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Original poster

AIBU...is he being innapropriate?

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Theresalwaysonebadapple · 06/02/2022 19:58

One of the dads in ds' class at school watches my stories on social media every day. We are reasonably friendly but for me anyway its only in a platonic way (we are both married). I'm just not sure if it's a bit odd or if I'm overthinking it? He must know I know he's watched them but he carries on anyway every single day

OP posts:
museumum · 06/02/2022 20:22

Some people watch stories and some dont. Maybe he has a boring commute?

AlDanvers · 06/02/2022 20:22

He must know I know he's watched them but he carries on anyway every single day

You only know because you look at who has watched it. I have never checked to see who watched my stories.

You are looking to see if he has.

BABAHOTEL · 06/02/2022 20:23

I write stories for a people to watch, I don't want them too watch?

Bizarre!

Original poster
Theresalwaysonebadapple · 06/02/2022 20:24

We're not friends, therefore I wouldn't automatically come up on his feed, so that's why I thought it was a bit odd Confused

OP posts:
Singlebutmarried · 06/02/2022 20:24

People can see if you’ve watched their stories????

Must review my stalking methods.

TheVolturi · 06/02/2022 20:25

@Singlebutmarried

People can see if you’ve watched their stories????

Must review my stalking methods.

🤣🤣🤣
AlDanvers · 06/02/2022 20:29

@Theresalwaysonebadapple

We're not friends, therefore I wouldn't automatically come up on his feed, so that's why I thought it was a bit odd Confused
Yes you can. If you have people or places in common. Then once you have watched once, they will keep popping up.
peboh · 06/02/2022 20:30

@Theresalwaysonebadapple

We're not friends, therefore I wouldn't automatically come up on his feed, so that's why I thought it was a bit odd Confused
Given you're not friends, then I'd say a little strange that he's actively searching out your accounts to watch your stories every day. However he might just genuinely be a nosey Nelly. If he's not messaging, or being strange with you in any way I'd try and not think more of it.
Milkshake54 · 06/02/2022 20:31

Does he follow you without you realising / remembering? Esp if your profile is open?

Chichimcgee · 06/02/2022 20:32

I get loads of random stories come up from people I don’t know. I imagine it’s a bit like tiktok or fb videos where you’re bored and watch whatever crap is on which automatically goes to the next video

Staffy1 · 06/02/2022 20:56

How does someone get to see your stories if you aren’t set as friends? I

givemepiece · 06/02/2022 21:01

Staffy - the Op must have a completely open profile and posts stories on it, that means anyone can view them

LyndaSnellsSniff · 06/02/2022 21:04

@Singlebutmarried

People can see if you’ve watched their stories????

Must review my stalking methods.

When I discovered this I wanted to crawl under a rock and hide for a month. I too have had to review how I stalk. Blush
Travis1 · 06/02/2022 21:04

Lock your profile down like a normal person and he won’t see them. Problem solved

Toottooot · 06/02/2022 21:55

If you don’t want people you don’t know or aren’t friends with looking at your stories you either make your page private or block that individual. Simple solution isn’t it 🤷🏻‍♀️

willithappen · 06/02/2022 22:21

Can you explain what social media platform you are using so we can understand how it can happen?
As others have said your profile must be public for him to be able to do it

Watchingpeppa12 · 06/02/2022 22:26

This must be insta as fb won’t show you if you aren’t friends ?

jytdtysrht · 07/02/2022 00:58

I don’t really know what your stories are but can’t you just not post them?

MeSanniesareBrannies · 07/02/2022 01:02

Either block him or make your Insta private. Simples.

steff13 · 07/02/2022 01:24

He's watching something that apparently has been posted publicly, so he is not being inappropriate.

hellobabyyy · 07/02/2022 01:47

Do you mean he doesn’t follow you on Instagram and he’s still watching your stories? Meaning he must actively be searching for your profile and watching what you put on there every day?

A bit odd if he’s going to all of that effort but maybe he doesn’t realise you can see. Make your profile private if it bothers you.

1forAll74 · 07/02/2022 02:23

I don't do all this facebook stuff, what stories do you post on there,, do you mean you write about yourself,and your everyday life on there each day ? Its seems a strange occupation to me. if this is what you are doing.

RussiasGreatestLoveMachine · 07/02/2022 02:40

I do not watch people’s stories because yes, it comes up who’s watched them, and I don’t want people to think I’m interested/care.

So no. I never click on people’s stories.

A lot of people do not realise this. He might be one of them.

Having said that, if you post them on an open profile, people will click on them, so 🤷🏻‍♀️

EllaVaNight · 07/02/2022 02:42

He clearly wants to give you some "outstanding clitoral stimulation"

RussiasGreatestLoveMachine · 07/02/2022 02:42

@1forAll74

I don't do all this facebook stuff, what stories do you post on there,, do you mean you write about yourself,and your everyday life on there each day ? Its seems a strange occupation to me. if this is what you are doing.
That’s not what it is.

‘Stories’ are not permanent - they’re only available for ~ 24 hours and then they disappear. And you can see who’s clicked on them, unlike stuff that’s just regularly posted.