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[Imyourvenus]

Heres mine;

You must love MIL even if she is a bitch toad from hell

You must never say anything negative about anyone on benefits

Admitting to having no friends

Every 3rd person is NC with their family

Having a nanny

I’m sure I have more

‘Hatred and resentment’ for people who live rurally. 😂

The reality is there are a number of stories of women who’ve moved out to the sticks, with scant public transport, who don’t drive, who report difficulty with basics - shopping, getting the kids to school etc. They may have some medical emergency for them or one of the kids and are 30 miles from a hospital and can’t afford a cab fare.

One wonders whether they actually thought it through…

[quote Trippingslippingx1]@DrSbaitso I work as a specialist in relationships - the majority of men (99.9%) never leave unless they have had a replacement lined up and in the bag for at least 6-12 months before formally exciting a relationship.[/quote]
This doesn't surprise me.

I don't mean that as a slight on men. I've just noticed that most of the men I've known in any capacity are terrible at being single, whether that's by relationship breakdown or bereavement, and I don't know a single one who left his long term partner without another pair of arms waiting. I'm talking all age groups here. Women, on the other hand, seem far more likely to end a relationship to be single. I know a few who left for someone else, but plenty who left for nobody, preferring that.

I think the tsunami of porn, in whatever forms it's always taken including classical art, is a sign of this. Sure, a lot of men are horny, but a lot are lonely.

Being disgusted if a guest uses the bathroom bin to throw away a tampon

I work as a specialist in relationships - the majority of men (99.9%) never leave unless they have had a replacement lined up and in the bag for at least 6-12 months before formally exciting a relationship.

What is a 'specialist in relationships' ?

And, is there some kind of study you can link to that supports the assertion that 99.9% if men will not leave a relationship unless they have a replacement lined up.

Being a total arsehole about tradespeople using your loo

On any thread about universities using contextual data, everyone who has been to Oxbridge grew up homeless, with no parents, wandering around the edge of a sink estate and no shoes. They weren't able to read or write, but none of this had any bearing on their application. Everyone goes to great lengths to show they had zero privilege whatsoever, and they still got in easily.

Woodburners and open fires are in fact the fires of hell. I have never met anyone in RL (I live semi-rurally) that doesn't love a fire or try to bagsy the table nearest to one in the pub.

This one, we've always had an open fire of some kind, I struggle with the cold and never feel properly warm without one. Although we've also never lived anywhere with gas, which probably doesn't help.
I've never met anyone who doesn't like a real fire, but in MN there are people who won't take their child into a pub that has a fire. If it's properly maintained and drawing well, there shouldn't be an issue.

@Mollymalone11

Turning down wedding invites that had the audacity to not invite their precious offspring. Having zero time or inclination to put themselves out to attend someone they apparently likes wedding.

Turning them down on that basis is fine. To think otherwise is the nth degree of entitlement.

What's not fine: approaching the bride and groom with pleas for exemption, claiming you're going to bring the child anyway no matter what they say, or having a volcanic tantrum because someone's turned down an invitation on the basis that the exemption is making attendance too difficult for them.

Some people must spend one hell of a lot of their lives being annoyed. It's also entertaining that people think these sorts of attitudes only occur on MN and not 'in real life'. Not true.

The bad news: MN IS real life. Its contributors (barring the creative writers who can be spotted a mile off in any case) are you and me.

I wish the media would pick up on what a horrible and transphobic place it is.

You've just answered your own question. The reason the MSM isn't picking up on it, is because it isn't.

Conversations about what happens when the rights and interests of two groups of people notably conflict, are not 'transphobia'. Claiming that they don't conflict because the two groups are not in any way distinct - when they clearly are - are denial.

Pointing at any dissenters and shouting 'transphobe!' has been an effective means of shutting down such discussions for a while. But this was never going to work in the medium- to long-term. Why? Try reading 1984, The Testaments, or In the Second Year.

@seekinglondonlife

Everyone lives in social housing and their neighbours are all surgeons, judges, teachers and barristers. Absolutely no anti social behaviour at all. That is the remit of the occupants of the adjacent private, multi million pound housing estate. They are all on benefits, have ASBO's and their dc's rip around on mini motos.

And all social houses are on huge plots with equally huge rooms and are so well built they make Windsor Castle look like a flimsy Barrett box.

Dunno why my post was removed, the quality of moderation on this forum leaves a lot to be desired.

Breathing through your mouth is disparagingly called mouth-breathing and there is something disgusting about you if you do it.

@Snailhaterz2

If you spend more than a couple of minutes in the middle lane on a motorway, you are a dreadful driver, and shouldn't be allowed to drive on said motorway.

To be fair, that's not an MN thing. And it's two SECONDS, not minutes!

People using the term "Karen" (whether discussing why it's wrong or actually using it).

Genuinely, I've never heard anyone use this in real life.

@MarieIVanArkleStinks

I wish the media would pick up on what a horrible and transphobic place it is.

You've just answered your own question. The reason the MSM isn't picking up on it, is because it isn't.

