AIBU...is he being innapropriate?

[Theresalwaysonebadapple]

One of the dads in ds' class at school watches my stories on social media every day. We are reasonably friendly but for me anyway its only in a platonic way (we are both married). I'm just not sure if it's a bit odd or if I'm overthinking it? He must know I know he's watched them but he carries on anyway every single day

You do know how instagram works don't you?

But there is a mum who my dh has on facebook. He posts are so batshit crazy that he makes a point of reading them/watching her videos, usually showing me saying have you seen what x has posted now and we have a bit of a giggle.

Maybe it is the OP @Comefromaway 😁

Okay so firstly, you're sure he doesn't follow your Instagram page? Double check your followers
Secondly, still find it odd you go on and check through who all has viewed your story. Why do you do that?

Thirdly, there's a high chance he's viewing your stories and making fun of you because he finds them ridiculous. That's the main reason I know of for people to be looking at someone's stories they don't follow. To make fun of you

I watch stories from whoever has put them up there. If he's your friend, what's the problem? If you don't want him watching them, either unfriend him, or create a restricted list. There's nothing 'weird' or 'inappropriate' about watching a story that is up there for you to watch. You choose your audience.

Lmao, does he follow you on Instagram?

checks notes so you intentionally keep your account public because you want the public to view it, and now someone is publicly viewing your openly public page that you don’t want to make private?

On next week’s episode of AIBU…I gave a homeless person a coffee AND THEY DRANK IT!!!!

The modern world is weird....

Ok ok, I guess the general consensus is that I'm a total psycho weirdo for thinking it's a bit unusual...I look at who has watched my stories to try & build engagement etc as I am trying to make my account into more of a business kind of thing, which has been successful so far. I actually don't even have anyone from school following me...nobody even knows about it, but obviously everyone is very much of the opinion that I'm a batshit crazy idiot.

@Theresalwaysonebadapple

Ok ok, I guess the general consensus is that I'm a total psycho weirdo for thinking it's a bit unusual...I look at who has watched my stories to try & build engagement etc as I am trying to make my account into more of a business kind of thing, which has been successful so far. I actually don't even have anyone from school following me...nobody even knows about it, but obviously everyone is very much of the opinion that I'm a batshit crazy idiot.

If you want to pursue this as a business, be very grateful he is adding to the number of people watching.

Also, if you do want it to become a business, then more and more people you know will come across it. Not because they are looking for you, but because that's how it works.

To turn this into a business, I think you need a little more understanding about how the platform works.

If you think people are inappropriate for watching, its not going to be a business.

I don’t think you’ve got skin thick enough OP to be a content creator if someone’s dad watching your insta story bothers you.

You do know the internet is full of creeps much worse than said dad?

I watch insta stories of people I follow but haven’t spoken to them in years, just to see what they up to when I bored. I hope they don’t find me inappropriate

@Mummytobe93

I don’t think you’ve got skin thick enough OP to be a content creator if someone’s dad watching your insta story bothers you.

You do know the internet is full of creeps much worse than said dad?

I watch insta stories of people I follow but haven’t spoken to them in years, just to see what they up to when I bored. I hope they don’t find me inappropriate

Of course I know there are creeps out there I'm not totallt naive...but I don't know who they are & couldn't give a shit what people I don't know think!

As I've said before he doesn't follow me & I don't follow him...his profile is empty no posts, no followers, no one following.

I was just curious as to whether it was a bit strange is all...surely if he was that interested in watching my try ons & hair tutorials he'd just hit follow?!

@Theresalwaysonebadapple

Ok ok, I guess the general consensus is that I'm a total psycho weirdo for thinking it's a bit unusual...I look at who has watched my stories to try & build engagement etc as I am trying to make my account into more of a business kind of thing, which has been successful so far. I actually don't even have anyone from school following me...nobody even knows about it, but obviously everyone is very much of the opinion that I'm a batshit crazy idiot.

Your op missed a fair amount of relevant information. If you had explained properly to begin with then posters could have responded with that in mind.

As I've said before he doesn't follow me & I don't follow him...his profile is empty no posts, no followers, no one following.

If that's the case, how do you know it's him?

@fairylightsandwaxmelts

As I've said before he doesn't follow me & I don't follow him...his profile is empty no posts, no followers, no one following.

If that's the case, how do you know it's him?

Because his handle is his name & he has a profile pic of himself on it

I’m having difficulty understanding why you wouldn’t just block him?

@Wolfiefan

Why post stories on social media if you don’t want people looking at them?

This.

You post your stories for your FB friends (of which he is one) to look at, surely? You're obviously a heavy social media user if you post every day - what do you expect people to do, if not look at your posts?

It's instagram I'm using and we do not follow each other.

@Octomore She’s already addressed all that, you can sort and read OP’s posts.

However, she could have just blocked him. She hasn’t addressed why she didn’t do that (unless I’ve missed it).

Because his handle is his name & he has a profile pic of himself on it

In which case he is unlikey to doing something creepy. He could literally make up a name and use a different photo.

@Theresalwaysonebadapple

It's instagram I'm using and we do not follow each other.

You can block people who don’t follow you on Insta.

If he's not your friend, he can only see your stories because you've made them public. Make them private - job done.

You can't put stuff up in public and then complain when people look at it.

[quote MeSanniesareBrannies]@Octomore She’s already addressed all that, you can sort and read OP’s posts.

However, she could have just blocked him. She hasn’t addressed why she didn’t do that (unless I’ve missed it).[/quote]
Im going to block him...or maybe I'll just mention it to him casually at school pick up

And if you are trying to build this as a business, you need to stop fretting about why someone follows you. You WILL have creeps following you if you are trying to earn money from social media.

@Octomore

If he's not your friend, he can only see your stories because you've made them public. Make them private - job done.

You can't put stuff up in public and then complain when people look at it.

If you read the pp's you would know that this is not a personal family account or anything. I am trying to work my way up to being more of a content creator so being a private account would fuck up the possibility of that

@1forAll74

I don't do all this facebook stuff, what stories do you post on there,, do you mean you write about yourself,and your everyday life on there each day ? Its seems a strange occupation to me. if this is what you are doing.

This comment is amazing 😂