AIBU?
to feel hurt that SIL WAS going to announce pg on my wedding day?
mummy2olivia · 30/12/2007 16:36
She didnt- but only because BM was suddenly rushed to hosp with an ectopic the night before the wedding!!
She told us on xmas eve that she is pg- which is great, its their 1st child and we cant wait to have a little addition to the family- but then she mentioned that she was going to announce it at the wedding until the drama with my BM.
This just left a bad taste in my mouth, our wedding day should not be a day for people to make announcements without us knowing. I'm glad she didnt do it. but the fact she was even considering it makes me feel a bit sad really
Well..............am I??????
yurt1 · 30/12/2007 16:43
It wouldn't worry me tbh. I don't think everyone would forget the wedding because of a pregnancy announcement (after years of pregnancy announcements I'm only ever interested these days - it's not show stopping- unless I know someone has had particular problems then I'm just very very happy for them). The handy thing about announcing at a wedding (how would she announce presumably she'd just tell people as she saw them, she's hardly going to stop the speeches) is that everyone is there at once and no-one gets in a strop because so and so knew first.
holidaywonk · 30/12/2007 16:50
I can see your point mummy2olivia. I think it's pretty self-involved to announce your own pregnancy at someone else's wedding - the day is so not about you. And I say this as someone who found out that she was pregnant with DS2 the day before a friend's wedding, and kept heroically schtum until not only the wedding but also the honeymoon was over.
GreebosWhiskers · 30/12/2007 16:51
I'd say YANBU because she was going to do it - the reason she didn't was, I assume, to spare your BM's feelings rather than yours.
My ex sil announced she was pg at my hospital bedside when she, bil & ex-h's parents were there visiting just hours after I'd had dd1. bil had always been the favourite son so poor dd1 got pretty much forgotten about in the excitement at their news - that still rankles even now & dd1 is almost 15.
How is your BM btw? I hope she's okay.
yurt1 · 30/12/2007 16:51
I don't get all this pregnancy 'announcement' stuff anyway. FGS thousands of people have babies each year, why does there have to be such a song and dance about telling people? My SIL had to tell her parents and IL's at exactly the same time so had some weirdy situation standing in someones kitchen with a phone so that no-one would get a strop on.
hunkermunker · 30/12/2007 16:53
Was she going to get her own toastmaster to come along and do a "hear ye, hear ye" announcement? If yes, yanbu.
If she was just going to say to relatives and friends that she was expecting her first child, then you are being utterly unreasonable.
Weddings are about family as much as they are about bridezillas.
VictorianSqualor · 30/12/2007 16:53
My x-bil and his wife announced her pregnancy the day my DS was born. I thought it made it extra special.
She just said in the hospital, 'actually we were going to tell you sooner but wanted to check everything was alright with your LO first, but there's a new cousin on the way already.'
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