My best friend’s partner does this and I think it’s so bloody rude! She’ll be upstairs with the kids or doing something and she’ll just hear the door go and he’ll be gone! There hasn’t even been any discussion about where he’s going whether that’s the evening before or the morning of, he just walks out! Even the kids are like “where’s daddy gone?” and she doesn’t have an answer.
It’s really odd I think and a blatant lack of respect. It’s not even about knowing where they are going or for how long as in a control aspect. It’s literally “popping to the shop love, do you need anything?”, “off to work now, see you later.” It’s just curtesy really, isn’t it?
Also when you have kids it isn’t just a given that you can just walk out the house and leave everything to the other parent. It has to be discussed and agreed that it works for both of you or you plan a time when it works better.
Dh went to the gym for an hour this morning. It wasn’t planned but dd and I were having a lazy morning in bed, ds has slept out at a friends and he suggested going to the gym, no problem, he got ready, said see you in an hour and off he went.
Both our kids have disabilities so we may have a different set up but we can’t just leave without saying anything. If one of us needs help with something or a “can you just keep an eye on them while I quickly do this?” Etc but leaving unannounced, no way, so rude and I wouldn’t be accepting of it. What if you just walked out and went awol?!
I’d be really pissed off OP. And what about your free time? Do you get any? And to do it when his parents are coming over at his arrangement! No way! Whether you like them or not, I think that’s just rude, to both his parents and to you.