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to feel hurt that SIL WAS going to announce pg on my wedding day?

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mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 16:36

She didnt- but only because BM was suddenly rushed to hosp with an ectopic the night before the wedding!!

She told us on xmas eve that she is pg- which is great, its their 1st child and we cant wait to have a little addition to the family- but then she mentioned that she was going to announce it at the wedding until the drama with my BM.

This just left a bad taste in my mouth, our wedding day should not be a day for people to make announcements without us knowing. I'm glad she didnt do it. but the fact she was even considering it makes me feel a bit sad really I??????

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BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 30/12/2007 17:34

Hunker I have emailed you.....

mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 17:35

But claraenglish- i am talking about her considering doing that, ive said that all along. Have not acted pissed off with her.

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lennygirl · 30/12/2007 17:36

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lapiNewYear · 30/12/2007 17:37

We got married 4 months after BIL and SIL, so were already engaged at their wedding. DF (as he was) and I decided not to say anything to anyone about our own wedding since it wasn't "our day".

BIL kept telling everyone though

JeremyVile · 30/12/2007 17:37

Right Lapin.

Well, the lack of sideboard would explain my inability to find it.

I don't have a sideboard either, heck, I dont even have a beanbag.

Should I be concerned?

mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 17:38

That is harsh- I'm not that bad!!!! A baby cant help when its born!!

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lapiNewYear · 30/12/2007 17:38

Oh lord, am I terribly middle-aged for having a sideboard?! I'm going to start a thread
claraenglish · 30/12/2007 17:45

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BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 30/12/2007 17:46

I have three, hold the door I am coming with you.

lennygirl · 30/12/2007 17:46

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VictorianSqualor · 30/12/2007 17:49

Just to add another spin on things surely it's the best man you should be annoyed with? He was the one who was going to announce it after all.

mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 17:49

Thanks guys. xxx

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hunkermunker · 30/12/2007 17:52

Sorry if I was snappy. I have a temperature, horrible cold and had about four hours sleep last night before DS2 woke up asking to see "pink sky, peez" and bounced all over me shouting "boing".

lapinewyear · 30/12/2007 17:54

I love that "peez"

lapinewyear · 30/12/2007 17:54

DS (21m) has just shouted "GIT!"

hunkermunker · 30/12/2007 17:56

Me too (except this morning I could've done with hearing it an hour later...!).

He says it utterly plaintively when it's something I cannot make happen - like "more aeroplane" - he's not worked out I can't make them fly over, low, into the local RAF base at will!

mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 17:56

Thats ok hunker- I'm really not a bridezilla. absolutely not.

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hunkermunker · 30/12/2007 17:56

Was it followed by "off the Wii, it's my turn!"?

(Have emailed you, btw, Lapin).

mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 17:57

It wasnt about 'stealing my thunder' its just about manners thats all.

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hunkermunker · 30/12/2007 17:57

Do hope your BM is OK too. Your SIL sounds like she might need some supportive eye-rolling done in her direction if she displays precious tendencies towards being pg too - she may well be the only woman ever to have had a baby, eh?

lapinewyear · 30/12/2007 17:58

Ah, hunker, he needs to talk to ME about the planes

OK peeez let's get off poor mummy2olivia's thread!

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 30/12/2007 18:00

She prob saw it as a opportunity to tell everyone in one go. At our wedding there had been 2 recent engagements so Dh congratulated them in his speech. Not a problem.

2shoes · 30/12/2007 18:02

in answer to the op. I did tell my sil I was expecting on her dd's wedding day. but it was the only way i could get a good photo of her(she hates having her photo taken.

mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 18:04

Maybe- some women do tend to get a bit like that dont they?

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Boogalooblue · 30/12/2007 22:55


I don't think you are unreasonable, I gather you are ttc, did your sil know this?

I know from bitter experience the pain and anguish that can be caused by a) not conceiving and b) seemingly everyone around you does conceive incredibly easily.

I know it has been done to death but I can only echo everyone else and say that the best thing to do is to relax and try to make love rather than make a baby .

BTW it took me 5 years to realise there was some sense in that advise

Good luck, just enjoy being with the man of your dreams

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