Conversations about what happens when the rights and interests of two groups of people notably conflict, are not 'transphobia'. Claiming that they don't conflict because the two groups are not in any way distinct - when they clearly are - are denial.

Pointing at any dissenters and shouting 'transphobe!' has been an effective means of shutting down such discussions for a while. But this was never going to work in the medium- to long-term. Why? Try reading 1984, The Testaments, or In the Second Year.

I started to realise that I was no longer scared of being accused of being a terrible person and a raging feminist (argh! Not a feminist! Anything but a feminist!) because I've been shut down this way my entire life, as opposed to having an actual rebuttal to what I say. I'm getting to an age now where it's stopped bothering me simply because it's so BORING. These people have actually managed to reach a point where they draw their own sting simply by being absolutely fucking tedious.

I never heard it coming from anyone whose opinion I respected anyway.

As J K Rowling said, what next, they'll say you've got fleas?

I confess I'm not quite ready for the avalanche of threats of rape by cactus and death by grease fire, though. Don't worry, guys, your best soldiers are still fighting that good fight. Shame the magnificent JKR doesn't give a shit about them either, huh? Anti woman? Surely not!

That every possible scenario should initially be dealt with by bending over backwards being a total and utter doormat before you could possibly whisper that someone else might be in the wrong. In my real world mostly people have reasonable boundaries, display fairly adult and normal give and take and compromise but shockingly noone seems to have giant rows when ....God forbid...someone else says no to them.

Also generally not every single person above 50 has dementia which is always the assumption on MN. (Given I've been in health and social care for nearly 25 years ....we would be overrun if MN perspective applied ....well more than the industry actually is of course).

Plus people witter on about the stupidest tiny little reasons for someone being "rude" or "grim". Honestly it my real world experience it's prissy people who are the problem and often heavily mocked I'd they express that someone using a coaster the wrong way is rude.

That was cathartic. Mn can be a remarkably odd place sometimes (in fairness it can also be incredibly supporting and uplifting....when it wants to).

@DillonPanthersTexas

I work as a specialist in relationships - the majority of men (99.9%) never leave unless they have had a replacement lined up and in the bag for at least 6-12 months before formally exciting a relationship.

What is a 'specialist in relationships' ?

And, is there some kind of study you can link to that supports the assertion that 99.9% if men will not leave a relationship unless they have a replacement lined up.

No study at all Entirely anecdotal and based on observations My own opinion only

Your reaction to my statement makes me believe this is not your opinion and you are entirely entitled to it.

@WaterBottle2

That fabric conditioner is pure evil and that neighbours can actually feel and be physical sick from the smell of it when drying your fabric conditioned laundry on the washing line

Literally makes me heave. I can smell it and I can't use my garden when their washing is out. I have ASD and stupid smell sensitivity though!

Breathing through your mouth is disparagingly called mouth-breathing and there is something disgusting about you if you do it.

That isn’t peculiar to MN. “Mouth breather” as a term of disdain is pretty widely used elsewhere and has been for years.

Your child has to go from a cot to a double, so that the parents can lie down next to them to read a book. A single bed and the parent sitting on the bed or a chair next to the bed reading to them needs reporting to social services.

Lord knows how I managed, a single bed throughout childhood and in fact for a few years post leaving home while living in bedsits etc prior to moving in with my bf (now husband.) I knew there was something I could blame my parents for, now I know what it is!

Sleep regression, is it a new thing?

@TatianaBis Yep - I have a friend like this, moved from somewhere fairly central with decentish bus services, okay amenities that were within walking distance, and plenty of taxis, to a village with 2 pubs, a Boots, and a co-op and a posh deli, in the back of beyond in the least densely populated county in northern England; no working train station, and one bus a day to the nearest slightly bigger town, weekdays only; friend doesn't drive, ride a motorbike (or pushbike, come to that) or even ride a horse...

If her partner ever leaves/has anything happen to him, she'll be so isolated. In her case, it's been brewing over years of watching fantasy property programmes like Escape to the Country...every now and then she talks about "moving to the country" and her partner points out that they already LIVE in the country!

Your reaction to my statement makes me believe this is not your opinion and you are entirely entitled to it.

Fair enough, I was just hoping as a 'relationship specialist' (counselor?) you would have access to some kind of data or study to support your position. As you have guessed my anecdotal observations are that plenty of my male friends and acquaintances have left relationships because they were basically unhappy, not because they had their heads turned by an OW.

@DillonPanthersTexas

Your reaction to my statement makes me believe this is not your opinion and you are entirely entitled to it.

Fair enough, I was just hoping as a 'relationship specialist' (counselor?) you would have access to some kind of data or study to support your position. As you have guessed my anecdotal observations are that plenty of my male friends and acquaintances have left relationships because they were basically unhappy, not because they had their heads turned by an OW.

Agree. There must be some intersectionality applied to this data too - 99% is too high to relate to all male-initiated break-ups. I'm assuming this specific percentage applies to a specific set of circumstances - e.g. is unique to marriage/people living together/parents/relationships of certain length.