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AIBU?

to feel hurt that SIL WAS going to announce pg on my wedding day?

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mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 16:36

She didnt- but only because BM was suddenly rushed to hosp with an ectopic the night before the wedding!!

She told us on xmas eve that she is pg- which is great, its their 1st child and we cant wait to have a little addition to the family- but then she mentioned that she was going to announce it at the wedding until the drama with my BM.

This just left a bad taste in my mouth, our wedding day should not be a day for people to make announcements without us knowing. I'm glad she didnt do it. but the fact she was even considering it makes me feel a bit sad really

Well..............am I??????

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JeremyVile · 30/12/2007 17:22

SIL is clearly lacking in certain social skills - you are not being remotely Bridezilla about this.

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LittleSleighBellasRinging · 30/12/2007 17:22

I think you both sound nuts

her for wanting to upstage a bride, you for thinking it matters

Sorry.

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mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 17:23

oooh thank god its getting light hearted!!

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lapiNewYear · 30/12/2007 17:23

JV! How the devil are you? Come and help me move Hunker's sideboard to a less propitious angle!

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holidaywonk · 30/12/2007 17:23

(God, JV, I've been worried about you. Have you made FIL into a frittata yet?)

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mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 17:23

We are nuts. ta.

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mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 17:24

JV- thank you.

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BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 30/12/2007 17:24

How long ago did you get married ??

And why didn't you tackle her at the time??

People sweep stuff under the carpet until there is such a huge pile ,they spend the rest of their life tripping over it and not mentioning it.

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lapiNewYear · 30/12/2007 17:25

We are ALL bonkers for getting married and/or having children, if you ask me. I think the two sure fire ways to make cash are a) any business with the word "wedding" in the name, and b) ditto "children"

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hunkermunker · 30/12/2007 17:26

Oi, hands off my sideboard!

I don't have a sideboard. Rearrange away - you're in someone else's house, Lapin!

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mm22bys · 30/12/2007 17:26

We found out my SIL was pregnant with her second child on our wedding day...

I don't recall how I felt - I don't think I felt like she had stolen our thunder, in fact we probably stole hers - we had been engaged for about a month before we told our families (long story which I won't go into here), and told them the day our (first) nephew was born.

I don't think anybody was hurt...

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mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 17:26

She got married 6 months ago.

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claraenglish · 30/12/2007 17:26

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VictorianSqualor · 30/12/2007 17:26

AIBU in thinking my SIL could've at least asked me how I felt about her announcing her pregnancy at my wedding rather than planning to get her DH/the bestman to slip it into the speech.

No, you're not.

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hunkermunker · 30/12/2007 17:26

Yes, LGJ has a good point - did you say, "Ooh, glad you didn't, that would've been a bit rude!" to her when she told you of her plan? Or did you seethe, silently?

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BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 30/12/2007 17:27

How long ago did you get married ??

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claraenglish · 30/12/2007 17:27

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melinda · 30/12/2007 17:27

I think announcing your pregnancy at all is weird. I think announcing it in a speech at someone else's wedding to someone else's friends is really weird.
Yes, I would have been severely hacked off. It is attention seeking to the max. The OP is not being unreasonable to be pissed off.
But I'm glad it didn't happen. She was probably crazed and hormonal at the time and now cringes at the thought.

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JeremyVile · 30/12/2007 17:29

Hey PW and Lapin. My, what a lovely welcome!

(FIL is unharmed but has died a thousand deaths in my dreams.....)

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mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 17:29

Oh sorry- the wedding was 4 weeks ago.

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mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 17:32

I wasnt immediatly cross- and am not cross now, just feel a bit funny about it, bit put out. didnt say at the time cos they had just announced happy news and did not want to spoil that.

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lapiNewYear · 30/12/2007 17:32

JV - hunker is an oik of monuMENTAL proportions, she doesn't have a sideboard

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BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 30/12/2007 17:33

In that case, I would sit her down with a glass of wine for you and elderflower for her and say..........I/We have been thinking and we think it would have been jolly bad show of you and your DH to use his BestMans speech to announce your news at our wedding.

We would have been happy for you to tell people, but come on a speech... were they all out of sky writing planes the day you called ??

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Emprexia · 30/12/2007 17:33

FWIW Mummy2Olivia, i think i'd have been a bit miffed if that had happened to me.

But then i decided not to attend my BFF's wedding because it was the week of my EDD and didn't want people supposed to be focusing on her and her new hubby to be giving me attention... not that it mattered as DS came early and i only came out of hospital the day before she got married.

Wether people think its Bridezilla-ish or not, the wedding is about the newly married couple and the celebration of their union and to use (or even threaten to use) the family gathering as a platform to make your own announcements is incredibly bad manners.

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Emprexia · 30/12/2007 17:33

FWIW Mummy2Olivia, i think i'd have been a bit miffed if that had happened to me.

But then i decided not to attend my BFF's wedding because it was the week of my EDD and didn't want people supposed to be focusing on her and her new hubby to be giving me attention... not that it mattered as DS came early and i only came out of hospital the day before she got married.

Wether people think its Bridezilla-ish or not, the wedding is about the newly married couple and the celebration of their union and to use (or even threaten to use) the family gathering as a platform to make your own announcements is incredibly bad manners.

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