Petty pils, didn't wait for us, then moaned about fils old tux

[Hisanimalgrace]

Going to an event, we were massively delayed in traffic getting to pils .They couldn't wait for us.
So when we arrived they were leaving and mil clocked our friend in pils old tux which dh had leant him, an old 80s thing.??

Dh served us done drinks by which point fil was calling dh saying if we didn't leave immediately we wouldn't get a space in the car park! When we got to the car park it was half empty.
Mil then questioned dh about the tux friend wearing as she felt it was actually fils old one and that was for dh not to give away.

@ineedsun

Are they H from Line of Duty?

😂

This thread title is irritating. I keep reading it as 'pretty pills'.

@UmbrellasAndToadstools01

This thread title is irritating. I keep reading it as 'pretty pills'.

Which might ALSO explain the posting style, @UmbrellasAndToadstools01

I think after 18 pages and over 400 people feeling her she’s in the wrong the penny has finally dropped 😁

@UmbrellasAndToadstools01

This thread title is irritating. I keep reading it as 'pretty pills'.

I keep reading ‘petty pils’ and ‘fil tux’ and it transforms into ‘petit filous’ in my brain

@CharSiu

This is all a bit Abigail’s party and would make a fabulous play for today, all the older mnetters will know what I mean.

So it is!

That’s a case of “Bernie, the bolt. Up a bit, left a bit - bullseye!”

Another reference for those of a certain age.

We’re still none the wiser in who bought the tickets.

Also, best in future after turning up late to go directly to the venue. That way you can buy a drink and relax. I think the real issue is you, DH and friend expected to be entertained for free.

@Hisanimalgrace

Maybe some posters should start their own threads to thrash out " I can't trust my adult son in my home, he's done nothing out of the ordinary to warrant such distrust, why can't I trust him. I also can't let go of old outdated clothes I've given away. Dh and I will lie and do anything to stop our son being alone in our house. What have we done wrong. "

I don't think it's a lack of trust. It's that you seem to view your PIL's house as a free bar for you to relax in when they are away at an event that you are also supposed to be attending. I would be very worried about your obsession with "pre-drinks" and drinking being needed in order to feel "relaxed". I like alcohol too, but I don't need it or feel entitled to it at someone else's house. Stop going on about trust, it's not about trust, it's about you breaching standard social etiquette and making people feel used and uneasy.

It sounds more like a problem with drink than the P.I.L.
You let yourself into their place when they were hosting and chugged their champers, now you're drinking instead of getting to where you should be because of a traffic jam apparently.
Had the traffic died down by the time you'd done raiding the drinks cabinet? Weren't you worried about getting stuck in it again when trying to get to the venue?
What did tux man have to say about it all?
Cor blimey.

@Hisanimalgrace Is there a back story of problems involving your PIL being difficult about giving you a drink?

Or is there a back story involving other problems between you and them? Did they not want him to marry you? It sounds to me as if your PIL were offering you both some kind of olive branch by inviting you for a drink before you all went out - and were then pissed off when you were late. If they are of the slightly rigid persuasion (is your FIL the type who bulldozes his way around to make sure he gets his own way?), they may well have thought that your late arrival (albeit not deliberate) was a don't care-ish response to their efforts. If they were trying to make some kind of peace offering, they could reasonably be pissed off that your scruffy friend, whom they don't like, was tagging along, wearing FIL's old suit.

The OP’s powers of self-delusion and inability to accept she’s wrong are making me wonder if she is, in fact, the Prime Minister.

@Boood

The OP’s powers of self-delusion and inability to accept she’s wrong are making me wonder if she is, in fact, the Prime Minister.

😂

You sound pissed, or are you always this inarticulate? The garment is a dinner jacket BTW, unless you’re in Vegas.

When I was reading it last night, I assumed the OP was under the influence of something.
It is staggering that she is STILL trying to make out that she is right and the PiLs are somehow odd, and that this is somehow about trusting their sun in her house. The complete lack of self awareness in the first place, and then willingness to listen to anyone of the 450 odd posts all disagreeing with her is just astonishing.

@Sweettruelies think OP is behind the wrong horse thread too given it’s all about her producing grandchildren and not her SIL.

personally am now convinced these are all pitches for a new sitcom, each thread a new episode.

Nice one, @Boood & help yourself to cheese.

I'm wondering if I should ask mn to take this thread down .
I don't mind people commenting on my thread but it feels unethical to start conflating me with other posters, and cross posting threads.

I've been on mn for a long time and whilst this is one of the less serious situations I've posted about, I have actually posted about some deeply upsetting issues.

I'm concerned that some posters may uncover those and then things get linked. I get outed which defeats the point of anonymous forum and there is the risk of any story appearing in the paper's.

In all my years on mn I've never felt any urge or motivation to start trying to discover what someone has posted and I respect their anonymity. I recognise posters all the time?

Mn has been a mostly hugely supportive community on many issues I've had from broken taps, to broken bones and broken families.

I don't mind people having a laugh at my expense on this one but it's a real shame some posters just can't help being utterly vile.

If predrinks were 6-730 and you arrived at 720, you still leave at 730. Basic manners not to forcibly extend it. Their house. they clearly wanted to leave at 730. Of course you dont stay there.

Its equivalent to saying you'll pop over to a friends for coffee at 130, turn up at 230 and when they say they need to leave for school run in 20 minutes say you'll wait in their house for them to come back. THATS NOT WHEN YOU WERE INVITED FOR.

Is it too early to nominate for 2022 thread of the year?

If you were running late why didn’t you just phone them and arrange to meet at the venue rather than make them late too. Is it because you didn’t want to miss out on the free drinks?

I'm right aren't I?
MN. No!
Right, I'm asking MN to take it down because you're not agreeing with me.

@PinkSyCo

If you were running late why didn’t you just phone them and arrange to meet at the venue rather than make them late too. Is it because you didn’t want to miss out on the free drinks?

Because that is the obvious and normal thing to do. But the op wanted a drink, pee and to sort her hair out after sitting in a car.

I can't bear people who make me late. Arriving 50 minutes late and then not showing haste to get to the venue would really stress me out. I am Team Mother-in-law on this one

What do you do if you go on holiday, say to France or similar, and the drive takes a long time (maybe even over an hour!). Do you have to stretch, relax and drink cocktails every 50 minutes? Were all three of you piled into a smart?

Norgie. No.

Because I have as all posters do, the right to anonymity?

What if someone links a thread of mine and I'm truly outed?what's the point of an anonymous forum that's hell bent on outing posters and then revealing them further in the daily mail?