an open insta for him to see.

Now he's presumably been sexually explicit, that will have to be dealt with.

pinkyredrose · 13/02/2022 11:41

What did you say and what did he say?

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